Why are there NO decent men left ....

[FUNM]

Many MN threads advise LTB asap......what happened to Mr Nice, Honest and Reliable!?

What's your ABU? Because there are plenty of nice, honest and reliable men out there.

Loads of decent men around, I'm married to one.

The threads on here will usually be from people in tough relationships because it's pretty boring and smug to post "my dh is lovely and we're happy together". It's not a representative sample.

I know that mine isnt perfect at all, but he is nice honest and reliable.
we have our ups and downs, of course, and i annoy him too , but he is decent, would never hurt a soul and is a good dad.
i am sorry you feel this way - there are nice men out there, honest. I do know a few myself that are okay and worked with many that are just normal men doing the best for their families and loved ones.
has something happened to you? are in a relationship yourself?

I have a very decent very ordinary gentleman friend.

It's relative.

My DH is an absolutely fantastic, kind, loving and generous man. I think I am incredibly lucky.

His ex wife however would not agree. She thinks he's an arse and sincerely wished me luck with him!

Well I'm married to one, and so are many of my friends. I also have a fair few in my extended family.
You're looking in the wrong place!

What's your ABU? Because there are plenty of nice, honest and reliable men out there.

^ this.

My DH is great.

My dh is fab.

And to my dc. .

I'm married to one. My dad and brothers are them too. And most of my friends are married to them or are them. The boards here are very biased. I don't have anything to complain about so I don't start threads.

yup another one with a wonderful dh :)

I don't believe in 'wonderful' men - only in deluded women. There are no 'decent' men left because there was never a decent man to begin with. Which is not to rule out some of them having pleasant qualities.

Chips what the fuck are you getting at?

My partner is a decent man by any standard you care to choose.

There are plenty of decent men about. people tend to be attracted to a type though so women who go out with one arsehole tend to end up with another one unless they tackle what makes them attracted to dicks.

Well chips, you can believe what you want. You're wrong though, and it's a shame you feel that way. Did something bad happen to you?

I dont know what is up with the younger generation if none of them are brought up 'decent' - is it the upbringing?
My PIl's didnt get on at all, but they still managed to bring up a hard working ordinary bloke who treats people with respect and would never hit a woman or being knowingly horrible to anyone. Not to say that he isnt selfish, but most men are I think. its all a matter of give and take.

My DH is honest and reliable and mostly nice but he's not wonderful. He's a human with some fairly large flaws as am I. We do our best to make it work and it mostly does

Maxi, that is interesting about your dh's ex wife.. maybe she just didnt bring out the best in him or something? sometimes people are just with the wrong person.
My inlaws should have divorced in the 1950s, but they struggled on and they were very mis matched and still are ( been married for 67 years!)
she is hard going, i do not know how he put up with her for so long to be honest. relationships do intrigue me.

Well the good, honest reliable men generally get snapped up. I'm married to one. After a few years dating I knew I'd found one of the good ones.

Of course many nice decent men are still around.

People don't come on mumsnet to say how great things are in life with the dp/dh becuase people would come along with faces and moaning it's a stealth boast.

I am another who's married to a very lovely man and I couldn't be happier.

There are some shocking men out there and there are some shocking women, too.

Lots of lovely men out there FUNM......... Some woman are unlucky and my heart goes out to them. However, take lots of what you read on MN with a pinch of salt. Lots of joyless, sexless man hating types here. You don't want to be one of those.

Whereas I disagree with chips. I think most men are decent. Some are hideous. Most people can be selfish at times. Most people can be truly generous at times. If we are fortunate in a partnership we carry each other at times of need, or if or times of need clash, then we have enough energy to at least support each other.

Some men are ireedemable arseholes. Most are just people with flaws like most women. Myself excepted obviously

um, posters saying ''my DH is lovely'' are missing the point. Their husbands aren't available are they?

I have spent two years internet dating and I think there are so many unavailable men out there. There are just so many different types of unavailable. I couldnt have imagined two years ago. I have met men who have no fear of intimacy and grew close to them mistake, I know but they simply would not commit. I've met men who lovebombed me and wanted to pin me down so that they could then decide if they wanted me or not at their leisure. I met a man (who is lovely) but who doesn't have a kitchen . I met a man who has a psychosexual disorder but he rationalises it and intellectualises it and has a massive blindspot that he doesn't see. I know there are good men out there but i think there are so many options out there that even the good ones have no incentive to commit. It's taken me two years to learn all these lessons and I'm 47, I don't really have time to learn all these lessons. Men, no matter how old they are themselves set their search criteria at upper end 45 I think!

There are dickheads in every walk of life and of every colour, creed and gender. DH here is cracking. He's a lovely dad, he's honest, works hard, is cute and is an all-round good man. He pisses me off at times and I can be a total dick sometimes, too, because marriage isn't that happily-ever-after shite peddled to children. Perfect men don't exist but lovely, normal men? They do.

Most people i know who have broken up , its been the woman that has instigated it all or run off with another man, or would just rather be on their own.