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To ask NDN to park in bay 2

79 replies

Smokingcatapillar · 30/07/2017 20:14

Obviously I wouldn't trust any other group of people to help out with a parking thread,I am however posting on behalf of my DM. I understand rule of thumb is that a diagram must be posted so I've added one.
The jist is....DM's NDN keeps parking in bay 1 which is right next to her living room window and in front of her garden gate. She is a nervous 60+ and finds the car lights at night disturbing, not to mention the fact that the car blocks her gate, they occasionally open the car door too wide which bangs the wall. During the day they park half up the path/road directly outside their house then move the car in the evening. She asked them when they first moved in if they could park in bay 2 as bay 1 belonged to her. Their response was 'why should we? You don't own a car, so what's the problem?'
DM then explained about the lights, gate, banging etc to then be told that there is a muddy puddle right under the car door and that their kids end up
Stepping in it and ruining their shoes. DM got defensive and a bit arsey that they didn't respond the way she hoped and said they should be more worried about their children breathing in their smoke whilst in the car (she spies on them, nosey old lady don't judge lol)

It's got to the point now that DM drags her bin down the side of the path right up against their car hoping it will cause damage and deter them and they glare at her sometimes muttering things under their breath. She has now asked me to say something.

To ask NDN to park in bay 2
OP posts:
QODRestYeMerryGentlemen · 30/07/2017 20:21

Can you borrow a car or leave yours th ere for a few days? And/or ask them yourself to leave it clear as you'll be using it regularly

QODRestYeMerryGentlemen · 30/07/2017 20:22

Or fit a light lift and lock bollard thingy

flowery · 30/07/2017 20:23

"She asked them when they first moved in if they could park in bay 2 as bay 1 belonged to her."

Does it belong to her? Because none of the rest of your post is relevant really.

towelpintpeanuts · 30/07/2017 20:26

Agree with flowery - thekey thing is whether it does belong to her. If it doesn't, annoying as it might be I can't see that her desire for them not to park in it trumps your their desire to do so ...

Anecdoche · 30/07/2017 20:30

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Smokingcatapillar · 30/07/2017 20:30

I park in bay 1 whenever I visit and I try to keep my car there as long as possible. But I don't live close enough to leave my car there.
It's a rented property and my DM was told by the housing officer when she moved in that bay 1 is hers. She wouldn't fork out for bollards or pillars because she doesn't own the property.

OP posts:
lieka · 30/07/2017 20:32

Can she rent out the space?

KatharinaRosalie · 30/07/2017 20:36

if that's her bay then she's of course U to 'ask' them. She should just tell them.

mum11970 · 30/07/2017 20:36

If it's her bay just buy some planters and put them in such a way that it easier for ndn to use bay 2 rather to than squeeze next to the planters.

Smokingcatapillar · 30/07/2017 20:43

She's not allowed to rent the space out, and I think she put a big concrete plant pot in the middle of it in March but came home to find it cracked down the middle.
Looking out the window I can see 2 bays opposite NDN on the other side of the road. All other houses have a driveway so I'm wondering if those bays are NDN and their NDN bays. I may have to call the housing to investigate

OP posts:
notreallythere · 30/07/2017 20:50

'Their response was 'why should we? You don't own a car, so what's the problem?"'

Oh this would make me cross. Not owning a car to keep in the space doesn't forfeit the space being her property! Is there anything she could put in it to claim it? Some big flowerpots maybe? Grin

notreallythere · 30/07/2017 20:52

Sorry, crosspost about the flower pot, I type too slowly!

Smokingcatapillar · 30/07/2017 20:54

I was cross too when I heard how they responded. I was in the kitchen and had just convinced my mum to ask them about parking in the next bay. It was an instant arsey attitude to a polite request.

OP posts:
Supersoaryflappypigeon · 30/07/2017 20:57

Picnic table-the wooden type with benches-should do it.

MyPatronusIsAUnicorn · 30/07/2017 21:00

SINBU. You should definitely go and speak to the neighbours. How rude of them just because of a crappy excuse about shoes and a puddle. It's not their bay = they can sod off.

Sugarcoma · 30/07/2017 21:00

Maybe buy a wrecked car on eBay and have it deposited there.

Mychildcouldnotbreaatfeed · 30/07/2017 21:05

Find out what bay belongs to what house before you do anything further

SantasLittleMonkeyButler · 30/07/2017 21:08

Surely the best thing to do is to complain to DM's Housing Officer & ask him/her to phone NDN (or send an official letter) pointing out which is their space and confirming that they are NOT to park in DM's space.

If the house she pays rent for includes that specific space, then it's her space. Her not having a car is utterly irrelevant.

Penny4UrThoughts · 30/07/2017 21:08

Buy a wrecked car, register it in NDN's name and leave it there. That way you don't need to worry about tax and insurance Grin

ASDismynormality · 30/07/2017 21:12

I agree with above, your DM needs to contact her housing officer to find out if the space really does belong to her and they can then help sort the issue.

Hulder · 30/07/2017 21:18

Wrecked car and SORN it. Or big flower pots. Or a picnic table. Or Housing Officer.

Or any combination of the above.

Puddle excuse is rubbish.

simon50 · 30/07/2017 21:20

Sorry I lost sympathy when I read that she's not willing to fork out for bollards !
I agree she should not have to, but when you have a CFN and if it's getting her so stressed ? I would have thought around £40 for a wide bollard (from Amazon) would be the best thing to do ?

simon50 · 30/07/2017 21:22

Why not just treat your mum to the bollard?

sobeyondthehills · 30/07/2017 21:24

I agree with PP posting, you need to find out if its actually hers.

Where I live with have one parking bay per house, however its not allocated parking, we all generally park in the same spot, but I can't complain if someone parks in the bay nearest to my house as its not allocated.

SheRaaarghPrincessOfPower · 30/07/2017 21:27

"Sorry I lost sympathy when I read that she's not willing to fork out for bollards !"

Thought that was a bit harsh, but then I looked up the parking bollards on amazon - I had no idea they were so cheap

Folding Bollard Post High Visible Yellow Red Reflective Round Shape Pole Parking Driveway Bollard Post www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B01CW3GW0O/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_NcKFzbVN0NT18?tag=mumsnetforum-21

Could she ask the landlord/council to install one?

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