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To have used their parking space?

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rainontheflowers · 13/08/2017 19:50

Outside of our back garden we have one parking space, and our next door neighbour has two. Our neighbour is a woman who lives alone, and her boyfriend visits a few times a week and uses her car. There is never a car in her second space. We have two cars - my husband uses our space and I park my car around the corner.

We are moving tomorrow, so a few times over this past few days when taking smaller items over, we have parked my car in her spare space for easier loading. We've done this three times, and it's never been for longer than 10 minutes. The other day after we had done this, I noticed that her car was purposely parked in the middle of the spaces. I mentioned to my husband I think they were annoyed with us (more so the boyfriend I imagine as he isn't a nice man), but my husband still wanted us to do the same today quickly. When we got home I found a cigarette in our garden - we have high fences and the only way for a cigarette to get into our garden is if it was thrown over. I also know our neighbours boyfriend smokes, so I'm pretty sure it was him.

I'm really annoyed especially as we have a one year old who puts everything in her mouth. Looking back we probably should have asked her permission first, but to be honest we didn't think it was a big deal. We've always been considerate and friendly neighbours, while they have lots of loud parties and always seem to be having massive arguments, so I hardly think we're the bad neighbours. I'm just glad we're moving tomorrow.

Aibu?

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Pengggwn · 13/08/2017 19:51

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dementedpixie · 13/08/2017 19:51

If it is their space then it would have been neighbourly to ask permission target than just park there

Elphame · 13/08/2017 19:52

I'd be annoyed in her place too.

If you'd just been polite enough to have asked her first she'd have probably said yes.

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rainontheflowers · 13/08/2017 19:53

I would have asked permission, but to be honest I'm quite scared of her boyfriend. We didn't think it was a big deal as they have used our space before.

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somewhereovertherain · 13/08/2017 19:53

Maybe you should have asked before using it.

candypanda283 · 13/08/2017 19:53

I think maybe you were being U, as you didn't know she wasnt having visitors over. You could have just asked.

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rainontheflowers · 13/08/2017 19:55

The second space has never once been used in all the time we've lived here. I see that we should have asked though, I just didn't think it was a big deal for 10 minutes.

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ittakes2 · 13/08/2017 19:55

I just would have asked. Still think you should if you intend to do it again. She owns the bay and it's a bit disrespectful of you to decide she doesn't need it and it's therefore ok for you to use it.

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rainontheflowers · 13/08/2017 19:57

I guess that it just wouldn't bother us in the slightest, I didn't think it would bother others.

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Giraffey1 · 13/08/2017 19:57

Why didn't you just ask her first?

Sparklesocks · 13/08/2017 19:58

I think you should've asked her first, it's probably the fact you did it without asking they're objecting to rather than you using the space to move

HunterHearstHelmsley · 13/08/2017 19:59

Maybe they don't mind if there's cigarette butts in their garden so thought others wouldn't either.

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rainontheflowers · 13/08/2017 19:59

As I said I didn't ask as her boyfriend is often there, and I'm quite scared of him. I could have asked Dh to ask though.

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AnnMeredithPerkins · 13/08/2017 20:00

you're moving tomorrow, stop over thinking

Pengggwn · 13/08/2017 20:01

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Genghi · 13/08/2017 20:01

If you didn't want to ask because of her boyfriend then you shouldn't have used the space. It's not your neighbours problem.

Genghi · 13/08/2017 20:02

Going forwards, never use someone's driveway or parking space without their permission. Ever.

Pantryboy · 13/08/2017 20:02

I think yabu op you should have asked , good job you are moving Good luck in your new home

Saysomething88 · 13/08/2017 20:02

If my neighbour had done this for the time you state, it really wouldn't have bothered me. I would just assume you needed to park close by and it was for a valid reason.
Oh well, you're moving so don't worry and just remember to ask next time

mineofuselessinformation · 13/08/2017 20:06

YWBU.
If you have any need to use her space, you should ask first.

Alpacaandgo · 13/08/2017 20:08

If it's never used she's just being petty. Yes you should really have asked but anyone that gets annoyed at someone using a parking space they never use for a few minutes to load the car is a bit on the odd side.

Ameliablue · 13/08/2017 20:08

If you didn't want to ask because boyfriend isn't nice, is it really any surprise that they have taken exception to it?

MovingOnUpMovingOnOut · 13/08/2017 20:09

Where are your manners? Of course you ask.

Scared of her boyfriend? Wtf? Are you 5?

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rainontheflowers · 13/08/2017 20:10

movingon he is very intimidating and verbally abusive, so yes I am scared of him.

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