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AIBU?

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Original poster

To have used their parking space?

94 replies

rainontheflowers · 13/08/2017 19:50

Outside of our back garden we have one parking space, and our next door neighbour has two. Our neighbour is a woman who lives alone, and her boyfriend visits a few times a week and uses her car. There is never a car in her second space. We have two cars - my husband uses our space and I park my car around the corner.

We are moving tomorrow, so a few times over this past few days when taking smaller items over, we have parked my car in her spare space for easier loading. We've done this three times, and it's never been for longer than 10 minutes. The other day after we had done this, I noticed that her car was purposely parked in the middle of the spaces. I mentioned to my husband I think they were annoyed with us (more so the boyfriend I imagine as he isn't a nice man), but my husband still wanted us to do the same today quickly. When we got home I found a cigarette in our garden - we have high fences and the only way for a cigarette to get into our garden is if it was thrown over. I also know our neighbours boyfriend smokes, so I'm pretty sure it was him.

I'm really annoyed especially as we have a one year old who puts everything in her mouth. Looking back we probably should have asked her permission first, but to be honest we didn't think it was a big deal. We've always been considerate and friendly neighbours, while they have lots of loud parties and always seem to be having massive arguments, so I hardly think we're the bad neighbours. I'm just glad we're moving tomorrow.

Aibu?

OP posts:
LailasMummyx · 13/08/2017 20:23

OP - I would of parked in the space without asking especially if he is rude and intimidating!! And I think most of the people on here saying they wouldn't actually would Hmm

AnnMeredithPerkins · 13/08/2017 20:24

I've never read a parking thread here before, are you for real???? you've never read a parking thread on mumsnet???

Original poster
rainontheflowers · 13/08/2017 20:24

Do I need to make a diagram? Never been on a parking thread before but don't think I ever will.

OP posts:
SpongeBobJudgeyPants · 13/08/2017 20:24

Boundaries OP, innit.

SurferRona · 13/08/2017 20:25

Rain, have you ever read ANY of the parking threads on Mummsne before? Grin

scottishdiem · 13/08/2017 20:26

Well I won't do it again, I just didn't realise it would ever annoy anyone that's all.

Um, you have seen the parking threads here right...........

Original poster
rainontheflowers · 13/08/2017 20:26

No I haven't, I always thought they looked boring. I didn't realise people were so passionate about it.

OP posts:
scottishdiem · 13/08/2017 20:26

SurferRona

Dammit - x-post!

ChardonnaysPrettySister · 13/08/2017 20:27

Why do you need a diagram Pancakes?
Two spaces, one taken by OP, not hard to imagine.

OP, YABU.

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 13/08/2017 20:27

19:53 they've used our space before.....

why would they have needed to use your space when they have 2 spaces/ 1 car?

SheSaidHeSaid · 13/08/2017 20:27

I always thought they looked boring

Say what now?! Shock

youaredeluded · 13/08/2017 20:28

YABU and entitlied. Also parking threads are the best bit of AIBU... how did you miss them?!?

YouRat · 13/08/2017 20:28

Oh ffs it's for 10 min now and again. If she or the boyfriend had an issue with it. They should have come to you OP and asked not to park their anymore. Not throw cigarettes in their garden. Oh and OP if you're moving why do you care.

Original poster
rainontheflowers · 13/08/2017 20:28

They have used it when quickly popping into the house, as it's easier to park in dh's parking space.

OP posts:
scottishdiem · 13/08/2017 20:28

ChardonnaysPrettySister

Your sarcasm filter is not working.

ChardonnaysPrettySister · 13/08/2017 20:29

Also, you are intimidated?
You are an adult, presumably. How hard is it to drop in and ask.

Threenme · 13/08/2017 20:29

Who cares you moving out not in!

ChardonnaysPrettySister · 13/08/2017 20:29

I think the diagram is the new lighthearted.

Original poster
rainontheflowers · 13/08/2017 20:30

Not to make a random and uncessesary sob story - but I have a history of abuse and deal with anxiety, so that's why I didn't ask. I should have asked Dh to though.

OP posts:
StaplesCorner · 13/08/2017 20:31

You've never read a parking thread here before? Is this some sort of wind up? Hmm

Anecdoche · 13/08/2017 20:34

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

MrsDesireeCarthorse · 13/08/2017 20:35

ha ha ha, this is such crap. You knew damned well it was cheeky and just hoped she wouldn't see you rather than spend 2 minutes asking if it was ok.

Your husband continuing after she showed she was annoyed was just dickish. How come HE decided that but YOU would have had to ask the boyfriend?

total bollocks.

londonrach · 13/08/2017 20:36

Yabu and vvvv rude and selfsh but you know that op. Dont use her space.

Good thing you moving. Your poor neighbour.

MrsDesireeCarthorse · 13/08/2017 20:37

I have a history of abuse and deal with anxiety,

so why would your husband leave it to you to ask the nasty boyfriend?

viques · 13/08/2017 20:40

Of course you should have explained and asked. To say you are scared of her boyfriend is pathetic, and no excuse at all.

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