AIBU to think nespresso machine not birthday present?

[bootygirl]

DH has asked that I ask if I am BU in thinking that just cos I love coffee and it's my birthday in 2 weeks that coffee maker is suitable birthday present from him? I was buying the €99 one as it's reduced to €70 with free froather when you buy pods for the 'house'.

I said that it's relevant if it's a luxury appliance it's still IMO a kitchen appliance & not a gift for me!
I liked it to me buying him a nice teapot cos he like s tea 😀

So is he right? Please be gentle!

So is your point that he's buying it for 'you' but really it will be used by both of you equally?

I can see why you don't want your 'gift slot' taken by something he wanted anyway.

It's a bit 'Homer's bowling ball', isn't it?

Just to clarify I am not grabby. I gave DH a list of gifts, as he asked for one all of which were well under €50. No coffee maker on it. It also included a family walk with coffee & cake at the end as this would be a lovely way to spend a birthday.

He now says if the gift is for both of us he wants the €200+ one as he does nt like the separate frother.
I also asked him if the power washer bought 2 weeks ago for him to wash his car was his birthday gift would he be happy and he said no!

Also to clarify I have asked and been bought a Xmas mug that was €8 and absolutely love it.
He is a wonderful DH and we have been married 19yrs.

It may not be a gift you would like but for others like myself it would be a great gift and I gave my DH one for his office.

I asked DP for one for my Christmas. DP doesnt drink coffee. I do and I like it. Separate frother.

If you say you love coffee and dont like coffee gifts then you dont really love coffee at all. Very grabby by OP.

Of course it would be a lovely present for some people, but its your birthday and you don't want it!! Nothing else is relevant really. If he insists on it being your gift because he wants one and can't justify it then he is being a twat

It's really difficult to ask what is an acceptable gift for someone or not.
Anything that isn't a basic requirement and mutually agreed upon as such in our house is a gift.
I didn't 'need' a dryer as clothes can be hung to dry so LOVE my gift of a dryer.
I didn't 'need' a new sofa as we had one and isn't wasn't a desperate need to get rid. I love my new sofa... new bed, new blender, bread maker, pan set... oh and my pyrex set.
DP would be thrilled with a powerwasher, just as he has been with a new tool box, a new tool or saw, phone etc etc. Where do you draw the line?
Yes it's all stuff for the 'house', but we are skint so all these things are luxuries to us that we couldn't really just go and get without serious savings (especially bed and sofa) that we either both really wanted (so joint present to ourselves) or that one of us wanted.

For my birthday I've asked for my car window to be fixed (electric window that doesn't work) from my DP and a new blender from my parents and siblings.

My DH got me one for Christmas last year and I love it

Does he like coffee too? Because if he does I'd be inclined to see it as a purchase for both of you conveniently disguised as a birthday present for you.

That was my first thought too.

A gift is for the person receiving it, not the person giving it.

Selavy that is a really excellent point.

Wow, did he ask for a list of gift ideas? If not, it sounds a bit as if you just want full control of what you get.
Maybe next year, just let him surprise you, and try to see the intent behind the gift, rather than haggling over what you're prepared to accept.

I think it really depends. If he's looking at a more expensive one because he doesn't like the separate aerocinno (the milk frother) then I can understand the problem. I think it'd be a good birthday gift and would count as one, if he wasn't upgrading for his own preferences.

Either way if you do get one and need any help with anything, feel free to DM me. (Used to work for them ^^;)

I think it's a good present! I was going to get my husband one, and he's bought me teapots, nice mugs etc before.

Men always want an easy solution to things.
You want a coffee maker....it's your birthday.....job done.
But it's a 'house' gift not just for you.
My partner once got me a tv 📺 as a birthday present. I was not amused.
Go n buy the coffee maker now then he will need to get you something else!!!

eggandchip
He ASKED for the list... I am not a control freak. I also asked DH for ideas when it's his birthday.

peaches we have also been skint and during those years would have bought household items & very small token gifts like a magazine or a small box of chocolates nothing wrong with it and better than putting ourselves under financial pressure.

It's a terrible present, all those pods are such a waste....misses point of thread....

ijustwant he is laughing here & said that was exactly his thought process 😂

I always laugh when I hear coffee lover and Nespresso and think of a venn diagram

I got my Nespresso machine for my birthday. It is what i asked for and i love it. I also requested a Kitchen Aid for Christmas one year and i love it also. I don't mind getting kitchen stuff at all as gifts.

Ooh I'd love a nice coffee maker!

I bought my DH a Lavazza one for his birthday and he loves it

I hate coffee so I wouldn't be happy if it was bought out of the usual family spending! Definitely a luxury purchase IMHO

Yabu

I was bought a pram for my birthday after our first born was born

I'd like that as a present. Or a quirky teapot come to that.