To have used their parking space?

[rainontheflowers]

Outside of our back garden we have one parking space, and our next door neighbour has two. Our neighbour is a woman who lives alone, and her boyfriend visits a few times a week and uses her car. There is never a car in her second space. We have two cars - my husband uses our space and I park my car around the corner.

We are moving tomorrow, so a few times over this past few days when taking smaller items over, we have parked my car in her spare space for easier loading. We've done this three times, and it's never been for longer than 10 minutes. The other day after we had done this, I noticed that her car was purposely parked in the middle of the spaces. I mentioned to my husband I think they were annoyed with us (more so the boyfriend I imagine as he isn't a nice man), but my husband still wanted us to do the same today quickly. When we got home I found a cigarette in our garden - we have high fences and the only way for a cigarette to get into our garden is if it was thrown over. I also know our neighbours boyfriend smokes, so I'm pretty sure it was him.

I'm really annoyed especially as we have a one year old who puts everything in her mouth. Looking back we probably should have asked her permission first, but to be honest we didn't think it was a big deal. We've always been considerate and friendly neighbours, while they have lots of loud parties and always seem to be having massive arguments, so I hardly think we're the bad neighbours. I'm just glad we're moving tomorrow.

Aibu?

I never use my drive or my small frying pan or my wedding dress or my old slow cooker... doesn't mean my neighbours can just help themselves

Then don't park on the drive without permission you dingbat!

Looking back we probably should have asked her permission first, but to be honest we didn't think it was a big deal

'Looking back' it's not years of hindsight that made you rethink, it's that you've pissed them off and dealing with repercussions. So you still haven't really learned why it was wrong.

Okay I've only asked a question and listened to the replies, there's no need to be rude.

I k ow if I'm scared of someone i would rather steal from them than politely ask permission.

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As I said I didn't ask as her boyfriend is often there, and I'm quite scared of him

If you were genuinely scared of the boyfriend, you wouldn't have used the space without asking. Especially when he was there.

Well I won't do it again, I just didn't realise it would ever annoy anyone that's all.

Yh people are weird about space, I get on well with my neighbours but if anyone parks outside of their house - like our visitors they completely lose their minds with them. Its weird.
Yh you should ask but, hey lesson learned, moving on so...

Why didn't you just block your own car in and leave her property out of it?

Oh come off it. You take something that isn't yours without permission and didn't think they would mind?

Literally unbelievable.

The boyfriend doesn't live there, I just never know if he's over or not. The first two times we did this her car wasn't even there, so we assumed she was out.

There isn't e oh space in front for another car. Okay okay, I won't do it again. Didn't realise it was such a big deal.

It wouldn't have bothered me in the slightest if you did that. You're moving house and it was for 10 minutes on three occasion over the course of a few days. I'd have thought you were strange if you'd asked permission if it was for that tiny amount of time and I never, ever used the space. But that's just me, I guess I'm in a minority.

Enough space*

Whatever you do, don't park in someone else's space when you get to your new home and want to unload, it won't just be these neighbours who don't like it.

Thankfully we have two spaces in our new home! I've never read a parking thread here before, it just didn't occur to me it was a big deal as the space is always empty.

The car just happened not to be there when we first did it. To be honest we probably would have done it even if it was, my point was just that we didn't even think she'd see it. The last time we did it we did see her car there though.

You did realise when he parked across the two spaces though, you knew then they were annoyed but you didn't stop! So you loose the high ground you should have asked and you definitely should have stopped, when you realised they weren't happy!

Where's the obligatory diagram???

I didn't want to park our car there agai after thinking they were annoyed, but Dh did it anyway.