Little girls should not wear bikinis

[SpiritedLondon]

On Saturday I'm heading off on holiday with my DH and DD5. I have bought DD a new swimsuit and a bikini which I obviously think is cute. I happened to mention this to FIL who was visiting and who immediately announced in front of DD that little girls should not wear bikinis.( he didn't like it and didn't think it was appropriate) I was slightly about it. Later on that evening I raised the subject with DH and it became apparent that he doesn't really like the idea either....he kept making comments like " it does have a long top doesn't it?" Er no not really. Is this a thing? I don't really think it's a problem and I don't actually think I'm being unreasonable but if you think I am do you think you could tell me what you think the problem is so I can understand it.

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For myself, I find bikinis (string and triangle kind) on children lewd.

What on earth is lewd about it? It is just clothes. Either woman should be able to wear what we want without anyone sexualising it, or not.

I won't have anyone tell my DDs how to behave BECAUSE they are girls.They behave in a way to be good, considerate people NOT because of their gender.

Lewd minds create lewd thoughts.

THIS - and you can buy these everywhere, Boots, supermarkets etc.

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I'm not a fan but more so because of the burning issue. I prefer a UV suit. Bikinis are easier to get hold for girls though (and boys had a lot more UV suits) as I discovered when looking for one for my 1 year old DD

I dont think I would put my child in a triangle bikini, thats just me.

The one you have looks lovely and more than ok to be worn by a child, the top is basically a tankini - do they have it in adult sizes?

chronicle that's not the point. Of course sometimes children need more protection, the issue is whether men should dictate what little girls wear because of their warped thoughts.

I'm recently back from a holiday on the Costa Blanca.

The vast majority of pre-pubescent girls were wearing bikini bottoms only. Others had a top on as well. No one batted a single eyelid.

It's the clothes thats sexualise the children

No it isn't. I see a little girl in a bikini and I think "Oh, little girl in a bikini" I don't think "Ugh! Look at that little girl being made to cover breasts she doesn't have!"

If the bikini was padded to make her look as if she had breasts, that would be different.

There are more 'boys' UV suits and tops around, so we go crazy and let our DD wear blue, sometimes with a shark on the front of the top, crazy I know! Slip, slop, slap...

Ms Harry, the link was a follow on to my comment that I wouldn't put my kids in a bikini because of the sun protection issue...

Lot of fuss about nothing. What's wrong in girls of any age wearing a bikini? Get a grip people.

I see a little girl in a bikini and I think "Oh, little girl in a bikini" I don't think "Ugh! Look at that little girl being made to cover breasts she doesn't have!"

So that's what you think. I disagree. The costume sexualises the child by making them ape the sexualised costume of the adult.

Lewd minds create lewd thoughts What does that even mean?

It's as bad as the 'you can't wear a bikini after 45' brigade! Guess what. we can wear what the hell we like! Get used to it!

I can't believe this is 8 pages long. I don't particularly like bikinis on little girls, but meh don't sweat the small stuff. OP I think FIL was rude tbh, its nothing to do with him how you dress your daughter.

BraveButShaking
Personally, I'd find a girl wearing just bikini bottoms preferable to them wearing bizare mini adult style swimwear.
The tankini/crop top that the OP showed is also very much child's swimwear.

For me, it a nothing about sexualising them and more just letting kids be kids, in kids clothing, doing kids things.

Either woman should be able to wear what we want without anyone sexualising it, or not This is a child who does not have agency.

the issue is whether men should dictate what little girls wear because of their warped thoughts. If you put a little girl in a bikini, you've done the men's warped thinking for them.

That bikini looks lovely :)

Your husband's comments are interesting - especially the 'long top' bit. I assumed he thought that a bikini top was sexualising as it implies boobs, so no top needed (as per a little boy). But the 'long top' bit makes me think the opposite - that he feels they should be covered. That, IMHO is more sexualising as it implies they do have boobs (obvs they don't) and the boobs must go under cover!

Of you look at a child and think lewd you may need help

Of you look at a child and think lewd you may need help

Are you addressing me?

*I'm recently back from a holiday on the Costa Blanca.

The vast majority of pre-pubescent girls were wearing bikini bottoms only. Others had a top on as well. No one batted a single eyelid*
This is how it used to be in the UK too! I find all the obsessing over what particular shaped bits of cloth could mean, on small children, a bit creepy.

Lots of kids clothes are a bit like mini adult clothes, have been for decades, should we make sure all children's skirts are longer than knee length too, in case they look flirty to somebody? Where would you draw the line?

Bikinis and swimsuits are accepted shapes of swimwear. There was not a sexual thought going through my mind when my little girls wore them or went topless. If it goes through anyone else's mind, that is their problem.

Bikinis and swimsuits are accepted shapes of swimwear For adults, otherwise this thread would not exist. Opinions differ when it comes to children.

I wouldn't get that for my 8 year old. The bikini bottoms without the top, fine, but what is the point of the top? It doesn't protect from the sun particularly and isn't needed. The non cropped tops are fine I think, they're really just a two part swimsuit.