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Woman screaming at me like a banshee!

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User998877 · 31/07/2017 17:06

Just been to pets at home to stock up, car park was very busy and as I pulled into park the woman in the car had the passenger car door open. I thought she was getting in so gave her some time. After a minute or so I asked her if she would close the door so I could fully park since there was a traffic building up behind me.

She muttered something about looking for something and got in her car. I waited for her to pull out and she started shouting at car who were pipping at her to wait. she got quite angry and I could hear her swearing. I'm watching in my wing mirror and she was getting very close to the rear of my car... then she crashed straight into my NEW car.

I jump out to see what damage she had done and she starts screaming at me that it wasn't her fault. I asked her who's fault it was then since my engine wasn't even on and she was the only car that was moving! She went crazy at this point and I though she was going to hit me. I calmly checked my car and there was some minor damage on the rear, more on hers since mine is a much bigger car. I got my phone out to take a picture of the damage and her number plate and she started screaming and crying at me.

At this point I got back in my car and she got in hers and drove off screaming around the car park.

Should I report her to the police, nobody was hurt but I'm pissed that she has damaged my new car that I only got 3 weeks ago, when I pointed this out to her she screamed that I was lucky I could afford a new car!

Here's my ques

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Awwlookatmybabyspider · 31/07/2017 18:15

Definitely report her. She could end up killing someone in the mood.
She's clearly not stable enough to be on the roads.

Fluffyears · 31/07/2017 18:15

If you report this to police (why the fuck do people suggest this, they will tell you to go to your insurers, it is not a police matter)

It is a police matter. My dad was cautioned for this. He hit a neighbours parked car and the wife came out screeching and screaming at him. He asked her to calm down so he could give her his insurance but she swore and then spat on him (she was lovely 🙄). My dad said 'get your husband to come and see me later hopefully he's sensible. The police turned up and cautioned him for failing to stop and report and accident.

THAT is why it's s police matter!

simon50 · 31/07/2017 18:16

Thanks PSPC...
May I suggest to any of you who don't have it on your insurance, add no claims bonus protection, it costs less than a good bottle of wine and as we are only human and can make a mistake, it can save you £££ if you do have an own fault accident.

SpiritedLondon · 31/07/2017 18:16

Yes let me pointlessly add that if you don't exchange details at the scene ( for whatever reason) that you must report to police within 24 hours ( under some Road Traffic Act or other ) which is why " the fuck" people give this advice.

MissionItsPossible · 31/07/2017 18:18

A hit and run is someone getting badly hurt IMO or even dying at the result of negligent driving. Yes, the OP is right to call their insurance company but those claiming it's a hit and run is going a bit over the top! She bumped into the OP's car. Nobody was hurt.

DontTouchTheMoustache · 31/07/2017 18:20

If it was in a car park I'm not sure the law of leaving the scene of an accident applies as as far as I'm aware this is only on the road and not on private property (I could be wrong but just worth checking where you stand). With her details though I'm sure you can start a civil claim against her.

Fluffyears · 31/07/2017 18:22

It was a residential car park my dad was in and he hit a parked car. Given a police caution and warned he may be charged.

ElsieMc · 31/07/2017 18:22

Crikey, report it now. A few weeks back, my dd and partner were parked outside a cycle shop and he was ensuring the bikes were fastened correctly on the bike rack. He heard a noise behind him and just managed to leap out of the way as a mini rolled down the hill and crashed into their car. It would have killed him.

Owner strolled out of the shop and started screaming and swearing at them saying why had they crashed into his car. It was clear he had not put on the handbrake. He denied everything and threatened to beat them up.

Fortunately there was a witness and cctv. Police visited him after seeing the cctv. He insisted there was a fault with the car, but an independent inspection showed there was not. The cctv shows him leaning into the car and pulling up the handbrake BUT their own insurers said as they could not actually see the handbrake on the footage it was not proof!

Thankfully liability is now not in dispute.

Report her and get on to your insurers straight away. She left the scene of an accident, basically a hit and run situation. She also verbally abused you and was completely out of control. She only over reacted (like mini madman) because she knows she was in the wrong.

