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AIBU?

To feel depressed at financial talk on MN?

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FluffyPotato · 02/08/2017 14:48

I understand that people sometimes have to talk salaries for context but I think some people just like to throw out numbers so that they show their middle class status to the rest of MN.

A thread I've just seen 'DH works 30 hours a week earning 60k' and someone commenting 'oh my DH earns 100k'.

I work bloody hard 40 hours a week and get about 1200 a month before tax.

AIBU to think that some MNers just like to boast their household income figures to others? Getting quite sick at how middle class mums net is.

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haba · 02/08/2017 14:51

Class and income aren't related, but yes, MNers on the whole are better off than average.

SpartacusSaiman · 02/08/2017 14:55

I have only seen it when it's relevant to the thread.

It feels like you think people with decent incomes should be banned from the threads.

It also feels like you think families that have decent incomes, only do so if the dh earns it.

manhowdy · 02/08/2017 14:58

The thread you're referring to specifically asks what people earn. They've not trotted onto a thread about breastfeeding to declare their DH earns 100K.

JeReviens · 02/08/2017 14:58

So - what? Do you want people to downtalk what they earn just so you don't feel bad? I find that a bit odd.
I don't earn anything like the amounts one sees mentioned on here but I just think 'Good for you' when I see it.
Being consumed with jealousy is not a good look.

LoisWilkersonsLastNerve · 02/08/2017 14:58

Hmmm not sure the mc contingency is what's wrong with mn. Its the judgemental wankers that screw it up and they come from all walks of life.

Bluntness100 · 02/08/2017 14:59

I think you're unreasonable yes, because we all know there is also a shed load of people posting about how little they earn and shouting how x amount is a HUGE salary. So no it's not just middle to high income earners who do it. On some threads it's like competitive poverty porn.

FluffyPotato · 02/08/2017 14:59

No I'm talking about how once numbers are involved a lot of people pipe up about how much their household income is as if it's a competition. Maybe this is common within high earning people and so you don't notice if you are one of those.

In reference to the examples given that was because it was the most recent one I had seen. I didn't say only men could be high earners.

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StewPots · 02/08/2017 15:01

You may get flamed for that post OP but I have to say, I don't earn very much at all compared to some mega salaries (40/50k +) but I'm proud that's it's MY pittance money that I worked for and NOT my husband's.

I'd rather be whatever class I am (waaay down the social scale) but be financially independent should anything ever happen than be reliant on someone who earns X amount a year any day of the week.

As for middle class....it all seems super competitive from my lowly view...and I have better ways to spend my time and money than trying to keep up with the sliding scale of middle class. There's no real middle class anymore anyway because it's such a wide spectrum. You get people earning 40k all the way up to 150k + but no one can compete with the elite and super rich...

Whether MN is like that though, you'll always get the odd goady/ boasty post but by an large I think MNetters aren't into class hierarchy stuff.

Mrskeats · 02/08/2017 15:01

I've only posted figures when it's been asked. I don't think people post all the time.
Class and income aren't really related either.
Why would the fact that some people may have worked hard/ are talented etc be depressing?

ladylambkin · 02/08/2017 15:01

I must admit I read that thread earlier and felt like I live in another world.

VladmirsPoutine · 02/08/2017 15:01

I wouldn't take it to heart. Income and class isn't aren't the bedfellows you presume them to be.

I think it's rather cringey tbh but I avoid those sorts of threads. Similar to the what did your toddler eat today threads; I'm sure there's a toddler somewhere eating caviar and drinking milk from a chalice but I don't care.

QuiteLikely5 · 02/08/2017 15:01

Yabu - comparison is the thief of joy.

Cocklodger · 02/08/2017 15:04

People earn less and more than you, get over it.
There's probably someone earning £850 a month thinking the same as you.

ConstanceCraving · 02/08/2017 15:04

I can see why you'd feel down about that sort of thread OP and sometimes people posting about their salaries is a bit cringeworthy tbh but I guess it's only fair that everyone can post if they want to?

VladmirsPoutine · 02/08/2017 15:05

Why would the fact that some people may have worked hard/ are talented etc be depressing?

Don't fall for this fallacy. Patently untrue. Hard work or talent does not equal financial gain or success.

Ecureuil · 02/08/2017 15:05

I think people only post salaries when it's asked (and is the point of the thread or highly relevant) generally.

FluffyPotato · 02/08/2017 15:05

@ladylambkin thank you! Clearly most on this thread now don't understand from our point of view.

And implying I don't 'work Hard' or I'm not 'talented' at my job like high earners because I'm on a low income is a low comment

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corythatwas · 02/08/2017 15:05

Every time I have been on Mumsnet and read what other people find absolutely necessary to survive I and my family vanish in a little puff of smoke. And then we have to reassemble ourselves. Hard work, that is. Wink

juneau · 02/08/2017 15:05

Well I'm getting sick of how anti-middle class some MNers are. The last time I checked boasting about how rich they are isn't exactly a MC trait! Bash people for being vulgar, by all means, but equating boasting with being MC shows YOUR prejudices OP, no-one else's.

FluffyPotato · 02/08/2017 15:06

I'm very talented I'll have you know. Within my job I can get 14 toddlers to sleep every single day within 10 minutes between 2 staff. Grin

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ThePinkOcelot · 02/08/2017 15:08

Well so they say! Could be talking shit and we would never know.

Youcanttaketheskyfromme · 02/08/2017 15:08

People like to compare lives - that includes salary.

Some people earn a lot some don't.

I don't think the people who have should have to keep quiet about it. Not brag or be rude sure but I don't see why I can't be talked about in context.

ConstanceCraving · 02/08/2017 15:08

Bang on juneau! Ime the MC would rather cut their little finger off than talk about how much they earn Grin

Fruitcocktail6 · 02/08/2017 15:09

I think you are taking something personally that has actually got nothing to do with you.

People across the country earn all different amounts. Different areas of the country are more expensive, people have different levels of outgoings, it is all relative.

People should not have to lie about how much they earn to avoid offending someone who earns less.

Fwiw, I find MN to be the opposite. Any threads I read about money, costs of childcare and food shopping seem to turn into a bizarre poverty top trumps, resulting in people saying they feed their family of 6 on £1 a week or something like that.

FluffyPotato · 02/08/2017 15:12

For clarification to some who think I'm just bashing high earners -- I'm not. I was referencing threads that turn into 'I earn this much' and clearly are turned into plain boasting.

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