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Go fund me...people taking the piss

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Wonders71 · 04/08/2017 09:41

Someone on fb has set up a go fund me page for her best friend to get married the write up says how they are soulmates they have been together years and their dream is to get married but with working long hours and family commitments and paying bills they are asking for donations! I think it's a piss take!

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Alicia555 · 04/08/2017 17:37

A colleague of mine set yo a crowd fund profile for a piss up, the worst thing was someone actually donated!!

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Wonders71 · 04/08/2017 18:00

It pisses me off the post above was pictures of said couple out on the piss!!

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RainbowsAndUnicorn · 04/08/2017 19:45

Totally unacceptable Cookie. Personal choice to have children in small accommodation, why should the rest of the world pay for that?

If people stopped giving the sites would naturally cease but sadly many are guilted into giving or naive and believe they are giving to charity.

Cookiesandcake · 04/08/2017 20:03

What if people give false information in order to get donations? Can they be prosecuted for it if found out? As surely that would count as fraud.

MidnightAura · 04/08/2017 20:09

I hate go fund me or any similar site.

One of my friends is raising money for fertility treatment. She keeps sending me the link even though she knows I'm going through the same thing. She said in profile. "They deserve treatment more than other couples because they really love each other"
Hmm

Floggingmolly · 04/08/2017 20:10

She sounds like a complete moron, Midnight Hmm

Mychildcouldnotbreaatfeed · 04/08/2017 20:19

Cookies I think it might. I also think if someone refers to a go funding page they've set up as a charity then that is also fraud. Or passing off. And I will be reporting to action fraud.

Cookiesandcake · 04/08/2017 20:23

Go fund me sounds like it's more full of chances than people who actually need it. Did it start off mainly with decent appeals on it or has it always been like that?

Cookiesandcake · 04/08/2017 20:23

*chancers

hannah1992 · 04/08/2017 20:27

Not sure if it's always been like that but my friend sent me a link to one once where a load of men had donated 8000 to a woman so she could get a boob job to help her in her career as a porn star 😳 It was only men that had donated too nobody else. She had put in the description how she was desperate to improve her image and get her dream career

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Wonders71 · 04/08/2017 20:30

People have no shame!

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Wonders71 · 04/08/2017 20:31

Mind you I would like my teeth done...

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itsmetree · 04/08/2017 20:33

This really pisses me off. I have a Facebook friend who has twice now put up GoFund Me pages to go on holiday!!!! She has no job and seems to be very picky about getting one then asks others to pay for her holidays?! The cheek.

limitedperiodonly · 04/08/2017 22:43

I really want to know what it is about these requests that infuriates people. Can't you just ignore them?

Mychildcouldnotbreaatfeed · 04/08/2017 22:46

I do ignore them. The Ines that annoy me are the Ines that fraudulently pass themselves off as charities when they are not. Those I report because it's passing off and illegal.

itsmetree · 04/08/2017 23:21

Limitedperiodonly I do ignore them; I just wonder why on earth people feel so entitled that they think others should fund their crap!! I'd love to go on holiday too but only if I could afford it without begging for cash!!

Get a bloody job like the rest of us

SerfTerf · 04/08/2017 23:25

It's partly a protective instinct towards the naive limitedand I suppose none of us want to be confronted by how mainstream, brazen and WIDESPREAD the chancers are.

FluffyPineapple · 05/08/2017 00:06

These past couple of months I have fb posts about Go Fund Me for someone to have their teeth whitened, someone who would welcome donations for their child to attend a prestigious performance arts school, a parent who is asking for donations for their 12 year old to purchase a very expensive PA system (so she can perform for charity gigs you understand 🙄) and a very wealthy neighbour who is asking for donations to help his son to buy his first car.

Needless to say I have not donated to any .... I have and will continue to subscribe to real charitable events

ReanimatedSGB · 05/08/2017 00:11

Economic inequality is a big part of this. Currently there are quite a lot of poor people who are only likely to improve their situation if they can persuade better-off people to give them some money.
It makes me a little uneasy that we seem to be heading towards more and more of this - if you can come across as 'deserving' poor you will get helped, and if you are cute enough or engaging enough you will get money, but not otherwise. I'm kind of on the side of the blatant chancers TBH. No one has to donate.

Cantseethewoods · 05/08/2017 06:54

cookies the original idea behind Go Fund Me and crowdfunding generally was to act as a way for entrepreneurs etc to get funding for small businesses/ other initiatives which would be hard to fun using conventional routes ( e.g. Bank loan) but which also fell outside the remit of traditional charities. I mentioned my friend's film upthread. Another friend wrote a semi historical/semi memoir book about Montana. He crowdfunded the research costs in return for 3 copies of the book and was successful. Most people who funded him were people with an interest in Montana.

It also served as a good way to get funding for niche initiatives. Another friend crowdfunded for the costs to allow 3 v good runners from a poor country to participate in a big regional mountain trail race in another. It actually reached target before I saw it but a lot of people donated because they saw it as giving these kids an opportunity plus good for the development of the sport because without international races, these kids don't get sponsorship deals but without sponsorship deals......

tolerable · 05/08/2017 08:02

greed not need. Was same-ish when freecycle/freegle first caught on round here. People will always confuse kindness for daftness...//most unflattering. ...that said..am a great believer in( if needs must)resorting to the no cheek\no chance rule.

Toddlerteaplease · 05/08/2017 08:36

Someone was fundraising for their Cat to have a cancer operation as she had 'such a special bond with this Cat' and 'couldn't loose her' it was pointed out that her bond with her Cat was no more special than anyone else's. I pointed out that it might not have been in the cat's best interests to have surgery. And that she needed to do what was best for the Cat. That didn't go down to well with the owner but I think she got the point!

limitedperiodonly · 05/08/2017 09:07

Well done Toddler

limitedperiodonly · 05/08/2017 09:28

SerfTerf what does the word 'chancer' mean to you? Is it someone who is defrauding people, which I agree should be exposed and prosecuted if possible. Or is it someone making a request that is in that prim MN word, 'entitled'?

I would be grateful to be warned about a scam, but that's not what the OP and many others on this thread are getting their knickers in a twist about.

If I choose to give money towards someone's fancy wedding, their book about Montana or their stricken cat, it's because I have spare cash and free will, and it's nobody's business but theirs and mine.

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