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AIBU?

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ARE YOU SHIFTING ME?!

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Jessiecat27 · 30/07/2017 14:45

I'm fucking livid. Oh's 'D'gm came round yesterday, we've recently moved house and they both tidied and organised whilst I was out (really appreciated it) just gone to look for my council tax letter to send off along with a few other important documents and I can't find them anywhere. Checked in the bin and all of my bank statements, hospital letters, receipts for recently bought items I needed to keep have been shredded. No sign of anything else so I'm assuming they were also shredded and are in the bin outside! Would you go round to a family members house and bin their important documents?! I've never been so angry in my life.

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BreconBeBuggered · 30/07/2017 15:47

I would go apeshit too. 'Helpful' in this context is putting letters that don't concern you to one side without even looking to see if they're current, let alone taking it upon yourself to shred the bloody things. How she stores her correspondence is the OP's business. Who in the name of fuck writes Do Not Shred on their own documents?

gunsandbanjos · 30/07/2017 15:50

YADNBU!! I'd be absolutely livid, I'm dying to know why they thought this was ok.

happypoobum · 30/07/2017 15:51

I would be fucking livid if anyone went through my personal documents and shredded them - who the fuck do they think they are?

Can you get their passports and shred them?

SweetErmengarde · 30/07/2017 15:55

Good one Jessiecat, I hadn't thought of that! :)

Goady f*er makes far more sense, though I'll hold my one in reserve...

gamerchick · 30/07/2017 16:01

odger81: Please try not to use such vulgar language

Heh properly laughed there, cheers man makes me want to tell the OP to kick their cunts in.

You're right OP they overstepped the mark. You just put shit in a tidy pile for the owner to deal with. Your bloke should have said something.

hatsoncats · 30/07/2017 16:04

MartinJD - fuck off to Netmums. Hun.

hatsoncats · 30/07/2017 16:09

Tell your DH what letters are missing and insist that he searches the entire house until they are all found.

Then buy yourself a huge locking metal box and hide both it and the keys. Make it quite clear to both of them that they have overstepped the mark and never to shred anything again. In fact, lock the shredder away in a cupboard as well. Complete invasion of your privacy, especially if they stood there reading your hospital letters before destroying them.

MartinJD · 30/07/2017 16:09

hatsoncats: Please try not to be so aggressive and rude. It is against forum rules.

Cheers.
MJD.

woodhill · 30/07/2017 16:09

Yanbu helpful to tidy and sort.

No way would you touch someone's paperwork let alone shred it.

MargaretTwatyer · 30/07/2017 16:14

I thought this was going to be about Irish people snogging.

RosyfingeredDawn · 30/07/2017 16:16

Me too Margaret

Oliversmumsarmy · 30/07/2017 16:18

How is it helping if it creates more work.

Lweji · 30/07/2017 16:20

Please try not to be so aggressive and rude. It is against forum rules.

The report button is that way ---->

"Forum rules"? This ain't no Forum. It's fucking MN.

backintown · 30/07/2017 16:23

'shifting me' is that an autocorrect fail? Shouldn't that be 'shitting me' or have I been getting the expression wrong all these years!?

Also Martin I fear you may have wandered in here from somewhere else a little less fucking sweary love, prob best to shuffle back off there I think if a few cunts and fucks offend your delicate sensibilities...

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 30/07/2017 16:24

@MartinJD - how was it an 'accident' that papers which had been filed away by the OP, ended up being shredded? An accident is when an important letter is in a pile of other stuff and gets shredded with that - going through someone's filing, and shredding stuff is not accidental, it is on purpose - and as such, is a real overstepping of the boundaries.

Willow2017 · 30/07/2017 16:26

Who in their right mind shreds someone else's mail without even asking first?
Who goes through paperwork in so done else's house?
What possessed them to think it was ok to shred hospital letters?

Who the fuck thinkk
s you should go through all your personal papers and stamp 'do not shred' on them for some random idiot to read to stop them destroying your stuff? You know the stuff they have no business reading in the first place.

Jeez I would be spitting bricks.

Martin is dear, if you are joining us then you need to get used to a lot worse than 'fuck' I have learned a whole world of imaginative swears on here😀 we are all adults a few sweary words won't kill us.

ColdAsIceCubes · 30/07/2017 16:27

The point is If the OP had bothered to file important documents away then perhaps there would not have been an issue here.

Ok people, if you don't file away your OWN paperwork to someone else's satisfaction you rescind your right to be mad or angry when that someone shreds said paperwork... Oh, wait... It's no one else's business to touch anyone else's personal paperwork!!

hatsoncats · 30/07/2017 16:30

MartinJD TO hatsoncats: Please try not to be so aggressive and rude. It is against forum rules.

I fucking called you "hun" didn't I? Cunt.

youngestisapsycho · 30/07/2017 16:31

I wouldn't dream of going in someone else's house and shredding anything! Any kind of paper work would be put in a pile and put to one side. I really can't believe anyone would think it was Ok?!

FanwankTheAbsurd · 30/07/2017 16:31

Martin, here on MN we grown-ups can be rude as long as it isn't a direct personal attack. So I could say someone's comments are fucking stupid but I can't say that someone is a dumb cunt, however much I might think it. If you want cute and fluffy then nethuns is the place for you. Oh, and another thing we grown-ups can do, is swear

OP, I'd be fucked off about this too, be interesting to see what your OH has to say for themselves.

Willow2017 · 30/07/2017 16:32

Someone - not done!!

Oh dear not is dear

Stupid fecking phone.

TheDragonMummy · 30/07/2017 16:34

What they did was wrong but I don't think anything malicious has been done here. (You should try dealing with my CRAZY mother!!!!)

My parents used to shred their documents regularly and I think a lot of people do now for safety so if they were tidying up for you and made the mistake that they were getting chucked then they could feel really bad about it.

I'd have a word but I wouldn't be too nasty or aggressive about it with them. They were after all doing you a favour.

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Jessiecat27 · 30/07/2017 16:34

Haha yeah it was an autocorrect fail! Apparently it was oh, I have always kept and filed all of my letters especially bills, bank statements and hospital letters. I have been seeing a consultant regarding something so a lot of letters has details of our discussions on them. He binned them because they weren't extremely recent but knows I still keep them as sometimes I need to refer back to them!

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SaskiaRembrandtWasFramed · 30/07/2017 16:35

I suspect Martin and his friend Constance have mistaken MN for Nethuns. Sorry, Martin, we are rude and sweary here, off you fuck if you don't like it. And Constance, we consider text speak and the word 'hun' to be hugely offensive, so you can fuck off too.

aaaaargghhhhelpme · 30/07/2017 16:35

I fucking called you "hun" didn't I? Cunt.

I laughed out loud at this.
Malcolm tucker would approve of this

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