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To not believe what I just heard.... parent/ child space one sorry!!!!

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Freddiesfling · 12/08/2017 23:05

Was at my local Aldi lady earlier this week about to drive off when I heard raised voices.... I looked around to see a mother with a child of around 5/6 shouting at an elderly lady who had parked in a parent/ child space ( there were 3/4 other empty p&c spaces free)... the elderly lady calmly told her that she was awaiting a blue badge and all the disabled spaces were full... the mother than shouted " well that's not my fault" and stormed off... the elderly lady then with some difficulty started walking away....
I got out of my car and asked if she was ok.. she said she was but looked upset.. I asked if there was anything I could do/ help with and she said she was ok! I wished her well and went back to my car really shocked that a mother with a school aged child who had already parked on the parent/child spaces would go out of her way to be so vile...

I later heard from a friend that this mother posted what happened on Facebook ... including her shouting at an elderly lady and was practically applauded for it with a lot of likes and even a few comments like she should have scratched the ladies car... my friend reported the status but Facebook said it didn't violate their standards.

I cannot believe that another person could go out of their way to be so argumentative and lack such empathy.

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MamaMagellanic · 13/08/2017 08:34

Here we go Hmm

I can't RTFT, it's like banging my head against a brick wall. P&C spaces are a goodwill gesture, not the law. Can't believe anyone would begrudge, let alone chastise, an elderly lady parking in a a space closer to a supermarket door. What is wrong with people?

I wish it had been me this woman was bollocking!

swingofthings · 13/08/2017 08:35

This is what happened when people behaviour is reflective of their sense of entitlement. More and more common attitude unfortunately. It's all about' my rights' regardless of circumstances. That is of course when they are not challenged themselves because then, it becomes all about their external circumstances that means everyone should bow to their needs.

Not surprised really, they are full of such people around where I live and the reason why I now only go shopping very early in the morning and I know such people are much less likely to be up and about.

AwaywiththePixies27 · 13/08/2017 08:36

She wouldn't have bollocked you though Mama. You sound like you're more than capable of standing up for yourself.

Orangebird69 · 13/08/2017 08:36

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AwaywiththePixies27 · 13/08/2017 08:37

swingofthings I do this too.

Mainly online shop but if I have to go out I go first thing in the morning. Less entitled knobbers to have to encounter.

MamaMagellanic · 13/08/2017 08:40

You're right Away, I'll change that to I wish I'd been there.

She sounds vile. You don't shout at the elderly. Full stop.

Witsender · 13/08/2017 08:40

Our nearby Sainsbury's has the right idea. P&C far away, but with wide and clear walkways. Under cover, with a trolley drop right there. Disabled spaces right by the doors. You can normally get a p&c space should you want one as there is no distance advantage for nobbers.

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PurpleDaisies · 13/08/2017 08:41

Orange where did you get the idea that all blue badge holders are able to walk? The space is so big so that people can get their WHEELCHAIR out and not have to walk around the supermarket. And if they can walk, it's often difficult and tiring so they can manage less of a distance. FFS.

what would they do if all the BB spaces and p&c spaces were legitimately taken up?

Either wait for a space or go home.

MamaMagellanic · 13/08/2017 08:42

Orange, you are a shining example of what is wrong with society today. All those disabled people, managing to do their shopping. What a bunch of smug, luxury parking space taking drains, hey Hmm

AwaywiththePixies27 · 13/08/2017 08:43

someone needs a BB space so they can park nearer the entrance but then are able to walk all the way round a supermarket to do their shopping

Are you actually serious? Hmm

What a crass thing to say!

You know all those arguments about kids needing to be nearer to the store for safety. It's the same for disabled people with severe mobility issues who would rather not have to sprint across a car park to avoid being hurt.

They walk around a supermarket because disabled people need to eat too. Being able to do so doesn't mean they don't need the space. .

