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Should he have told me his daughter is a twin?

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LittleGwyneth · 07/08/2017 13:13

I realise MN is not very step parent-friendly, but I'm going ahead anyway.

After a couple of months of a whirlwind romance with a gorgeous, gorgeous man, his daughter came home from summer camp and we finally met. To be honest, she's a bit of a brat. She clearly only wants her dad for herself, and is not open to me being in her life, at all. (She's 11 by the way).

Anyway, things are kind of fine, I made it clear to her that I wasn't going anywhere and just discretely made inquiries about boarding schools.

All fine, until we go to San Fransisco with the whole family for a wedding planning trip. When we're there DSD is acting incredibly erratically, and long story short, it turns out that she's a TWIN.

Apparently, when DH broke up with his first wife, they each took one of the kids. He moved back to California and she stayed in London.

That's weird right? The kids didn't know about each other, and randomly ended up at the same summer camp. Now I get that they didn't want to tell the twins, otherwise they'd have been shuttling them back and forward, but surely if you're going to marry someone, you should tell them that you've actually got two kids, not one? I feel like he's really broken my trust.

I've now got to go on a weekend long camping trip with BOTH of the little shits. Lucky me.

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LittleGwyneth · 07/08/2017 13:20

@Alabasterangel6 No way, we're way too happy for that.

(Thank you for finding this as amusing as I do.)

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Auspiciouspanda · 07/08/2017 13:20

littlegwyneth never! it was shite when it came out and it's still shite now.

ButchyRestingFace · 07/08/2017 13:20

I prefer the original with Hayley Mills

Loved that movie!

The remake - why fix it when it ain't broken? Sad

Decaffstilltastesweird · 07/08/2017 13:20

squoosh

I think so. I remember one of them playing the piano and the wicked stepmother in it. If it wasn't the Parent Trap, it followed more or less the same storyline.

Twistmeandturnme · 07/08/2017 13:21

I'd pack your bags now OP.
He's still in love with his ex, which is why she is never mentioned and the kids were never told. Now that the girls have met there will be all kinds of shenanigans while the children remind them how much they actually love each other and how horrid you actually are (boarding school indeed!). Further, his housekeeper and her butler are to fall for each other as well, just to make it all the more cosy.

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LittleGwyneth · 07/08/2017 13:22

@Twistmeandturnme don't be silly - the butler is very clearly gay.

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YetAnotherSpartacus · 07/08/2017 13:23

Did anyone ever read Lisa/Lottie (I think it was called)?

happypoobum · 07/08/2017 13:24

I loved both versions of this film!!!

PutItOnYourPancake · 07/08/2017 13:24

Was just going to write that! Used to love Lottie and Lisa as a child.

squoosh · 07/08/2017 13:24

I wouldn't be surprised Decaff. The Olsen twins seemed to make film after film about the twin thing. It would have been lazy of them to overlook a remake of The Parent Trap!

womisacu1 · 07/08/2017 13:25

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squoosh · 07/08/2017 13:26

Woo hoo you go Uncle Brayden.

ecuse · 07/08/2017 13:27

You have two separate massive issues here:

  1. after a couple of months with a new bloke (to whom you imply you are already engaged) you meet his young daughter, decide she's a brat and start looking into boarding schools?

What. The . Fuck????

You absolutely cannot do that. If you want to be in this guy's life, you need to accept he comes with responsibilities. If you can't accept that, you need to step away. Such a massive overstepping/violation ....I can't even believe you're for real FFS...

  1. the twin thing. That's a really odd thing. Without the details impossible to judge the details of his and his ex's custody decisions but it doesn't sound good. I would be wary of this.

Put together - massive red flags on both sides. Neither you nor he are in any position to marry one another right now. Step away or at the very least have an engagement of a good couple of years whilst all this dies down. Both girls need time to deal with this massive upheaval in their lives. Family dynamics are inevitably going to shift. You need time to decide whether you can get over the breach of trust and - more importantly - whether you can genuinely deal with being a step parent. On face value it doesn't sound like it. Poor kids.

PsychoPumpkin · 07/08/2017 13:27

I love the parent trap! That's this afternoon sorted, thanks, OP Smile

Redglitter · 07/08/2017 13:27

Oh hilarious Hmm

ecuse · 07/08/2017 13:28
Blush
PsychoPumpkin · 07/08/2017 13:28

I love the replies where the film reference has obviously gone flying over their heads Grin

LorLorr2 · 07/08/2017 13:31

Whatever you do, don't agree to a camping trip.

BlondeB83 · 07/08/2017 13:31

Oh now I want to watch it! Is it on Netflix?!

womisacu1 · 07/08/2017 13:32

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SpongeBobJudgeyPants · 07/08/2017 13:32

Oh dear...

CardsforKittens · 07/08/2017 13:33

I'm pretty sure the housekeeper is gay too Grin

squoosh · 07/08/2017 13:35

The housekeeper and butler clearly only hook up in order to get visas to each other's country,

CaoNiMartacus · 07/08/2017 13:38

Threads like this are beyond lame! Just why?? Why bother?

Mummyoflittledragon · 07/08/2017 13:39

The original was good. Even my 9 yr old preferred it.