Ok....so I said 'yes' this time. I love my DD and I want her to have a lovely 17th birthday but when she asked for a 'gathering' at our house next week my heart sank. Her friends are nice but when they all get together they get so loud, the music is deafening and they all drink ridiculous amounts. Inevitably, things get broken, neighbours are annoyed and I spend time tidying up the next day to clean sticky floors and worse etc. I hate these parties as I love my house but drunk teens just don't respect other peoples property as a rule and uninvited teens always turn up.
I annoyed her by saying 'how many people'...'must stop at 11pm'...'only downstairs' questions....she even asked me to go out for the evening....
Advice please, experiences, ways of dealing with this other than me necking a bottle of wine to be as irresponsible as the night will be. I am being realistic...these times are never quiet events. I am not a prude, I can party like the best of them but I am seriously stressing already......