Little girls should not wear bikinis

[SpiritedLondon]

On Saturday I'm heading off on holiday with my DH and DD5. I have bought DD a new swimsuit and a bikini which I obviously think is cute. I happened to mention this to FIL who was visiting and who immediately announced in front of DD that little girls should not wear bikinis.( he didn't like it and didn't think it was appropriate) I was slightly about it. Later on that evening I raised the subject with DH and it became apparent that he doesn't really like the idea either....he kept making comments like " it does have a long top doesn't it?" Er no not really. Is this a thing? I don't really think it's a problem and I don't actually think I'm being unreasonable but if you think I am do you think you could tell me what you think the problem is so I can understand it.


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[Babbitywabbit]

I always put my children (dd and ds) in pants and big floppy t shirts for the beach when they were little, because I was more concerned about sun burn than anything. Seemed to me that a loose T was far more comfy.

Can't get that worked up about bikinis or swimming costumes though

[grasspigeons]

I think little girls probably want to wear bikinis because their mums and other women they admire wear them, which is cute and therefore girls in bikini is ok.

But I think it's sad because back in the 70s /early 80s we all just ran round in the pants part. I look at family photos and the girls look so free

[crazyhorses3]

Personally I don't like to see little girls in bikinis. Why not put her in a one piece, or just the bottoms? She has no breasts, and it is sexualising a child in my view.

[NotTheDuchessOfCambridge]

My DD wore bikinis on holiday, triangle one, frilly cropped one, H&M had a lovely selection. Nobody fainted at the pool, she didn't frazzle under the sun, the world didn't end. In fact, nothing happened. Who knew a bikini could be just an item of swim wear that has absolutely no affect on the rest of the world or my DD!

[Shockers]

I didn't say it was different- I was answering the question about triangles. I was simply giving an answer to a question, not passing judgment.

[TheJunctionBaby]

I don't like bikini's on young girls. I still don't even let my 12 year old wear them because by that age they are practically pieces of string. School swimming lessons are done in a one piece and otherwise we use sunsuits (for the little ones) or tankinis and one pieces

[MsHarry]

Father has a right but not grandfather.

[inashizzle]

Of course grandparents should have an opinion and the child's father. Why haven't they got a right? It's not like they out and out banned it.Showing the picture would I'm sure would put them at ease. Why has a father not got the right to have a say in what his daughter wears or dosnt at five? I'm just not getting it.

[SchnitzelVonKrumm]

But Shockers a crop top does the same thing. It's there to cover the breast area. It literally has no other purpose.

And there's no way my adult woman's breasts could be contained in a couple of triangles

[Shockers]

The triangle is what is there to cover formed breasts in ladies' bikinis.

Little girls have no breasts, so the triangle is suggesting that the space in which their breasts will finally grow is something to be censored.

[MissAlligned]

...sold for girls... ...they do look pretty... ...what's the problem?..

🙄🤦🏼‍♀️ I don't even know where to start with this one.

My daughter isn't a clothes horse. Her wardrobe isn't dictated by what shops conforming to outdated gender stereotypes want to tell her she should look like.

My daughter and my son wear the same thing on the beach or in the pool. Weather and occasion appropriate. Neither of their nipples need covering unless they are likely to get burnt or it's a bit cold.

And as for those crying 'slut-shaming' what a horrible term to use. Something is only slut-shaming if you think mother or daughter is a slut. Back when this thread was full of reasonable expressions of opinion, nobody was accusing anyone of being a slut. I can't even get my head around what kind of awful person would even think of bringing that kind of gutter talk to a conversation about young girls.

[inashizzle]

You're right I got bit mixed up from where one poster took the whole thing to victim blaming and I hate that some accuse others of having a derogatory opinion when it's meant to be on a simplistic level

[paxillin]

The "chavy", "sexualised" and "inappropriate" comments translate as class and slut shaming to me. It's not like they are "inappropriate" because of the weather at the beach.

[paxillin]

As for the slut shamiing I just don't think you either read or understood my posts but no worries

I think you haven't understood actually. You were not one of the posters dictating little girls shouldn't wear bikinis on their irrelevant say-so, were you? So you weren't included in my statement at all.

[inashizzle]

Who's 'slut shaming' ?!. You are bringing this to your own bottom level and I've no idea why. In not sure that term would've entered any of the posters minds at all, so why did you? Class thing? Again what on earth are you on a soap box for that for? Again to reiterate , the original poster asks is that particular costume OK as her f.i.l and o.h had one opinion. If they saw it as we did their opinion might've changed? I see all points, if you'd read my previous posts and seen other opinions(ie it's a cultural thing) It's all opinion but you're implying beyond

[waitforitfdear]

inashizzle

little girls would look ridiculous in bikini tops okkkay that's your opinion not mine.

School swimming lessons are clearly different from a hot beach in Spain don't you think?

As for the slut shamiing I just don't think you either read or understood my posts but no worries

[paxillin]

You or your young daughter won't, fine. You don't get to decide what anybody else should or shouldn't wear.

"Little girls shouldn't wear..." is either slut shaming (mum or child) or class shaming (mum). Just leave it.

[Blackandpurple]

Where in my post dies it say no one should wear one?

[PrettyBelle]

My daughter has always wanted to wear either one-piece costumes, or bikinis. That's what is sold for girls, don't see why they should be wearing just a half of their swimming costume? And they do look pretty on so what's the problem?

[Blackandpurple]

Kids should not be in bikinis. I dont wear them. I wouldn't wear my bra and knickers on a beach so a bikini is no different.

[inashizzle]

What on earth are you on about *waitforitdear. The op clearly chose an age appropriate costume . You've then decided people are victim blaming? We're just talking what looks appropriate.Fact- little girls would look ridiculous in string bikinis, tiny bikini tops etc. If I sent my dd in a tiny weeny bikini to school swimming lessons, the school would ask me to sort it out. It's about modesty.Of course we shouldn't have to think about it, however we are more aware now.

[PrimalLass]

We all know in reality that everyone has their own 'what they'd happily dress their children in line'.

Agreed. It seems weird to me that people would think girls are more vulnerable semi-covered up on top than completely naked, but everyone is different.