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BF always expects...

109 replies

funkymonkey1234 · 13/08/2017 22:46

Whenever I spend the night with my BF he expects something! Even if I'm not really in the mood he insists on "just a handjob" is this normal??

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funkymonkey1234 · 13/08/2017 23:09

Maybe I should ask him that!

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LolaTheDarkdestroyer · 13/08/2017 23:13

The comment about the ex would have me out the door sorry.

pictish · 13/08/2017 23:14

Bet she didn't.

AnnieAnoniMouse · 13/08/2017 23:15

3 months you've been with this bloke and you don't want to have sex with him when you're in bed together and he wants whatever he can get with a bit of pressure...

Why.Are.You.Still.With.Him? Fgs. Bin him & find someone you do actually fancy & who isn't just insterested in getting his end away at any cost.

Ceto · 13/08/2017 23:15

Simple answer to that reminder: So what?

Or point out that your made-up ex was able to take no for an answer and was a better lover into the bargain.

pinkyredrose · 13/08/2017 23:18

He'll ask a few times then usually remind me his ex used to give him head most nights ShockAngry

He's awful. He doesn't give a shit about you.

ILoveMillhousesDad · 13/08/2017 23:18

Soon as I seen the title of the thread, I thought, I bet her wants her to suck his dick all the time.

I wasn't far off.

What an absolute prick saying 'my ex did this'

I bet she dumped his sad ass too.

Urgh. Please dump him. It's not your 'job' to service him.

AvocadoQueen · 13/08/2017 23:19

Get rid of him. He's disgusting. I don't know how you can want to do anything with sexual him after the ex comments. Don't these comments make you feel shit? They are designed to put you in your place so you become more compliant.

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funkymonkey1234 · 13/08/2017 23:21

Yes they do make me feel bad and I know she did actually used to do it

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VestalVirgin · 13/08/2017 23:22

Dump him.

What a disgusting man.

Categoric · 13/08/2017 23:23

I wonder whether you would want sex more if you didn't dread the pestering when you get into bed. Life is too short for this sort of abusive behaviour. Tell him to go back to his ex.

Butterymuffin · 13/08/2017 23:24

"Why don't you pop round to hers, then?" Seriously, get rid. If he's bullying you and not caring about impressing you three months in, it'll never get any better.

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funkymonkey1234 · 13/08/2017 23:25

Seriously debating sending him screenshots of this thread

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PovertyPain · 13/08/2017 23:27

He probably bullied and manipulated her into performing sex acts him, too. That's probably why he's now her ex.

NoFuckingRoomOnMyBroom · 13/08/2017 23:28

'That's nice, luckily you know where she lives so off you pop, fuckwit' Hmm
No, not normal & deeply unattractive.

AvocadoQueen · 13/08/2017 23:29

I wouldnt bother. He will just tell you we are a bunch of frigid dried up bitter jealous old women

Littlefrogletx · 13/08/2017 23:34

Don't even waste the effort needed to screen shot.
Just end it.
He sounds awful.

Fruitcorner123 · 13/08/2017 23:35

I am really concerned by this thread. How dare he feel he has the right to coerce you in this way. Could you enjoy sex with someone knowing you have pressurised them into it and they didnt actually want to do it with you?

Creepy and horrible. Please walk away.

BertieBotts · 13/08/2017 23:40

Don't send him screenshots, he will probably claim MN are a bunch of sexist harpies who hate men.

You do know that sex is supposed to be something that is enjoyable for you? Not just revolving around the man's orgasm.

Raise your standards. Life is much better in so many ways when you do.

AnyFucker · 13/08/2017 23:43

Tell him to fuck off back to his ex then

frieda909 · 13/08/2017 23:48

He's awful.

Only 3 months, you say? Cut your losses now and never look back.

flamencia · 13/08/2017 23:48

So when you don't want to engage in sex with a mutually pleasurable outcome, he thinks you'll be in the mood to engage in sex with no pleasurable outcome for you? There's literally nothing in it for you.

PatriciaHolm · 13/08/2017 23:48

Tell him to buy a sex doll, he clearly doesn't want a functioning human with her own minds and desires.

He sounds horrible. 3 months in? Dump!

LoyaltyAndLobster · 13/08/2017 23:50

No it is not normal, and yes please do send him some screenshots.

nocoolnamesleft · 13/08/2017 23:50

Badgering people into sexual acts is neither sexy, nor the act of a good man.

How would he react if you said "Nah, isn't it your turn to go down on me. My ex used to go down on me all the time, and you never do!"

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