to not think 35 was THAT old to have my last child?!

[Twistedpantsagain]

Just had a chat with a woman in the local park who said she couldn't have a child at "THAT" age when I told her my last child was born when I was 35.
Surely this isn't actually all that old?! Doesn't help I suppose she was half my size and actually looked more half my age than the 5 years younger she actually was!

I was older than you, but to some people its too old, for them. And that is up to them.

Goodness no it's not THAT old! Perfectly normal.

She was being VU and rude!

No 35 isn't old. I had my last child at 35.
Lots of people don't even have their first child until they are 35

Gawd's sake. She was probably dead jealous of you. Of course YANBU!

Ywbu not to tell her you are planning to have more kids, 1 a year, until you are 53 or you can't afford the IVF anymore whichever comes first.

Crikey. My DH and I have no kids yet and I'm 31. So it's obviously highly likely we won't be done having them until I'm at least 35!! And we're hardly in the minority among friends and colleagues!

Good job she didn't say it to me I was 38 having first. There are a lot of us older mums these days, so longer as healthy I don't see issue

Haha! I had my first child at 35 and I'm not done yet.

My hairdresser was telling me about a client of hers who had her first baby at 49!!!!
You're still a baby yourself

Certainly not.

Maybe she thought you said you had your last kid at 55, not 35?

Of course, if you're still some way off 55, that might be even more insulting!

Each to their own but I had my first at 37 and my last at 41.

It's not even vaguely rude though. I know a woman who had her first (and only) at 45. I would not want to have a baby at that age. That does not mean I think there is anything wrong with her or anyone else doing so, it simply means that it wouldn't be for me.

Is every comment ever made to a MNer rude?

God I hope not I'm 31 and haven't started yet

Just had my second at 39

Hells no - I'm having my first at 36!

My mum was 35 when I was born. Her mother had her at 40 (in the 1940s). Later children isn't new, she's just ridiculous!

It wouldn't be too old for your first, never mind last, if that's what you'd chosen for yourself. I'm having my first at 33 and I definitely don't feel like I'm too old.

Not at all. I was 28 when I had my first and I was told that was considered old in this area. I'm nearly 31 now and having my 3rd and last. This one is a surprise baby otherwise we would have waited a bit longer.

It's not rude to think it's too old for yourself. It's unbelievably fucking rude to say it's too old to someone else!

She was very rude, not everything is ok just to say!
I am 39 and 21wks pregnant with my first baby, we don't all get the opportunity when we're younger.

I was at a spa day the other day for a friend's birthday and one of her friends mentioned that she'd told her dh she didn't want to have a third baby with him because she didn't want to be 'pregnant when she was over thirty!'.

I'm currently a pregnant 38 year old so my first instinct was to be offended. But actually I think it's probably all relative. Starting a family in my twenties would have been a bad idea for me because I was too young and still very selfish, but I need to remember that not everyone took as long to grow up as me so it was the perfect time for some people. Likewise my friend's friend now sees herself as having moved on from the baby stage and maybe forgot that it isn't the case for everyone ages 29 and over!

It's not rude to think it's too old for yourself. It's unbelievably fucking rude to say it's too old to someone else

She didn't say that though. She said she would not have wanted that. What is wrong with that? Nothing.

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If it's as the OP reported it, i.e. the emphasis on that old, as if it's ancient, then yes it is rude.

I was 19 when i had my first child. I had 3 children when i was 21 [twins]. I was often told i was too young to have all those children!!!!!
I went on and had my dd at 43!!!!!