To have used their parking space?

[rainontheflowers]

Outside of our back garden we have one parking space, and our next door neighbour has two. Our neighbour is a woman who lives alone, and her boyfriend visits a few times a week and uses her car. There is never a car in her second space. We have two cars - my husband uses our space and I park my car around the corner.

We are moving tomorrow, so a few times over this past few days when taking smaller items over, we have parked my car in her spare space for easier loading. We've done this three times, and it's never been for longer than 10 minutes. The other day after we had done this, I noticed that her car was purposely parked in the middle of the spaces. I mentioned to my husband I think they were annoyed with us (more so the boyfriend I imagine as he isn't a nice man), but my husband still wanted us to do the same today quickly. When we got home I found a cigarette in our garden - we have high fences and the only way for a cigarette to get into our garden is if it was thrown over. I also know our neighbours boyfriend smokes, so I'm pretty sure it was him.

I'm really annoyed especially as we have a one year old who puts everything in her mouth. Looking back we probably should have asked her permission first, but to be honest we didn't think it was a big deal. We've always been considerate and friendly neighbours, while they have lots of loud parties and always seem to be having massive arguments, so I hardly think we're the bad neighbours. I'm just glad we're moving tomorrow.

Aibu?

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Agreed, Mrsdesiree, that's seriously poor form on the husband's part getting OP to ask the boyfriend and continuing to park there considering the history.

It probably wouldn't have been a big deal the first time. But then you did it twice more - all without saying a word to her. No wonder she got s bit annoyed.

As I said we didn't think it was a big deal, it wasn't some big planned out thing. My husband moved my car around the first time and the car wasn't there, he moved it around the second time, again the car happened to not be there. The third time (when I didn't think we should do it), it was.

Well they are currently having another loud argument which should continue until about 3am, but yes we are much worse.

As I said, we won't do it again. Dh agrees we should have asked, but thinks the cigarette was unnecessary.

I think OP is getting a hard time. On my street, we park on eachother's drives in an emergency without asking each other, especially when there's been a wedding or a death or when there's a skip. No one takes the piss, and it sounds like OP was only on the space for 10 minutes each time.

Also, neighbour has parked in OP's space.

My comment about their constant arguing was just a reaction to someone saying they'll be glad to be rid of us, when really (apart from this clearly) we are much better neighbours.

Look I haven't argued that I was right, and I've listened and accepted we were in the wrong. Yes it still isn't a big deal to me or dh, but we won't do it again.

Also I have mentioned upthread that they have used our space a few times (easier to park in if just popping into the house). As they have done it themselves, I don't see why it bothered them when we did that's all.

Lol you clearly haven't ready the CFN parking threads on here recently!if course you were being U. Just ask next time!

As I said they have done it before too without asking, so I didn't think it was a big deal when we did. I won't do it again!

Youre moving tomorrow! Why are you even giving this head space?! It's a complete non event considering you won't even be neighbours tomorrow.

I can't help it - I overthink everything! Dh was annoyed about the cigarette, and just shrugged "oh we won't do it again", whereas o might still think about this and feel guilty in five years.

I might*

It might have been your NDN (woman) who used your space but the NDN Boyfriend who took umbrage at you using hers/theirs . Maybe he feels he should protect her space (because obviously she cannot IHO)

I wondered that too 70isa. Nevermind, I need to stop thinking about it and finish packing!

YABU

How can you possibly have not read a MN parking thread? They're like the Hunger Games of MN. Virtual bloodshed, (wo)man made barriers, wheel thieves, penguin bollards, rugby teams. Parking threads are where it's all going down.

I clearly didn't realise what I was missing out on! Not as boring as I thought then.

Yanbu and best of luck with your move xx