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To think Dressing your kids identical a bit tacky?

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Joannearobbo · 09/08/2017 09:00

My friend has a 12 year old and 2 twin boys (not identical) who are 9 and every day dresses them exactly the same.
Everything is the same..tops/socks/jackets etc
I think it's a bit naff...but each to their own I guess.
What do you think?

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SockUnicorn · 05/01/2018 23:08

when my DDs were little I dressed them the same on days out or events. However stopped when they were about 9 and 10. I agree its tacky but I also just think it looks so much smarter and neater.

PoshPenny · 05/01/2018 23:27

I dressed my girls the same, with 13 months between them it was easier to buy the same thing than go hunting for something different. They never minded. We tend to stick to the same kind of colours and styles anyway, so often they would have looked coordinated without making any effort to do so. Indeed the older one was choosing outfits for the two of them from the cupboard from about 3 years old. They are now in their early 20s, appear to be completely normal and insist that they get identical pyjamas from primark as part of their Christmas stocking, then post a photo of them wearing them on Facebook. They don't live together apart from when they are both home at the same time.

Hoick up your judgy pants ladies, I couldn't care less some of you think it's naff, tacky, chavvy whatever. I think they looked beautiful, and it's nobody else's business, just as (for example) I wouldn't normally offer an opinion on parents who allow their young daughters to wear what I consider inappropriate and tacky clothing. Not my kid, not my business, not my place to comment.

TinselatedTree · 05/01/2018 23:37

Why are you surprised? Practically everyone on here is pro school uniform...

user1472334322 · 05/01/2018 23:51

I bought the same t shirts for my ds's yesterday as I knew they'd both like them. Ds2 chose to wear the new one today. I'd bought ds1 a few other t shirts and he'd chosen another one for today, but when he saw his brother was wearing the one they both had he changed his mind and wore the same as his brother.

They don't have any of the same trousers/shorts, only t shirts so never match completely. I like to let them choose what to wear so if they choose to wear the same, it's up to them.

WaxOnFeckOff · 14/01/2018 17:53

I have two boys 13 months apart and I've occasionally had them the same but that's been if it was something like a team rugby shirt and they wouldn't necessarily be wearing the same bottom half.

Sometimes you are dressing for the weather so they will be wearing similar outfits - e.g. jeans and hoody or shorts and t-shirt. But I don't think that counts.

I would however "theme" them quite a lot. e.g one in a blue check shirt with denim shorts and the other in a navy gingham shirt with navy shorts. Or maybe one with a navy t-shirt with a touch or red and the other in a red and white t-shirt and both in jeans.

Winegumaddict · 14/01/2018 17:56

Mine love dressing the same though I can dress them differently and put up with tears of go with the flow. Although DD2 doesn't have an opinion at 1 but her big sister does.

m0therofdragons · 14/01/2018 18:01

I don't get why people give a crap about this. I have ID twins and sometimes they choose to wear the same and other times want to wear different things. Luckily I don't care if anyone thinks it's tacky as I really can't imagine people around me spend time creating an opinion and dtds are happy. Last Christmas all 3 of my dc chose a beautiful dress and wore them. Should I actually say no?

Winifredgoose10 · 14/01/2018 18:06

There are photos of my mum and four year old sister wearing identical clothkits outfits in the early eighties. I find it unbelievable. And very funny.

Leigha3 · 14/01/2018 18:06

I can see it being cute on identical twins before they start school, but older kids...no. I figured most kids preferred to pick out their own clothes sometimes by age 5 or 6?

Bodicea · 14/01/2018 18:10

I can’t get bothered about it. I think it can look cute when they are younger. Not so much at 12.
It must work out expensive though. My friend has three boys under 7 and they often have matching jumpers for their holidays/ Christmas. Not on a daily basis.
Isn’t it just another thing for the middle classes to hate and be snobbish about and look down on heir inferiors.
I haven’t had much of a chance to do it as my kids are boy girl boy. So not quite the same. I am prob to cheap to do it too as the youngest will be mostly in The eldests hand me downs.

Zapdos · 14/01/2018 18:22

My sons are 8 and 5 and often choose the same clothes!

