Why are there NO decent men left ....

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Many MN threads advise LTB asap......what happened to Mr Nice, Honest and Reliable!?

I think my type is a beta man anyway.

My DH was single for a few years before we met and he's bloody lovely. Some of his friends are single and are thoroughly decent fellas. They're definitely out there.

Maybe but not sure they want me! That is a factor you know!

they are out there/ you just have to wade thru the,mommas boys,(and all other varients of assholes) to get to them.have had 3 myself1 we were just way too young and knew it.#2 died after 24 yrs ##3died after 17
all had thier faults but nothing worth worrying about.
dont try too hard being in love with being in love will just get you the dicks

My DP is absolutely lovely at 52; the best man I know. When I met him at 26 he was a bit of a git though. He was certainly a bit of a git to his exes and ocaisionally tried to be a bit of a git to me. However I always made it clear I wouldn't stand for it.

I'd honestly say he was about 35 before he grew up properly and became genuinely lovely. Before that, I'd say I was mainly with him because I found him so physically attractive and exciting.

I dunno. Different people are good with different people. People mature and change. There are good matches around but it's hard to find them.

Oh and DH and I have a lovely friend, good looking, funny, kind and decent who was single for about ten years. His ex wife cheated in a particularly nasty way and broke his heart. He dated but it never lasted very long.

When he finally found someone she could have been the twin of his evil ex (though hopefully not as evil) in looks and personality. I suppose he was just looking for that sort of person and couldn't be happy with anyone else.

My DH is amazing. We have a wonderful marriage and thankfully the posts on here feel very alien to our relationship. Someone going through hardship is likely to post on an anonymous forum asking for advice about it. Those who are in a better place would be pretty smug to write about it without context. Don't read too much on here and project it onto RL. Every situation is different.

Of course there are decent men. My DH is one. As was my late FIL & my dad. There are also utter bastards and all shades in between. The same as women, actually, because - shock, revelation - men are just human beings too.

My niceness level varies according to what sort of a day I'm having

Easy to be nice when you're having a good day. It's the people who still manage to be nice when they're having a bad time of it that you want to hang on to [smile}

This is true Gabilan. It ain't easy !