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Should he have told me his daughter is a twin?

84 replies

LittleGwyneth · 07/08/2017 13:13

I realise MN is not very step parent-friendly, but I'm going ahead anyway.

After a couple of months of a whirlwind romance with a gorgeous, gorgeous man, his daughter came home from summer camp and we finally met. To be honest, she's a bit of a brat. She clearly only wants her dad for herself, and is not open to me being in her life, at all. (She's 11 by the way).

Anyway, things are kind of fine, I made it clear to her that I wasn't going anywhere and just discretely made inquiries about boarding schools.

All fine, until we go to San Fransisco with the whole family for a wedding planning trip. When we're there DSD is acting incredibly erratically, and long story short, it turns out that she's a TWIN.

Apparently, when DH broke up with his first wife, they each took one of the kids. He moved back to California and she stayed in London.

That's weird right? The kids didn't know about each other, and randomly ended up at the same summer camp. Now I get that they didn't want to tell the twins, otherwise they'd have been shuttling them back and forward, but surely if you're going to marry someone, you should tell them that you've actually got two kids, not one? I feel like he's really broken my trust.

I've now got to go on a weekend long camping trip with BOTH of the little shits. Lucky me.

OP posts:
Auspiciouspanda · 07/08/2017 13:14

Parent trap was a shite film.

Magicpaintbrush · 07/08/2017 13:15

parent trap.

NewtScamandersNaughtyNiffler · 07/08/2017 13:15

Just be careful they don't fill your bag with rocks

YouTheCat · 07/08/2017 13:15

It wasn't a very good film to start with.

dudsville · 07/08/2017 13:15

Have you been watching parent trap?

ifcatscouldtalk123 · 07/08/2017 13:15

Prepare to be absolutely slaughtered on this forum! It is not OK to even be a good step mum, let alone a horrible one. Good luck.

Decaffstilltastesweird · 07/08/2017 13:15

You lost me after you called this little girl a brat and made the comment about boarding schools tbh...

Raver84 · 07/08/2017 13:16

Right...

squoosh · 07/08/2017 13:16

Just remember the clack some sticks together to scare the bears away.

Aside from that I think giving a twin to each parent and not telling the twins about each others existence is entirely sensible. Especially if one twin gets to live in a gorgeous house in Kensington and the other a gorgeous ranch in California.

Chillax stepmom wannabe!

DonaldStott · 07/08/2017 13:16

Oh god. One of these threads

Decaffstilltastesweird · 07/08/2017 13:16

Oooooooh is it a Parent Trap related joke? Got me!

LittleGwyneth · 07/08/2017 13:16

@AuspiciousPanda TAKE THAT BACK. Cinematic genius.

OP posts:
Magicpaintbrush · 07/08/2017 13:17

This thread isn't about a real life situation, it's the script from the movie 'Parent Trap' (for those who think this is real).

astoundedgoat · 07/08/2017 13:17

You lost me after you called this little girl a brat and made the comment about boarding schools tbh... Obviously! Grin

ChardonnaysPrettySister · 07/08/2017 13:17

Parent Trap was based on Das Doppelte Lottchen.

ClemDanfango · 07/08/2017 13:17

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Decaffstilltastesweird · 07/08/2017 13:17

It was a shite film though. The Olsen twins one was even worse.

squoosh · 07/08/2017 13:18

There was an Olsen twin version?!

Alabasterangel6 · 07/08/2017 13:18

I can save you some time here and predict how this will go. Your soon to be H will instead re-meet his ex-wife and re-fall in love with her. Turns out you're not cut out for it and you were only after his money. Does that help?

MagdalenLaundry · 07/08/2017 13:18

that's 3 minutes of my life I'll never get back
How many more

VladmirsPoutine · 07/08/2017 13:19

Just here for the deletion message.

Is it still the Summer hols in UK?

squoosh · 07/08/2017 13:19

I saw the Lindsay Lohan version a year or so ago and thought it was quite sad to see what a gorgeous child she had been v the situation she's in now.

sunnyeyes · 07/08/2017 13:19

I love this film !!!

Decaffstilltastesweird · 07/08/2017 13:19

Grin astoundedgoat

I'm clearly very gullible this afternoon! Can't believe I didn't make the connection Blush. I'd started posting before anyone else had, it just took me that long to type it.

Scribblegirl · 07/08/2017 13:19

Oh but the downfall of Lindsay Lohan makes it so sad...

Try harder next time OP Grin