Sugarpiehoneyeye · 31/07/2017 18:23

Yes, you do need to report this to the Police, as she left the scene of an accident, next call your insurance company.
We all have bad days unfortunately.
Hope you get it sorted soon.🍷

IloveBanff · 31/07/2017 18:25

She seems too unstable to be driving IMO. Yes, you must report to both insurance company and the police, for the reasons already given. It's good you have a photo of her number plate.

simon50 · 31/07/2017 18:25

Ok lets rephrase this 'its leaving the scene of an accident'

ElsieMc · 31/07/2017 18:27

Mission - definition of hit and run is causing or contributing to a road traffic accident/road crash without stopping.

Bluntness100 · 31/07/2017 18:27

Yes, call rhe police. I would in this instance. They prob have cctv anyway so you also don't want to be fraudulent and lie.

HemanOrSheRa · 31/07/2017 18:28

Hmmmm. This happened to DP. Some bloke plowed into the side of his car and completely lost the plot at DP. Turned out he wasn't insured. Ring your insurance and the Police. In fact your insurers may need a crime ref number under the circumstances.

Bluntness100 · 31/07/2017 18:28

It's leaving the scene of an accident and is illegal.

Mulledwine1 · 31/07/2017 18:35

So let me get this straight. If I am minding my own business with my engine off, and someone runs into me and does not give me their details, I can find myself in court for not reporting it?

Seriously I thought the police were overstretched.

I know of two people who've been injured by hit and run drivers and they've done absolutely nothing despite there being witnesses (one run down on a zebra crossing, the other a cyclist knocked off their bike). Both went to hospital too, so there was plenty of evidence of injury as well as the witnesses to the accidents themselves.

And yet they'd come after me because I decided not to report someone who'd scratched my car?

The mind boggles.

mangopip · 31/07/2017 18:38

If her car suffered more damage she may claim and say it was your fault. Do you have an independent witness? Report to your insurer and tell them that there should be cctv footage. They may ask you to get contact details from the shop so they can get the footage. Most shops only keep the footage for around 30 days so you will need to do this asap. Otherwise it could end up as a 50/50 split her word against yours

MissionItsPossible · 31/07/2017 18:39

ElsieMc That's just my opinion. If someone told me they were involved in a hit and run I'd be aghast and ask them if they were ok. If they told me what had happened I would think it sounded OTT to describe it like that, though still them to ring their insurance company.

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User998877 · 31/07/2017 18:45

Apologies for not coming back sooner, had to go out unexpectedly.

I phoned 101 and they took all the details and said they were going to follow it up. They were very interested and said she had committed an offence by leaving the scene of an accident and threatening behaviour. They have given me an incident number and said if I want to take it further they will take a statement and follow through. I'm very tempted since my dc were in the car and were visible shaken by this woman's behaviour.

Have been trying to contact insurance company with no joy, too busy to take anymore calls apparently!

The damage is very minor and I doubt anyone would see it unless pointed out to them, but I can see it and it's going to bother me since it's a new car.

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greendale17 · 31/07/2017 18:49

Report her to the police for hit and run and not leaving her details.

Then report to your insurance company

HotelEuphoria · 31/07/2017 18:50

You did absolutely the correct thing OP, who knows what she will do, she could lie and say you drove into her and she has whiplash. Trust me, as someone who has been on e receiving end of a fraudulent claim it is not a nice place to be.

Good luck x

SlothMama · 31/07/2017 18:50

Good on you OP, I'd personally get the damage repaired as you said you know it's there and it'll only annoy you

SchadenfreudePersonified · 31/07/2017 18:50

She drove irresponsibly

This ^

Fortunately she hit a large car.

I could have been a small child.

SpiritedLondon · 31/07/2017 18:56

I might be tempted to pop into the shop and see if they have CCTV cameras covering the area, or at least have a look from the outside. I would say police responses are likely to differ from area to area depending on local priorities.

StealthPolarBear · 31/07/2017 18:59

Glad you have reported it op.
If this was the centre parcs thread you'd be being asked why you needed a nice new car and why you hadn't just bought a medium sized, mediumly nice car that was five years old. And people would be linking to examples for you ;)

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