ARE YOU SHIFTING ME?!

[Jessiecat27]

I'm fucking livid. Oh's 'D'gm came round yesterday, we've recently moved house and they both tidied and organised whilst I was out (really appreciated it) just gone to look for my council tax letter to send off along with a few other important documents and I can't find them anywhere. Checked in the bin and all of my bank statements, hospital letters, receipts for recently bought items I needed to keep have been shredded. No sign of anything else so I'm assuming they were also shredded and are in the bin outside! Would you go round to a family members house and bin their important documents?! I've never been so angry in my life.

see martin if you'd kept your yap shut there wouldn't be half as many swears in this thread as there is now

And what I meant to say was - isn't a goody fucker someone who really, really likes Bill Oddie?

They were absolutely not doing her a favour it wasn't their paperwork to touch.
OP spent ages hunting for it and raking in bins to find it. How the he'll is that helpful? Now her stuff is gone that's not helpful either. If you are tidying up you put other people's paperwork to the side for them to deal with not nosey through it and decide what they should keep and not keep.

Lweji: a forum is meeting or medium where ideas and views on a particular issue can be exchanged. So yes, this is a forum.

Willow
Some older people are weird about stuff like this.
I'd never go through someone else's papers but my mother wouldn't hesitate. At. All!

Glad it turned out to be your OH anyway OP, saved a stressful argument with the In laws!

gamerchick
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So true. Red rag to a field full of bulls.

I'll burn his dinner, I think that's a fair exchange 😂 think my pregnancy hormones got the better of me but glad it was him

Martin is that a...personal attack?

FanwankTheAbsurd : I would say calling somone a c*t and telling them to "f*k off" to another website is quite personal.

Most normal functional adults are able to converse in civility, without resorting to crass rudeness.

Cheers!
MJD

SASKIA, i love you. Please have my babies

MartinJD: every forum is different. There isn't a Universal Forum Law. On Mumsnet, people swear and that's more than OK. If you don't fucking like it, fuck off to Netmums or somewhere else.

Why do you keep 'signing' your posts? We can see it's you, your name is at the top of each one.

I also love a bit of cunting crass fucking rudeness.

YANBU Jessiecat27

My DH chucked out my important papers because he didn't need them once. I now keep letters that he needs in a paper mountain on a desk. He knows that if he chucks said paper mountain he's getting rid of whatever he will need at some point in the future.

I would be giving your DP an opportunity to go through the bin and put the documents back together. I can be done. Might take him a few months, but it is possible.

It's unfortunate that stuff got shredded but accidents do happen, unfortunately.

How do you "accidentally" shred someone else's papers? Shredding papers is a deliberate act, more so when it's shredding papers that are filed away safely.
OP's said that her important papers were filed away safely.

@MartinJD - you are doing the on-line equivalent of walking into a long-established coffee shop and complaining because it's not a pub. Or marching into a book group and saying it should be a gardening group instead.

MN works well for the vast majority of its active members - we like it the way that it is. You don't like the sweariness - that's fine, you don't have to like it. But you don't get to March in here demanding we all do things your way, instead of the way we like, which works for us.

So it is not unreasonable for another poster to point out that other parenting websites are available, and some of them have swear filters so may suit you better.

No crass rudeness???
You're definitely in the wrong place mate!!!

MJD ODFOD

Thought as much on the autocorrect shifting/shitting fail!! Perhaps Martin is controlling our autocorrect. Every time I write fucking it re-spells it as ducking. Does my ducking head in!

Feel for you on the paperwork, I go batshit if anyone touches it (& that is just if it is moved from my organised chaos).

For the avoidance of doubt, @MartinJD - I think it is the height of bad manners, and shows a stunning level of entitlement for you to start throwing your weight around and demanding that MN and MNers change to suit YOUR sensibilities.

I fucking called you "hun" didn't I? Cunt.

DH and I don't shred* each other's documents even if we know they're obsolete. It's simple courtesy. When we housesat we collected incoming post, removing unaddressed leaflets to the recycling, and left it in a pile.

*We have an obliterator nowadays so shred nearly nothing. For shred read render illegible then recycle.

gamerchick
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So true. Red rag to a field full of bulls

Tis alhough I get the feeling that this one knows quite well how things work in this place.

Apparently it was oh, I have always kept and filed all of my letters especially bills, bank statements and hospital letters. I have been seeing a consultant regarding something so a lot of letters has details of our discussions on them. He binned them because they weren't extremely recent but knows I still keep them as sometimes I need to refer back to them!

So, why did he do it?

You seem to be taking it very well.

I would be spitting bricks at your oh in that case especially as he knows why you keep them.

So, nothing to do with older relative?

What an odd thread