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AIBU to think nespresso machine not birthday present?

115 replies

bootygirl · 28/07/2017 11:41

DH has asked that I ask if I am BU in thinking that just cos I love coffee and it's my birthday in 2 weeks that coffee maker is suitable birthday present from him? I was buying the €99 one as it's reduced to €70 with free froather when you buy pods for the 'house'.

I said that it's relevant if it's a luxury appliance it's still IMO a kitchen appliance & not a gift for me!
I liked it to me buying him a nice teapot cos he like s tea 😀

So is he right? Please be gentle!

OP posts:
londonrach · 28/07/2017 11:56

Its an extra so a present unless you rich. Great present idea from dh. Yabu

Aridane · 28/07/2017 11:57

A fabulous and generous present

StepAwayFromCake · 28/07/2017 11:57

Hmm, cross-posted with your update re anniversaries. I can see now why you're a bit Hmmabout it.

TheFaerieQueene · 28/07/2017 11:58

I wouldn't want one as the pods are an environmental disaster.

BillBrysonsBeard · 28/07/2017 11:58

Ace present, I would love this. Who cares if he benefits too!

NC4now · 28/07/2017 11:59

It's a lovely present for a coffee lover. It's a world apart from buying you a new ironing board.

fruityb · 28/07/2017 12:00

I'd love a nice teapot as a present!

I think YABU. I would class that as a present - even if we both used it.

Floralnomad · 28/07/2017 12:00

I think it's perfectly acceptable as a present , irrespective of whether other family members will use it .

habenero20 · 28/07/2017 12:04

I don't really get it. You like coffee, think it's a good item, but don't think it is a gift?

there are house things that are purely for purpose (toilet brush, hoover etc) and then there are things that are also house things that are fun (coffee machine!). the former would not, IMO, be a list of appropriate gifts, but the latter would.

LoniceraJaponica · 28/07/2017 12:04

I think it would make a lovely present, and if he wants to make use of it as well, so what.

OH and I aren't grabby about stuff like this and often buy each other gifts that we might both enjoy - DVDs, kitchen stuff, recipe books, luxury goodies to eat etc.

I don't understand the "this is mine and you can't use it" mentality.

GardenGeek · 28/07/2017 12:04

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Chickenagain · 28/07/2017 12:05

My bean to cup was a CP.

Lizibet · 28/07/2017 12:07

I would be happy with it but it is your present so if you're not happy with then it's not a good present.

unfortunateevents · 28/07/2017 12:07

My youngest son gave me a teapot as a 50th birthday present! I love it, it's one of my best presents ever (Le Crueset non-drip in case anyone is interested) and I loved it all the more because he was only 14 when he bought it so it showed some real thought.

ComtesseDeSpair · 28/07/2017 12:07

I think luxury or frivolous kitchen stuff is definitely gift territory. It's not the same as new everyday saucepans.

It's pretty difficult to buy gifts if the rule is that only the recipient may use them or get enjoyment from them - as long as it's something you really want which you probably wouldn't buy for yourself or would save up for, it's a potential gift in my books.

cushioncovers · 28/07/2017 12:10

Yabu if it's going to be your coffee machine.

Yanbu if everyone else in the house will use it the same as they would dishwasher or microwave etc.

Linguaphile · 28/07/2017 12:10

My nespresso machine was a Christmas present. I was thrilled.

SpearmintTea · 28/07/2017 12:12

I've just bought DH a pizza oven for his birthday. If it makes you happy to use it, it's fine as a present. I'd be less keen on something like a vacuum or a washing machine as a present.

Eggandchipsfortea93 · 28/07/2017 12:12

I said that it's relevant if it's a luxury appliance it's still IMO a kitchen appliance & not a gift for me!
I liked it to me buying him a nice teapot cos he like s tea 😀
You're quite right, it IS relevant that its a luxury item, its not like he's buying you a fridge, which you need anyway, and is for everyone in the house.
No one needs a nespresso machine, you love coffee, so its a nice present for you. Teapots cost a lot less, and almost everyone has on already, so its not really a fair comparison (tho I HAVE received a nice teapot as a gift, and thought that was very nice of the giver too).

selavy · 28/07/2017 12:14

I think it's a lovely gift - would you be thinking the same way if he took you for a nice meal on your birthday and he also ate? Just because you're getting something that others can partake in, doesn't necessarily mean it's not for you IMO

toastandbutterandjam · 28/07/2017 12:15

We got a Tassimo for my mum years ago. She uses it everyday. My sister occasionally has a hot chocolate from it. She's always said it's her favourite present - she keeps eyeing up the newer versions now though, so I may consider buying her a new one as she loves this one so much.

However, buying one for me would be pointless because I don't like coffee, tea or any hot drinks what is wrong with me

It's a great gift!

Eggandchipsfortea93 · 28/07/2017 12:15

I would be happy with it but it is your present so if you're not happy with then it's not a good present.
That would make sense if the OP was saying she didn't want this gift, then it wouldn't be chosen with care for her - but as she definitely does want it, I think saying its not a good gift because she wants to get this as not-a-gift, and also get a present, sounds a bit spoiled tbh.

LetBartletBeBartlet · 28/07/2017 12:17

Mine was a birthday present. YABU

Eggandchipsfortea93 · 28/07/2017 12:21

My ex bought me a martial arts DVD one birthday, which I had no interest in, but he had mentioned that he wanted! - I'd have been pretty excited about a nespresso machine after that :-D!

eatabagofdicks · 28/07/2017 12:22

Asked my dh if he would consider it a good gift. He said it depends on how excited the person is about receiving it. I agree. (Though vacuum cleaners and other gadgets excite me Grin)