That they should have just got a fucking babysitter

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I am sitting in a nice restaurant trying to have a good evening with my friends. And the couple next to me have their baby, no more than 1 month old. Screaming his or her head off for half an hour.

AIBU that they should not bring a tiny baby into a restaurant?

Yes and the restaurant should have asked them to leave as it's plain rude to stay with a screaming child.

We use to take the kids when they were that age but we wouldn't stay if they screamed. But we didn't have any sitters locally.

It's shit for everyone. YANBU

We took my daughter when she was that young, if she screamed one of us would take her out for a bit then swap.

I always feel mildly irritated when folk bring a noisy baby or youngster to an event; I think back to all the things I missed when they were little as I did not want to upset others by taking the children!

At one month old you're usually pretty safe to take babies out to that kind of thing as (most of them) do nothing but sleep and eat. But I agree - crying babies should be taken home, or outside to calm down and come back if they're sleeping!

I want to say YABU, but you're not. Fair enough, take a babe in arms to a restaurant, but the moment they more than squeak, and will not be placated, they should be taken out.

Say something to the waiter; if enough people are being annoyed by it they should speak to the people concerned. Why should they spoil everybody else's evening?

They aren't unreasonable to take the baby there, they are unreasonable for not taking a screaming baby out to avoid disturbing everyone else.

YANBU. They should have taken the baby out if they were screaming and crying for half an hour. What are the parents doing? Trying to comfort them or just ignoring?

As above. As soon as they start crying you need to take them out. We used to go for dinner loads with DS at that age but we would feed him just before we left and then sleep for 3 hours, he never woke up when we were in the restaurant.

YANBU they should take the baby outside.

Children in restaurants annoy me in general.

I was thinking this at 2am this morning camping and listening to what sounded like a newborn howling for about 2 hours straight. It's so fucking inconsiderate.

At that age it would be difficult to get a babysitter, and the baby would probably normally just sleep in the pram anyway. The problem isn't that they brought the baby with them, it's that they are letting it scream for so long and disrupting everyone else's evenings

While it's not ideal, neither is sitting there Mumsnetting while you are trying to have a nice meal out with friends.

Not everyone can get a babysitter, absolutely. But it's not exactly a requirement to take a 1 month old to a restaurant either.

Also not everyone can just "get a fucking babysitter"

Agreed.

However it's bloody rude and inconsiderate not to go outside when your baby is screaming for half an hour!

I would have said something to the restaurant.

Sparkling

It's not unreasonable for them to want to eat out like everyone else. They may not have access to a babysitter.

However, one of them should have taken the baby off for a walk to settle it. Have done this ourselves before as not to ruin the whole restaurant's meals.

Dont have an issue with babies/kids in restaurants.

I do have an issue with anyone that just sits and lets theirs kids ruin everyone else evenings.

In a restaurant yanbu if there are two adults one takes baby out, other eats, then swap. Sorry if they wanted to enjoy meal together but that ain't gonna happen if LO is going ballistic, no matter if you're in a restaurant or at home.

@HensAndRabbits so what could parents of howling newborn have done at 2 a.m.? I don't suppose they were enjoying it either. yabu.

So you've got your phone out and posted this during the meal with your friends??

I don't think you are being UR at all OP