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Woman screaming at me like a banshee!

84 replies

User998877 · 31/07/2017 17:06

Just been to pets at home to stock up, car park was very busy and as I pulled into park the woman in the car had the passenger car door open. I thought she was getting in so gave her some time. After a minute or so I asked her if she would close the door so I could fully park since there was a traffic building up behind me.

She muttered something about looking for something and got in her car. I waited for her to pull out and she started shouting at car who were pipping at her to wait. she got quite angry and I could hear her swearing. I'm watching in my wing mirror and she was getting very close to the rear of my car... then she crashed straight into my NEW car.

I jump out to see what damage she had done and she starts screaming at me that it wasn't her fault. I asked her who's fault it was then since my engine wasn't even on and she was the only car that was moving! She went crazy at this point and I though she was going to hit me. I calmly checked my car and there was some minor damage on the rear, more on hers since mine is a much bigger car. I got my phone out to take a picture of the damage and her number plate and she started screaming and crying at me.

At this point I got back in my car and she got in hers and drove off screaming around the car park.

Should I report her to the police, nobody was hurt but I'm pissed that she has damaged my new car that I only got 3 weeks ago, when I pointed this out to her she screamed that I was lucky I could afford a new car!

Here's my ques

OP posts:
Trb17 · 31/07/2017 17:07

Absolutely report her. Hopefully there will be CCTV and also let your insurance know.

honeysucklejasmine · 31/07/2017 17:07

Erm, yes. Insurance, and if she failed to leave her details, the police too.

regularbutpanickingabit · 31/07/2017 17:07

Yes, you need to report it and you need to report it to the insurance company. She sounds awful.

Flowersinyourhair · 31/07/2017 17:08

Report to the police for sure. You should have got her insurance details.

Gizlotsmum · 31/07/2017 17:08

Did you get her insurance details? If so leave it to the insurance company. If not you probably need to get the police involved

Original poster
User998877 · 31/07/2017 17:08

*Here's my question shouldn't be there!

OP posts:
QODRestYeMerryGentlemen · 31/07/2017 17:08

Report her

Original poster
User998877 · 31/07/2017 17:09

TBH, I was worried she was going to attack me, I only managed to get a picture of her number plate before she sped off.

OP posts:
CaptainMarvelDanvers · 31/07/2017 17:09

I know this isn't an excuse and her behaviour was 100% wrong, but from what you've described with the crying I would assume she was having a bad day.

I wouldn't phone the police unless you have to for insurance reasons.

BannedFromNarnia · 31/07/2017 17:10

Yes report her! Phone your insurance company first - they might do all that bit, I'm not sure? Ask them if you need to report her to the police yourself.

Accidents happen, sure, especially when you're stressed as this woman definitely was, but that's not an excuse, and you have to leave your details and take your lumps like everyone else. It's an offence not to leave your details and she should have done.

Poor new car, how irritating - hope it's not too time consuming to fix.

FrostyPopThePenguinLord · 31/07/2017 17:11

Isn't that technically a hit and run if she didn't leave any details or stop? I'm not sure but it sounds fairly illegal...(I know nothing about this stuff)

Anecdoche · 31/07/2017 17:12

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mrscropley · 31/07/2017 17:14

It was a hit and run. . Her attitude alone needs reporting neve remind her driving!!

HeyRoly · 31/07/2017 17:14

I disagree with Captain. Why should the OP let this woman get off scot free when she abused and threatened her in public, damaged her car and left the scene of an accident?

You do need to report it to the police.

CosmicPineapple · 31/07/2017 17:24

Report her. She left without swapping details.
I am sorry if she was having a bad day but then she should not be driving if she is unable to exit a carpark without hitting a stationary car.

AwaywiththePixies27 · 31/07/2017 17:26

Many people have bad days. It doesn't give you an excuse to be verbally abusive to another person.

Report her to insurance and the police. Let the police know if you noticed any cctv around. They need to view it asap and half of it isn't good enough quality.

AwaywiththePixies27 · 31/07/2017 17:27

TBH, I was worried she was going to attack me

That's what you need to tell the police. Registration Plate should be enough to go on.

krustykittens · 31/07/2017 17:28

This ^^ The woman was threatening and abusive and left the scene of an accident. But because she might have bene having a bad day, the OP shouldn't report her to the police? Bollocks to that. Arseholes will carry on being arseholes as long as nice people let them get away with it by making excuses for them.

Laine21 · 31/07/2017 17:30

yes report to the police, she drove away with out giving any details after hitting your car and hurling abuse at you.

she may have your numberplate details from your car, and may reort you for hitting hers and try and make a claim against you.

You have to report to the police if you are going to try and claim on your insurance.

Did you go into pets at home after this? she may have returned and took your car details.

years ago, ex and I were stopped, handbrake on, waiting to move with the traffic when it started, woman in the car in front, decided she didn't want to wait, and decided to reverse straight into our car so she could pull into a parking bay at the side of us.....our car, not hers! we couldn't reverse out of her way as we had a car behind us. she then tried to make a claim through her insurance that we hit her! Luckily for us, we took details of witnesses at the time and made a police report.

Gingerandgivingzerofucks · 31/07/2017 17:30

If you report this to police (why the fuck do people suggest this, they will tell you to go to your insurers, it is not a police matter) or insurance, be prepared to have to bring it up for the next five years and risk a rise in your premium. Similar happened to my DH whilst driving my car and I've only just been able to stop having to mention it.

BannedFromNarnia · 31/07/2017 17:30

I've had a lot of bad days recently but I've not verbally abused anyone or hit anyone's car. You just can't go around behaving like that.

HipsterHunter · 31/07/2017 17:31

Yeah report the incident as the other driver didn't swap details.

TBH the number plate is enough to dive your insurers tho.

She sounds unhinged - people like that shouldn't be driving!

AwaywiththePixies27 · 31/07/2017 17:31

^Arseholes will carry on being arseholes as long as nice people let them get away with it by making excuses for them.

This x 1000

StillStayingClassySanDiego · 31/07/2017 17:32

She may have been having a bad day, so bloody what?

She drove irresponsibly, caused damage to a car and sounded unsafe to be behind the wheel.

Hygge · 31/07/2017 17:32

As nobody was hurt, the police are unlikely to do much, although she did leave the scene without giving you her details so they might be able to look into that.

Your insurance company will want to know about this. You are supposed to report all accidents to them even if you are not intending to claim.

Even if you don't claim, your policy will still be affected, if not right now then when you renew. Even if you have protected your no claims bonus. Even if you can prove 100% that she was at fault.

And most insurance companies will still want to know about this accident for the next three to five years.

Last year someone crashed into my parked car. Witnesses gave statements to prove it. Nine months later my premium still went up because even though I wasn't at fault, my insurance company was still waiting for the other driver's insurance team to reimburse them for recovering my car.

They knew the accident was not my fault, and they knew they would get the money from her team. Ironically we were both insured by the same company at the time of the accident so they were basically waiting for Team A to reimburse Team B. They were probably sitting side by side in the same office. But they still put an extra £400 on my renewal quote all the same.

I'm sorry OP. You're required to report every accident to them but whether they catch her or not, this is still going to be a nightmare for you.

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