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To think Dressing your kids identical a bit tacky?

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Joannearobbo · 09/08/2017 09:00

My friend has a 12 year old and 2 twin boys (not identical) who are 9 and every day dresses them exactly the same.
Everything is the same..tops/socks/jackets etc
I think it's a bit naff...but each to their own I guess.
What do you think?

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noenergy · 15/08/2017 09:47

That is a bit old to be doing this and esp everyday. I occasionally get DDs the same dress but that's like about twice a year and they are 3 and 7. They mostly choose their own clothes so very surprised that a 9 year old and 12 year old would go along with this.

rightwhine · 15/08/2017 10:05

Most people who have manners would never reveal that they find it tacky so the only opinions that people hear are those that also find it cute or adorable. Which are probably in the minority.

It is hugely tacky but I wouldn't be so rude as to say so in real life.

But not as tacky as the bows baby girls have put in their hair...

rightwhine · 15/08/2017 10:05

Especially if bald...

Ecureuil · 15/08/2017 10:14

It is hugely tacky but I wouldn't be so rude as to say so in real life

I'll make sure to tell my 3 and 2 year old that they're 'tacky' when they choose their outfits in the morning. And impose my own ideas as to how they should dress on them instead.

MrsKoala · 15/08/2017 10:32

Is it still tacky if it's Boden? Or Polarn? Is that a MN paradox?

Ecureuil · 15/08/2017 10:32

(Not really, they couldn't care less if it's tacky or not. They'll do it anyway)

Ecureuil · 15/08/2017 10:33

Is it still tacky if it's Boden? Or Polarn? Is that a MN paradox?

Grin

My two have just appeared in matching Boden dresses! They were a gift.

kel1234 · 15/08/2017 10:36

Rightwhine, finally. Someone else who doesn't like them. I hate them.
My dh thinks small ones are cute, I hate them nearly as much as I hate the big ones. He's determines that if we have a girl she will have the small ones. I'm determined not to let him get them. I hate anything in a baby girls hair before its long enough to need to be tied up. But these daft little tufts sticking up look terrible.
Sorry if that offends.

MrsKoala · 15/08/2017 10:40

I've had to put things in my baby's hair since she was born. She had so much hair no one could believe it. She is 9mo and i am now a regular in Claires. I don't see the point on bald babies tho.

rightwhine · 15/08/2017 11:03

daft little tufts sums it up beautifully.

Mrskoala - not write so bad if there is obviously a need for it.

MrsKoala · 15/08/2017 11:35

Grin at not quite so bad. What's the alternative for a baby with long hair?

rightwhine · 15/08/2017 11:37

Cut it Grin

thehousethatjillbuilt · 15/08/2017 14:03

Ironingmountain

It didn't start with identically matched twins. Of course that would make a sibling feel excluded.

It started with a twin in a tshirt that I had liked so much when DS1 wore it when he was small that I also bought in a couple of bigger sizes for when he was older (not knowing at the time that I would have another child, let alone twins!) He knew he had one in his drawer and wanted to match and then he wanted the other twin to match too. (Lots of scouting eBay and preloved pages!)

I'd like to point out that I don't go out of my way to match them every day. They have matching shorts (but not anything else) at nursery because they were the cheap but okay multipack in Sainsbury's and because the handmedown ones were wrecked. And they have matching tees (and usually non-matching everything else) sometimes. On request. Maybe a couple of times a week.

Lweji · 16/08/2017 12:04

Forget children in identical outfits.

In raise you 3 generations in the same bikini. And covert photo evidence.

To think Dressing your kids identical a bit tacky?
Xmasbaby11 · 16/08/2017 12:07

My daughter's are 3 and 5 and they have a few matching dresses. They choose to wear them at the same time. They love it! They have the same taste.

I probably thought it was tacky before I was a parent. Now I don't care what others think . And yes it does make it easier to find them!

Bluntness100 · 16/08/2017 12:16

Matching outfits are awful at any age. It's never cute. Whether you're five, fifteen or fifty. But agree most people will just say " oh aren't they adorable " or whatever, and seldom say " what are you thinking, that's really tacky".

superbugged · 16/08/2017 13:01

I have ASD and severe anxiety, I dress my same sex DC the same or very similarly (most of the time) for the following reasons;

• it helps when shopping to buy an item x2

• it helps me keep track of who has what, and if things need replacing and organising washing

• it helps to manage my anxiety as I only have to plan one weather suitable outfit and find it x2

• I don't have to worry about one child being dressed more nicely than the other

• it helps me identify my children more easily when we are out and about as I struggle with picking people out of a crowd.

My DC like to be dressed the same, but if it did bother them then I wouldn't force the issue and would adapt, but for now it's a helpful coping strategy.

StarUtopia · 19/08/2017 20:31

Very tacky. I have a friend who does this with her 4 and 3 yr old. Looks bloody ridiculous. It's one thing when it's twins but siblings is just bizarre. I also can't see why any siblings would even want to wear the same? My two have very different styles.

It's all about the Mum trying to show off that they can afford brand new outfits x2 imo. Normal mums would simply relish the opportunity to pass the clothes down to the second child once outgrown.

TriHard27 · 19/08/2017 20:37

I dress mine the same sometimes, around a year age gap. As they are so close in age they are the same size and have similar interests so it's often easier to buy two zebra (for example) tshirts rather than have them argue about which of them wants to wear the zebra tshirt on a particular day. If they ever start to dislike it then I'll stop.

Ecureuil · 19/08/2017 21:08

I also can't see why any siblings would even want to wear the same? My two have very different styles

Mine want to. They're 3 and 2, dress themselves, and choose to wear the same things when they can. Wanna ask them why they want to?

KindergartenKop · 19/08/2017 21:19

Mine are 2 and 5. I do have a few matching sets of T-shirts. I think it's cute and they don't care!

Iwanttobe8stoneagain · 19/08/2017 22:29

It's bloody awful!!!

SpaghettiAndMeatballs · 28/08/2017 17:36

Probably wouldn't do it to twins, but if we are travelling on a plane, I put the same jumper on them (I actually buy special jumpers specifically for this - means that they're easy to spot and describe should we get separated!

motherofmenaces · 28/08/2017 18:16

I have identical 3yr old twins and they chose the same outfit to wear. If one has a spillage then I don't change her sisters top/trousers too.
I find any sort of 'fashion police' tacky. As long as they are clean & comfortable I don't see why it's anyone else's business
The teenage years are going to be interesting that's for sure

enceladus · 08/09/2017 11:06

not a problem, seriously you need to get other things to think about - maybe its just easier for her to buy 2 of everything, maybe they are happy being alike, maybe they would argue over different clothes if they had them, really who cares? I'd hate to have a such a critical friend as you.

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