My friend married in her mid thirties and was longing for a child and became pregnant straight away. She has been a SAHP to her DS. Her husband works but is in not in a well paid job.
Six weeks ago my friend gave birth to her second child DS2
She wanted another child before she was 40.
She and her DH are always struggling financially, they have no savings and live from week to week.
Her new baby was struggling to breast feed and was hungry but it was the end of the week and she had no money for formula. I was really shocked. So I gave her the money. Both her parents have passed away and and she has two brothers who live far away.
Yesterday she told me her unmarried brother is getting married in October. He is marrying abroad and the four airtickets alone for her, DH and 2 DS is £900. This is without spending money.
She said her husband will get his holiday money and she can borrow the rest. They have done this before.
I was shocked and said you had no money for formula but you will get in debt for a holiday.
She said she has no life she is stressed and fed up and she needs this holiday and she is going. While her husband works he is not what I would call an emotional provider on his days off he does not help with the children or help around the house. She is alone a lot with the children
The other thing is DS1 starts school.in September how can she take him out in term time for a holiday?
Its not my life but I cannot see how spending this much money on a ten day holiday can make life better.
Your thoughts please