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To ask NDN to park in bay 2

79 replies

Smokingcatapillar · 30/07/2017 20:14

Obviously I wouldn't trust any other group of people to help out with a parking thread,I am however posting on behalf of my DM. I understand rule of thumb is that a diagram must be posted so I've added one.
The jist is....DM's NDN keeps parking in bay 1 which is right next to her living room window and in front of her garden gate. She is a nervous 60+ and finds the car lights at night disturbing, not to mention the fact that the car blocks her gate, they occasionally open the car door too wide which bangs the wall. During the day they park half up the path/road directly outside their house then move the car in the evening. She asked them when they first moved in if they could park in bay 2 as bay 1 belonged to her. Their response was 'why should we? You don't own a car, so what's the problem?'
DM then explained about the lights, gate, banging etc to then be told that there is a muddy puddle right under the car door and that their kids end up
Stepping in it and ruining their shoes. DM got defensive and a bit arsey that they didn't respond the way she hoped and said they should be more worried about their children breathing in their smoke whilst in the car (she spies on them, nosey old lady don't judge lol)

It's got to the point now that DM drags her bin down the side of the path right up against their car hoping it will cause damage and deter them and they glare at her sometimes muttering things under their breath. She has now asked me to say something.

To ask NDN to park in bay 2
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Glumglowworm · 30/07/2017 21:32

The only relevant bit is that it belongs to her flat not theirs (I would double check this to make certain).

I rent privately a flat that comes with a parking space. I don't have a car. In two years I've only had two or three people park in it that weren't my guests, and they only stayed briefly. Even though my space is next to the entrance so is convenient. Because it's my space! And everyone has at least 1, some 2 parking spaces of their own. Plus a few visitors spaces for the building.

Do the neighbours rent from the same people? Can DM complain to them?

BeepBeepMOVE · 30/07/2017 21:33

Planters are the easiest and better looking than an old banger.

Doesn't matter if they have a crack in them.

She does sound a bit interfering though especially as your not even sure it's her space. The lights thing is ridiculous, it's once a night for what a minute tops?

Anecdoche · 30/07/2017 21:36

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Smokingcatapillar · 30/07/2017 21:38

ive mentioned everyone's suggestions, bollards/planters etc... but she just wants them to stop parking there.
I wouldn't have the first clue about fitting a bollard, or even if we'd be allowed to given it's not her property.
Any suggestions on how I can talk them round?

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Mychildcouldnotbreaatfeed · 30/07/2017 21:39

You can't really do anything until,you find out if it definitely belongs to your mother

upaladderagain · 30/07/2017 21:41

Your mum may have a spare bedroom, doesn't give them the right to sleep in it.
Sounds like they're just too bone idle to walk an extra five steps to their front door

SheRaaarghPrincessOfPower · 30/07/2017 21:43

You'd just need a masory drill and special bolts that you can't undo with a normal screwdriver I think.

Have you spoken to the neighbours? Don't explain, don't give reasons, just say that it's your mum's space and they have to stop parking there. Don't ask, tell. Politely, of course.

Bacere · 30/07/2017 21:44

Do they rent too? If not then take official action bearing in mind they are almost bullying an elderly lone person it would not look good to council/HA etc. If they rent then get the ones who rent it out to deal with them. Hate bullies.

Pretenditsaplan · 30/07/2017 21:49

Put gravel in the muddy puddle getting rid of the need to park in bay 1.

SoupDragon · 30/07/2017 21:53

Sorry I lost sympathy when I read that she's not willing to fork out for bollards

She doesn't own the house!

CaptainHammer · 30/07/2017 21:56

From their reaction they clearly aren't the kind of people who will 'just stop parking there' so a couple of big plant pots will (hopefully) stop it.

AutoCat · 30/07/2017 21:59

Agree that you need to find out who it belongs to.

We are in a row of four houses and we own two parking spaces out of four. They're next to our NDN's house. Which spaces belong to which house is marked on the deeds.

Original poster
Smokingcatapillar · 30/07/2017 22:04

Pretenditsaplan
I had the same idea, I've just filled in the hole.
They've moved their car into bay 2 now as I'm obviously still parked in bay 1 but they've parked really close to my drivers side Angry

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ChasingHighs · 30/07/2017 22:10

It might be the parking space for her house but I doubt she owns the space.

simon50 · 31/07/2017 09:44

Doubt if you will get anywhere by asking NDN if they are now parking so close to your car to prove some sort of point. (sorry if my first post was a bit harsh).
I must have missed the bit where she doesn't own the house. We have allocated parking and it is shown on the house deeds which space belongs to which house.

Guess you should contact who ever owns it to find out if the spaces are allocated and will they give you permission to fit a bollard as the NDN may just move the pots out of the way and if you need to buy heavy pots to place there, they may well cost more than bollards.

They are easy to fit, they normally come with bolts, so all you need is a drill (which I'm sure you could borrow if you don't have one) the right size drill bit and a spanner for the bolts.

Feilin · 31/07/2017 09:52

Hi there CFN! Can you do me a favour? Please stop parking in DM spot . Im asking because family are complaining they cant park when visiting and she is paying for the space after all. Any chance? If not Ill be seeking advice on her behalf . Seems it would be unfair for her to pay rent for something she isn't able to use now isn't it? Have a think about it. Thanks very much!

NormaSmuff · 31/07/2017 09:54

can she paint the number of her house on the bay?
and then ask the housing dept to do the same?

NormaSmuff · 31/07/2017 09:55

can she put her wheelie bin in there

CrosswordPuzzle · 31/07/2017 09:59

"It's got to the point now that DM drags her bin down the side of the path right up against their car hoping it will cause damage"

Your mother is a nasty, vindictive person and I hope if she causes damage she's prosecuted and it causes her real financial difficulties.

Does she have any redeeming qualities?

NormaSmuff · 31/07/2017 10:00

she shoudl put the bin in the middle of the bay while their car isnt in it, obviously

HoneyDragon · 31/07/2017 10:07

My colleague is a LL and a tennant (single mum) had a similar issue with a neighbour being bullied out of her parking spaces by another as hers were more convenient for his back gate.

He went around with the deeds to discuss rent and remuneration for the previous use of the space that he owned that he wished to be paid directly to his tennant to compensate her for the inconvenience. Grin Does your mum have a nice land lord?

Gingerandgivingzerofucks · 31/07/2017 10:13

Have you not spoken to the housing association yet? If not, why not? Have you spoken to the neighbour? If all else fails, go down the scrapyard and buy a wreck for £20.

SoupDragon · 31/07/2017 10:26

Does she have any redeeming qualities?

Do you?

flumpybear · 31/07/2017 10:31

Ask the housing company to send a letter to the neighbours - cheeky bastards, it makes shit all difference to them either way but they're clearly trying hard to distress your DM 😤

CrosswordPuzzle · 31/07/2017 11:09

SoupDragon

Yes, I abstain from spiteful criminal damage. HTH