I must remember to dissuade them next time so random Internet strangers don't judge us...

ZoopDragon · 14/01/2018 21:56

I don't think it's tacky. But I would coordinate rather than match.

I think it's odd when couples go to a party/formal event and wear clashing outfits. DH and I always try to coordinate, at least with similar colours or matching his tie to my dress etc.

What's wrong with matching/coordinating?

elbowlicker · 25/02/2018 10:30

I think it's a bit 'naff' to firstly judge your 'friend' for her choices and secondly to humiliate her by holding it up to the public for ridicule. I wish your 'friend' luck and just hope she has a better friend than you.

Fanciedachange1 · 25/02/2018 11:09

My mum used to do this to me and my sister (3 year age gap). There are loads of photos of us at sports days, parties, christenings etc dressed identically!

Now we get our own back if we go out together with my mum we will arrange to dress similarly (we even have similar hair and glasses) so people assume my mum still does it even though we are adults :D

JenniferMargaret · 25/02/2018 11:44

LockedOutOfMN
We live in Spain where this is very, very popular. It's a way of showing that you can afford not to do "hand me downs" and buy 2, 3, 4 or 5 sets of new clothes at once.

I live in Spain and have 7 year old twins. I've never seen this, not in school, parks or activities. The only time I've seen matching outfits on kids is tourists, I guess because they are easier to spot.
I have seen it a lot when we visit England though.
Whereabouts in Spain are all these matching kids?

CatsForgotPassword · 25/02/2018 11:47

It looks stupid in my opinion. I hate it.

LinoleumBlownapart · 25/02/2018 11:55

It's very tacky, I do it sometimes with my two younger boys because sometimes tacky is fun. But lately all they want to wear is football kits, they support the same two teams and lately wanted Paris shirts as well because of Neymer. They co-ordinate kits so thry look the same all the time, not my choice.

iLoveABiccy · 25/02/2018 12:12

I think it's great for safety & being able to spot the kids, i don't think its about the fashion

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 25/02/2018 12:25

I used to sometimes, when dds were aged 1 and 4 up to about 3 and 6. Usually it was because I'd found something so nice for one of them, that it seemed a shame not to buy it for the other.

I also occasionally made summer dresses for them in the same style and material - lovely Liberty print Tana Lawn florals, IIRC. I don't think it was tacky at those ages - I wouldn't have done it when they were older.

BlondeB83 · 25/02/2018 12:31

Awful! Poor kids. Where is their individuality?

LockedOutOfMN · 25/02/2018 12:39

Haven't read the full thread. We live abroad where families are often bigger than British ones. It's very fashionable to dress siblings in matching clothes, especially for special occasions. It shows that you can afford to have all new outfits for your 4,5,6 children as if they're all dressed the same there can be no hand me downs. The matching clothes themselves tend to be very high quality fabrics and tailoring, sometimes bespoke. I guess it's just a backlash to years of financial deprivation.

LockedOutOfMN · 25/02/2018 12:41

JenniferMargaret At church, in restaurants, in the streets, at occasions like family baptisms, first communions, birthday parties, etc.

LassWiADelicateAir · 25/02/2018 12:59

I think it's odd when couples go to a party/formal event and wear clashing outfits. DH and I always try to coordinate, at least with similar colours or matching his tie to my dress etc

I haven't read the whole thread but ^ is possibly the weirdest posts I've read on MN.

I assume somewhere in the thread someone has mentioned how bizarre it looks when couples wear the same clothes (and it is extremely bizarre).

The need to colour co-ordinating to go to a party is something I wouldn't have thought of as a thing even if I had several lifetimes and nothing to think about.

demirose87 · 25/02/2018 13:04

I sometimes dress my 4 and 2 year old the same but not often. I think it looks nice and it's cute. I don't care what other people think about it to be honest. They obviously don't have much going on in their own lives to care so much what a stranger's children are wearing.

CatsForgotPassword · 25/02/2018 13:05

The need to colour co-ordinating to go to a party is something I wouldn't have thought of as a thing

Why? If I’m going to have photos taken I want DP and I to look like we belong together, not that we randomly met in a pub

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