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to get so bored during the day

124 replies

peachlimeorange · 03/08/2017 13:43

Probably because I am dieting so don't have the 'company' of food!

I wish i could hire someone to talk to sometimes.

OP posts:
MrsKoala · 03/08/2017 17:04

I second checking out if there is a creche at your local leisure centre. It saves my sanity in term time and it helps me diet as i seem to have more energy and motivation. I can't diet without exercising.

GourmetGold · 03/08/2017 17:05

Reality is that most people have quite busy lives and can't spend all day round someone else's house keeping them company.
There's only so much you can chat about and if everyone did just sit around chatting, we'd actually run out of things to chat about?Confused.
Human beings love to be involved and 'doing stuff' ...and not just boring chores, dull jobs, watching TV. If you really don't enjoy time alone doing things, then the odd club you can meet others with similar interests...but you still can't do that all day.

Here's a good video on liking your own company, so being alone doesn't need to mean being lonely...

Mycarsmellsoflavender · 03/08/2017 17:12

Arealhumanbeing, I don't think the OP can do those sorts of things you suggested during the day as she can't afford childcare.

WeAllHaveWings · 03/08/2017 17:15

Study
Volunteer
Get out and do something with your dc daily and have a picnic after
Work from home
Hobby - crafts, research, exercise at home setting yourself targets
Self teach yourself new skills every month or so - gourmet cooking, sweet making, jewellery making and sell at fairs, diy

A friend of mine did a bit of bf counselling in others homes, took her dc with her.

If you decide to be a sahm you need to be self motivated and get out and about, it's also your best bet a finding a friend.

JaceLancs · 03/08/2017 17:15

How about volunteering?
I work for a charity that uses volunteers - we have flexible opportunities including telephone based stuff (not selling or fundraising) that people can do from home

NanooCov · 03/08/2017 17:16

I can't work out how you're bored and have 8-10 hours to fill in the day if you're at home with your children. Lonely and craving adult company perhaps, but not bored.

itstoolateforthisbollox · 03/08/2017 17:17

children can be very boring. Are you entertained for 10 hours a day by children?

ilovesooty · 03/08/2017 17:23

I thought the OP already said she volunteers.

ConstanceCraving · 03/08/2017 17:26

Being at home all day with young children can be mind numbingly boring Confused as well as lonely.

ChardonnaysPrettySister · 03/08/2017 17:34

Never in my life have I been bored.

Read a book.
Go for a walk.
Netflix
Bake a cake
Do an exercise DVD
Iron
Catch up with the cleaning
Garden
Just daydream

Atenco · 03/08/2017 17:38

Maybe as the OP has given us very few details it is hard to give her advice. I was one of the ones recommending going back to work, because she obviously isn't enjoying being a SAHM. But I really haven't a cluse how much she would have to pay for childcare or if she has the possibility of doing a job she would enjoy. We don't know if OP has school-age children or babies and that all has an influence on what kind of advice we could give. Frankly we don't even know what OP enjoys doing.

AvoidingCallenetics · 03/08/2017 17:41

If OP doesn't have money for childcare, I doubt she has loads lying around to spend on hobbies either. Going to the gym etc costs loads.
Dieting sucks! Hope things improve for you soon OP Flowers

itstoolateforthisbollox · 03/08/2017 17:42

Never in my life have I been bored

Liar.

RebelRogue · 03/08/2017 17:43

We couldn't afford for me to work when DD was little. OH earns too much to get any help except CB , but only enough to keep us afloat each month with some treats for the family. Some months not even that as he went into overdraft. I looked into childcare and the cost equalled the wages I'd get. Which ok maybe worth it for some people, but once adding transport and other work associated costs and it would've meant actually less money overall, and the added stress of work and not being around DD .
So I waited and ignored all the "lazy","your brain will rot" etc comments and on the day DD started school full time I also started work.
I have to say I was extremely lucky though and found not only a local job,but also around school hours so all I need is breakfast club at 15£ a week. It's still hard and stressful,but at least I can see my full wages in my account at the end of the month.

LoniceraJaponica · 03/08/2017 17:51

coddiwomple Hmm back at you.

You are making massive assumptions about the OP's earning capacity Hmm again.

I live in South Yorkshire where average wages are lower than your childcare costs Hmm again.

I think a lot of posters have been very unfair towards the OP.

ChardonnaysPrettySister · 03/08/2017 17:59

Going to gym does cost money, but there are millions of exercise videos on You Tube, perfectly free.

ChardonnaysPrettySister · 03/08/2017 17:59

Honestly, never.

Arealhumanbeing · 03/08/2017 18:03

ConstanceCraving

The local wild swimming club? What's that?

Outdoor swimming. Sea, rivers, lakes, ponds. It's wonderful but best done with a group until you know what you're doing safety wise.

Mycarsmellsoflavender

Yeah. I suppose I was assuming OP has the school day to herself. It is difficult to make suggestions without many details.

MrsKoala · 03/08/2017 18:06

But chardonnay, you can't do those things when you are in charge of pre-schoolers. That's why it's boring. You have to be present to hear them shout 'Crime Piggy' for 2 hours straight. It's boring because you have to supervise tedious repetitive behaviour and can't go off and do what would interest you. It's why i sneak off to MN in the kitchen while still watching them.

ChardonnaysPrettySister · 03/08/2017 18:12

We used to go for a walk and spend hours in the playground, they then slept like logs.

No, I'm never bored, I might not enjoy doing something but I'm not bored. I can find something to occupy my mind in every single situation.

LouLouLoupee · 03/08/2017 18:17

I know how you feel OP.

We've just moved to a new area, luckily I see my sister once or twice a week which breaks up the monotony.
I've been unable to work, not just because of childcare costs, but because jobs I can do involve shifts, and DHs job takes him away for a few days at a time, as much as I'd love to there just isn't any form of childcare available at 10pm. Even if it meant I wouldn't be bringing home any money (min wage) I'd love to work for the company.

I remember recently suggesting to my sister there should be a phone line for parents, not necessarily a helpline, just someone you can phone for a chat about nothing in particular.

I had a chat with a man in a cafe I took my DS to this morning, he would have no way of knowing, but it made my day more bearable.

bbpp · 03/08/2017 18:29

Are your children at school? I assume so since you're bored - can't you get a job during school hours? Or study so you can go into something better paying?

LoniceraJaponica · 03/08/2017 18:36

You make it sound so easy bbpp. School hours jobs are like hen's teeth.

thepumpk1neater · 03/08/2017 18:40

I think OP's been scared off. That's a pity. Do you like the sound of any of the suggestions, OP?

I'd like the local wild swimming group! I bet there isn't one here though.

paxillin · 03/08/2017 18:42

But surely that's what MN is for, OP?

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