thanks for the good wishes lostinasea
We have tried freecycle etc and used and given a lot on the past.
Unfortunately now due to worse health issues preventing us from being able to collect and things and also with getting them up the stairs, we aren't able to use freecycle or ebay as we'd have to pay for a man with a van to get things for us and it works out very expensive for items that may not even last very long. I cant risk £70 on delivery for an appliance that might not even survive the transportation (like a fridge) - have had that before. Also there isn't a big scene of either freecycle or ebay where we live so there isn't much on offer and it tends to be far away. We dont have family we could ask and are isolated from friends because of having to move and health problems.
Having been both a home owner and a tenant I can say that however poor I might be, I would always choose being a home owner as you have so much choice and autonomy and dont have to ask (beg) for permission for simple everyday things;-
the choice not to have contract that regulates almost every detail of how you live,
choice over which contractor you use,
choice over when to move
choice not to have people come to inspect (and judge us) our home every 3 months,
choice not to pay contract renewal fees 6 or 12 monthly,
choice not to pay £400 in agent fees every time you move (often not through your own choice) and often every 6 or 12 months,
choice of whether I can use candles instead of them being prohibited,
choice of how often I wash my windows,
choice of whether to hang a hanging basket or a picture on the wall without asking permission (and it being denied),
choice of whether to use an oil filled radiator instead of it being prohibited,
choice of how to decorate,
choice of which appliances to have instead of having to use what ever (not very good ones) might be supplied
choice of whether to have pet,
choice of whether or not I have a social gathering instead of them being prohibited,
choice to make repairs if you can afford it rather than being in the situation where you could afford repairs but the LL won't allow it and it would be madness to pour money into someone else's property that you could be given notice on at any time or that you know you have to leave becuase the LL is a pain in the arse or is selling up.
the fear of what on earth you will do as a pensioners.
no fear that if you try to enforce your rights such as stopping a LL entering your home or repairs that you will not be revenge evicted
It doesnt matter of some clauses are legally unenforecable because some LLs will threaten and try anyway and it just costs money and stress to defend yourself and it is awful to live under threat and constant insecurity, particularly if unwell and disabled.
I have yet to experience one single thing as a private rented tenant that outweighs even the smallest of advantages of owning your own home - even with struggling to afford a mortgage or to fix a boiler.
At least with home-owning, everything you do is an investment in your own life and an exercise in being an independent, autonomous adult.