2 instances I can think or lately. A blind man who always gets the bus. Comes into our local store and is then guided and helped around the shop by an assistant even though he has an assistance dog. A lady who I often see as she walks her dogs oj crutches on the school run route every morning. Who parked in a disabled bay. Came in the shop and sat down whilst someone else did her shop for her.

ThymeLordIsSpartacus · 13/08/2017 08:44

What a vile post Orange.

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PurpleDaisies · 13/08/2017 08:47

And with all respect to the woman, "I am waiting for my blue badge" wouldn't wash with a parking warden. Anyone could say this and I expect they do.

How lovely. Elderly lady with mobility problems trying to pull a fast one in supermarket car park. Hmm

AwaywiththePixies27 · 13/08/2017 08:48

Going by your logic. The blind man didnt need assistance because he got the bus there, and the woman didnt need the space because she 'walked' all the way around the store' even though you didn't see that she didn't.

That attitude epitomises everything which is wrong with society's attitude towards disabled people. I don't look disabled. I'm able to walk to. For a little while. I went to a country park with my friends and DCs last week. I looked fine and able. Once we'd got over the hill. I was hugging the fence all the way down as the back pain was excruciating. I refuse to get a walking stick yet because I'm a stubborn sod. Just because people do walk doesn't mean they can do repeatedly, and safely without pain.

Coconutspongexo · 13/08/2017 08:48

Why do you have to challenge them? Who do you think you are to challenge someone about parking in a space?

A parking warden wouldn't pull this lady up for parking in a p&c space anyway so that doesn't really matter

Billben · 13/08/2017 08:50

Our nearby Sainsbury's has the right idea. P&C far away, but with wide and clear walkways. Under cover, with a trolley drop right there. Disabled spaces right by the doors. You can normally get a p&c space should you want one as there is no distance advantage for nobbers.

Well, that's a good way of doing it actually.

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Witsender · 13/08/2017 08:53

What right would you have to challenge them? It really isn't rocket science. P&C spaces are a lovely thing to have, but anyone can park there. If you see a elderly lady with reduced mobility, how would it even cross anyone's mind that it is in any way inappropriate for her to park there?

If my mum can't get a suitable space, and has no one with her she goes home. And she easily spends £100 a week too so not sure what relevance that has tbh.

And don't get me started on lifts in fucking shopping centres, we stood for half an hour trying to get in one in West Quay while lazy fuckers and two parent families with a pushchair hopped in one together. No two brain cells to run together when it comes to thinking of others.

Witsender · 13/08/2017 08:54

Orange, maybe they need to park near the doors in order to have the energy to walk around a supermarket? Or because their disability isn't purely physical? Engage brain.

AwaywiththePixies27 · 13/08/2017 08:54

what would they do if all the BB spaces and p&c spaces were legitimately taken up?

My dear late friend hadn't set foot in a supermarket in 25years as she was severely disabled even walking the short distance from the BB space to the door was too much. She couldn't then walk around a supermarket as well. Her husband was also disabled, walked with a walking stick and had to be as close to the door as possible. If there were no spaces they went home.

Coconutspongexo · 13/08/2017 08:55

I think you've missed my point Witsender my exact point is anyone can park there Hmm sorry that you didn't understand that. Hence me asking what right anyone has to challenge someone for parking there..

PigletWasPoohsFriend · 13/08/2017 08:56

If I was childless and with no blue badge yet I had a bad leg for example I would no way be cheeky enough to park in either space and try and justify it.

If I was the type of parent that shouted at or thought it was wrong that someone with a disability for using a p&c space I'd be taking a good hard look at myself in the mirror

ThymeLordIsSpartacus · 13/08/2017 08:57

Maybe they WALK around the supermarket because they need to get their shopping? Maybe it causes a lot of pain to do so. Maybe they are in the house a lot and want the freedom to walk around a supermarket choosing their food like everyone else. Maybe their disability isn't one that affects mobility. Maybe you could engage your brain a tiny bit?