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To not believe what I just heard.... parent/ child space one sorry!!!!

316 replies

Freddiesfling · 12/08/2017 23:05

Was at my local Aldi lady earlier this week about to drive off when I heard raised voices.... I looked around to see a mother with a child of around 5/6 shouting at an elderly lady who had parked in a parent/ child space ( there were 3/4 other empty p&c spaces free)... the elderly lady calmly told her that she was awaiting a blue badge and all the disabled spaces were full... the mother than shouted " well that's not my fault" and stormed off... the elderly lady then with some difficulty started walking away....
I got out of my car and asked if she was ok.. she said she was but looked upset.. I asked if there was anything I could do/ help with and she said she was ok! I wished her well and went back to my car really shocked that a mother with a school aged child who had already parked on the parent/child spaces would go out of her way to be so vile...

I later heard from a friend that this mother posted what happened on Facebook ... including her shouting at an elderly lady and was practically applauded for it with a lot of likes and even a few comments like she should have scratched the ladies car... my friend reported the status but Facebook said it didn't violate their standards.

I cannot believe that another person could go out of their way to be so argumentative and lack such empathy.

OP posts:
Abbylee · 15/08/2017 03:48

I had pneumonia and I parked in the pregnancy parking space at the library when I brought my children to story time. Too many people judge from the pedestal of blessed good health. Maybe be thankful for you and your family's good health and let what is to you an annoyance and to others is crucial to taking care of family members punishment to authorities? I look healthy but have a chronic illness I am sure that people think that I am cheating. Please consider the possibility that you do not have the whole story.

FrancisCrawford · 15/08/2017 05:46

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

whatsthecomingoverthehill · 15/08/2017 07:28

Orange, given you're disablist post on this thread you're being rather hypocritical. People hate P&C because of attitudes like yours, not because they exist at all.

Madwoman5 · 15/08/2017 08:06

Some people are vile. Those that backed her up are just as vile. Self entitled mare. School age kids do not need p & c spaces. Tesco used to define age limit of five for a reason.

Orangebird69 · 15/08/2017 08:47

Eh? So now you do recognise there is vitriol for p&c spaces and it's my fault because I'm disablist? Brilliant cop out whatsthe. 🙄

AwaywiththePixies27 · 15/08/2017 08:50

abuse was hurled at me I parked in a disabled space as there were no child spaces in Aldi aswell! the spaces are so tight I can't get my baby car seat out in the normal spaces, some old lady hurled abuse at me asking if I was thick and can I read there were 2 other disabled parking spaces free

You parked in a BB space becazue there were no P&C spaces free? Confused 2 other BB spaces being free are irrelevant. Don't park there if you don't have a valid badge.

AwaywiththePixies27 · 15/08/2017 08:51

*because

AwaywiththePixies27 · 15/08/2017 08:54

I also get annoyed when lazy fuckers with teenagers STILL park in parent and child places. I'm sure the disabled lady in OP was genuine but I know of at least two people (one Porsche 911 owner, the other a Merc SLK owner) who's disabled relatives are in care homes but they have a disabled badge on behalf of the relative (who they visit at their convenience on a weekend) reaping the benefits of a disabled badge to prevent their cars getting scratched!

  1. You have no idea if those teenagers are SENs.
  1. People in care homes are allowed out you know. It's not prison. Hmm

What an ignorant post.

Sirzy · 15/08/2017 08:57

Any vitriol isn't aimed at the spaces. It is aimed at those people who have a sense of helplessness and can't possibly park without a p and c space, it is aimed at those who abuse others for parking there, it is aimed at those who think p and c spaces are in any way comparable to disabled spaces and more than anything it is aimed at those who think that they can use a disabled space just because they have a child!

Need20yearsofsleep · 15/08/2017 09:00

I always see elderly people parking in the parent and child spaces in our aldi cos there are people who are not disabled ( have no badge and like early 20s running into the shop) parking in them cos they're lazy sods who can't be arsed parking 2 more bloody feet away. I mostly don't bother using the parent and child spaces myself cos they're normally all taken so don't even bother looking and just park a bit to one side of the space so I know i have room to get ds in and out. Yanbu people are dicks

AwaywiththePixies27 · 15/08/2017 09:01

Taxis on the other hand are a whole other story...

Why? Confused

Coconutspongexo · 15/08/2017 09:07

I'm confused by why the type of car parked in the BB space matters? If you're disabled are you only allowed a certain type of car Hmm

whatsthecomingoverthehill · 15/08/2017 09:31

Orange, I've been entirely consistent. To spell it out again: it is not the spaces per se that are the problem but the attitudes of some people who use them. This is clearly exemplified by you (and others) on this thread.

CarolinePenvenen · 15/08/2017 09:35

I really hate these threads. They provoke such hatred for mothers who, generally are just trying to get on with their lives. I see it on every Internet forum now, mothers are so demonised.

What you actually saw was a very nasty selfish woman having a go at someone else. The fact that she was a mother has bugger all to do with it. I’m a mother and I wouldn’t have batted an eyelid, neither would most people I’ll bet. You can be a twat with or without a child.

Orangebird69 · 15/08/2017 09:43

Indeed Caroline.

PigletWasPoohsFriend · 15/08/2017 09:44

The fact that she was a mother has bugger all to do with it. I’m a mother and I wouldn’t have batted an eyelid, neither would most people I’ll bet. You can be a twat with or without a child.

Confused

No one has argued or said anything different.

PigletWasPoohsFriend · 15/08/2017 09:46

P&C spaces certainly aren't a necessity. But they do make one necessary but often quite stressful aspect of life a bit easier.

Yet for those with a disability, disabled spaces are a necessity. Hence why there are laws about them.

Orangebird69 · 15/08/2017 09:52

I know piglet. I've never said otherwise. I've also never parked in a BB space without the appropriate badge and passenger, and I've never harangued anyone for parking in a P&C space without a child for any reason. I also don't think the world owes me a favour for 'breeding'. I think that covers it?

whatsthecomingoverthehill · 15/08/2017 10:19

You missed the bit about doubting why someone needs a BB if they are able to walk around a supermarket.

Orangebird69 · 15/08/2017 10:22

I didn't have doubts, I asked a question. Someone have me a civil answer. Some screamed disablist. Can't please everybody.

whatsthecomingoverthehill · 15/08/2017 10:27

Oh yes, just a simple question. You still don't get it at all. Why should people with disabilities have to justify themselves to you?

Thankfully MNHQ could see it for what it was.

Orangebird69 · 15/08/2017 10:31

whatsthe you read posts, construe them as you want and then post insults. Why?

whatsthecomingoverthehill · 15/08/2017 10:35

Nice try in making it about me. Your posts were clear as day. Which is why they were deleted.

Orangebird69 · 15/08/2017 10:37

Are you just focusing on that post because you can't pick apart my others fairly?

Desperad0 · 15/08/2017 10:44

why do people think p&c spaces should be at the back of the car park?
Surely the point of them (in addition to being able to open the car door wide enough to get a baby/toddler out) is that you don't have to carry a baby while trying to hold on to a toddler across a busy car park and avoid all the cars reversing out without looking?!
I seriously think all the angst on here comes from people that have never been to the supermarket with 2 or more small children!