Go fund me...people taking the piss

[Wonders71]

Someone on fb has set up a go fund me page for her best friend to get married the write up says how they are soulmates they have been together years and their dream is to get married but with working long hours and family commitments and paying bills they are asking for donations! I think it's a piss take!

If I choose to give money towards someone's fancy wedding, their book about Montana or their stricken cat, it's because I have spare cash and free will, and it's nobody's business but theirs and mine.

I don't get the sense that you're susceptible to peer pressure or likely to be bounced into things TBH limited so I wouldn't worry about you (or me or anyone bolshy with critical skills).

Just think about that "workman in the garden" and how biddable and credulous so many people are.

It's the veneer the fund of "official, reasonable, charitable cause " that the fundraising sites lend to every fraud AND incidence of cheek that I feel uncomfortable with.

No twisted knickers here Just pisses me off that people ask for money towards something they should bloody save for themselves! This couple are out drinking every weekend stay the Fuck in and save.

No twisted knickers here Just pisses me off that people ask for money towards something they should bloody save for themselves! This couple are out drinking every weekend stay the Fuck in and save.

I agree with you in part, SerfTerf. I thought crowdfunding sites were a charitable endeavour. I don't get involved with them, so I'd still be in the dark if I hadn't written a report for work - incidentally called Go Fraud Me.

Now I know how they work I know that fraud abounds and though the companies pay lip service to combating it, in reality they do very little to stop it.

But the pedant in me can't help but notice that fraud is not why the OP started this thread, and isn't uppermost in most posters' minds. They just don't like cheeky fuckers getting something for nothing because they have the brass to ask for it, and they don't.

There was a recent thread where many PPs were saying it was rude to ask for things. I asked why - that was a bit presumptuous of me - and the clearest answer was 'because I don't like saying no and I'd feel pressured to give in, even if you asked nicely.'

I suppose that accounts for many of the responses about placating the invading workman with a cup of tea on that CFN thread .

Obsessing about what people do at weekends is the very definition of twisted knickers Wonder71.

There was a recent thread where many PPs were saying it was rude to ask for things. I asked why - that was a bit presumptuous of me

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Hardly obsessing when you see their photos on your timeline every week!
Donate to who you like but it is a piss take!

Yes chances, chancing their arm. You don't have to give.

Unfollow them on Facebook or hide theirvGoFund Me posts.

Does anyone remember the 'alternative parenting' family on This Morning who were asking for people to donate so they could relocate and live the life of their dreams with their children? The wee girl peed on the floor during the interview.

I'd forgotten about those cheeky fucker parents of Dax.

Obviously anyone who calls their kid Dax is a wrong 'un, but their shameless fleecing of the gullibles was just breathtaking.

The thing is that at one time, if you were absolutely broke, families and friends would chip in to help you hold your wedding. It still happens regularly on the small island I spend my holidays on. Young couple, no money, so the locals all traipsed down to the beach with their gazebos, everyone bought a plate, local fisherman took the boys out on a fishing trip for the bucks trip, local beauty therapist held a pamper afternoon for the girl. Music came from a few of the locals who got together to form a 'band'. Everyone BYO'd their own drinks. A fabulous afternoon/evening, which cost the couple practically nothing.

But on the Go Fund Me it's all about the 'dream wedding' and not being able to accept that you have to cut your cloth accordingly. And if you don't get what you think you 'deserve' you expect everyone else to pay for it.

I would move heaven and earth to help a couple have a wedding like the ones on our island. I wouldn't donate a penny to anyone who 'expected' everyone else to fund everything.

The whole thing with 'wedding lists' comes from the time when a young couple were going straight from living with their respective parents to moving into a house together and therefore they genuinely needed pots and pans and curtains and all that shit.

I suppose if people are daft enough to fund somebody's wish for a cartier tiara that's up to them. But scammers are a different story. The whole thing has got completely out of hand.

I admit I have done one of these, when my cat got hit by a car. We didn't have insurance but had been putting money aside instead, I badly underestimated how much the emergency vet was, so that alone wiped out our vet fund and we still had another £1000 to come up with.

Friends and family did donate, which I was very very very greatful for. I made sure I posted up photos of when I made payment, so you could piece it together.

I honestly think its down to the person donating, whether they want to or not. I am sure people thought I was taking the piss by doing it.I had my reasons and I honestly thought we would have enough money in our vet fund.

It's clearly something very vulnerable to fraudsters and chancers.

