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FlowerSour · 27/07/2017 00:28

So I went to a local café today with a friend (in Tesco after an hour long shop for some time to myself Grin ) and I only wanted one single bloody coffee. And that's important to note for the next bit of the story.

Anyway, this café has a long serving hatch and you push your tray down from right to left. It goes cakes, hot food, drinks.

I only wanted the bloody coffee. No cake or hot food. And it's just me and two old ladies in the queue, who- for about five minutes- have been standing next to the hot meals bit umming and ahhing over the hot meals. As they hadn't even chosen yet, I sidled past them, got my coffee AND paid for it before they'd even chosen their hot food.

See poorly executed diagram below.


After I'd done this and paid, one of the old ladies decided to visit my table and announce in a hoity toity voice, "We had manners back when I was your age! How dare you push in front of us!"

She then swore at me, by this point other people are staring, then went back to her friend and continued to glare at me for the rest of my coffee.

Now, who in this situation is unreasonable?

I genuinely don't think I was. They were not queuing to pay... they hadn't even chosen.

So was I being unreasonable for sidling round them to get to the till when they had no intention of paying at that moment in time and were a good five metres away from the till?

Surely I was not expected to wait behind them whilst they spent another five minutes deciding what to have?

And yes, this is a trivial AIBU. I am aware and apologise in advance. Grin

OP posts:

thereallochnessmonster · 27/07/2017 00:30

YANBU! If you only want a hot drink, you can go in front of food people. They were being U.


FlowerSour · 27/07/2017 00:30

Sorry please ignore the "with a friend" in the first line, it was the old lady with a friend, not me, not sure how that got there

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ligersaremyfavouriteanimal · 27/07/2017 00:30

YANBU what did you say back??


tangledup123 · 27/07/2017 00:31

I would have done the same as you.


Gingerandgivingzerofucks · 27/07/2017 00:33

YANBU, I've done the sme myself if someone is queuing for food and I only wanted a drink. She swore at you? And claimed she had manners? Hilarious!


joangray38 · 27/07/2017 00:33

Doesn't gave many manners if she swears


BadLad · 27/07/2017 00:33

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MissBax · 27/07/2017 00:33

I would have (and have done) the same as you!

PS - mighty impressed with your diagram! 👏


SpeckleDust · 27/07/2017 00:34

She swore at you? She seems to have lost those manners she claims to have had in the past.



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DustyCropHopper · 27/07/2017 00:42

YANBU! Everyone does that don't they, in that sort of system? If you are not ordering hot food or choosing a cake you move to the next part, drinks! Obviously if they had ordered their food and were moving towards the drinks then you would have been wrong to overtake, but as they were still deciding/ordering then no problem!


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MargaretTwatyer · 27/07/2017 00:46

Sounds like she could have dementia of some sort.


MeanAger · 27/07/2017 00:47

She was UR!

I'd have Hmm faced her and carried on with my coffee.


KeepServingTheDrinks · 27/07/2017 00:48

TBH, I'd WANT to slide past, but wouldn't have the nerve. Usually in those places (supermarkets, coffee shops, etc) they're SO BLOODY SLOW preparing the hot drinks, that you run the risk of them having made their choice and being ready to move on, at which point you would be blocking them in.

However, the polite thing would have been for them to have waved you on.

Horrid thing to happen. Have a hassle-free Brew from me.


Theycalledmethewildrose · 27/07/2017 00:53

"We had manners back when I was your age! How dare you push in front of us!"

"What a shame you don't have them any more"

^^ This!


viques · 27/07/2017 01:04

Depends how many people are serving. Sometimes at our tescos cafe there is only one server /till person. In that case they should serve the old ladies and take their money before you get your coffee.

You could always have said 'do you mind if I go ahead, I only want coffee'


becausebecausebecause · 27/07/2017 01:04

YANBU. I do this all the time! Why the heck should you stand there ages while they dawdle? It's not table service, it's every man for himself service!


AntiHop · 27/07/2017 01:07

If you delayed someone serving her for food when you got your coffee, yabu. If there was a separate person doing coffee, yanbu and I've done the same.


Nationcreationbusstation · 27/07/2017 01:14

That's hilarious, a complete overreaction from them


WhatToDoAboutThis2017 · 27/07/2017 01:18

YANBU. They were the ones lacking manners!


MrsOverTheRoad · 27/07/2017 01:30

YANBU but it might have been better if you'd said "I only want a coffee, would you mind if I order that whilst you choose?"

They'd have said "Oh no of course not!"

Or they'd have been very rude themselves.


Italiangreyhound · 27/07/2017 01:35


They were rude.

Why should you stand behind them while they choose their food.

Ignore them.


weaselwomble · 27/07/2017 01:40

I suspect you were in my local Tesco OP that set up sounds very familiar. They were BU. Grin

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