I have only ever given to people I know in real life, who are doing a run or something. I've given to my dsis, and df's doing the Marathon/10K runs etc. I wouldn't give to someone I didn't know.

I remember the Dax thing so well, I followed that fiasco on FB and here for days. It was fairly certain (from news broadcasts) that their travel insurance was going to pay out very early on the saga, and that the charity (McDonald one?) was supporting them - but still people were chipping in, they made around £20k from the whole thing. One of the funds was being run by the guy's gym instructor/boss raised about £11k - and the major theme seemed to be that the guy (father) had run out of clean pants. Nobody seemed to know where the money eventually went - but that's a lot of new pants.

While my poor 21 year old cousin who was suffering from shortness of breath due to her breast cancer spreading to her lungs. Didn't get a penny to her get go fund me page so she could use the oxygen tank to help her breathing. She passed away quietly in a hospital bed without a chance. tbh i would be embarrassed to set up for anything that isn't for a life or death situation.

I was a part of a fundraising campaign for a girl with Crohn disease. She suffered major neurological issues including paralysis to her legs due to an undetected severe B12 deficiency after a major surgery. She on a special diet, in and out of hospitals and physio, living wit her Mum and her Granda who is in her 90s in a house that's falling apart, getting fuck all support from the state (not in Britain). I knew her through a friend who was with her in hospital, never met her in person.
A whole team of people the girl will probably never meet in her life pooled together to help her. I redid the text where she was asking for help to make it more concise and "punchy", we made the link viral and kept resharing it and of course donated. She only asked for a small amount to help with her diet and the reconstruction of the path in front of the house to make it wheelchair friendly but we managed to double the amount and my friend helped to find a builder who's reliable and would do the job for a good price.
I never saw this particular funding as overentitled. She never asked to get this ill. Her Mum never asked to be on a pittance of a pension, neither did her Grandma. She wants to work desperately but won't get a job as long as she spends months in hospitals. I will probably never meet her but I'm glad somewhere out there is a person I could help turn her life for the better.

I used a Go Fund Me to actually raise the funds to buy DS a physiotherapy aid, I was doing manual physio for him 4-5 times a day and it was bringing me to my knees, this device is just as good as manual physio but does it for me. We raised 4K fairly quickly and I paid for it the second it hit the bank and put a picture of the receipt on the page for everyone to see they'd given their money for a genuine cause.

Some people take the piss, but there are some genuine folk out there.

There are many genuine folk out there and you can be just as genuine if you want something frivolous, such as a fancy wedding, or something worthy, such as medical expenses for a blameless child.

If someone says: 'I want donations to pay for fancy wedding' or 'I want you to give me money to pay for physio for my child,' what is the problem? They are not conning you. It's a request that you can choose to accept or not. I don't understand why OP and many others are getting their panties in a bunch about it.

I often think.. Do these people have no pride at all?! It's embarrassing to see and they appear to have no shame at all.

I'm living with a very painful degenerative disease, I'm unable to use pain killers and anything that would/could help pain that isn't a painkiller costs money - not a chance I'd set up a go fund me or just giving page and beg for money.
It is the modern day equivalent of a begging bowl and it makes my skin crawl.

I've given to on just giving page In my entire life and that was only because the money went directly to SANDS Charity who had helped my amazingly beautiful best friend after she lost her daughter at full term, she wanted to give something back to the chair who had helped her, and she donated a lot of her own money to it also.
In cases like that, I think yes, what an amazing thing to do.
But if you're asking for money to help fund you dogs wedding in Thailand - Piss Off!

I would like a new car, a new house, £10,000 spending money, my own personal masseure, monthly hair and body treatments and a two week annual holiday somewhere fabulous. :-).;

It is taking the piss.

Trying to be deliberately vague there's a woman who does this to fund her child's hobby. From competition entry fees, to travel costs. She isn't without money but is constantly begging, and for freebies. The awful thing is that people are actually donating. The people whose children are more talented, or themselves less well off, are struggling on, quietly.
To be honest I don't know whether to be admiring of her tenacity and sheer nerve or appalled.

Periodically I get appeals for a donkey charity in Egypt, It tugs my heartstrings but so far I haven't donated. But I don't blame them for asking.

What is wrong with putting a sob story out there? Fraud aside, if someone wants to give and they can afford it what is wrong with that and what business it of anyone else?

I saw one once. I left my car with the engine running and it was stolen. Obviously insurance won't pay out and I need a car. I could not believe a anyone would admit to sound this online.