To tell DH he needs to replace this out of his own pocket

[GandolfBold]

DH decided to use our dyson to clean the garage floor, which made the inside filthy. His solution was to try and wash it out (told him it was a bad idea but this was ignored). Dyson now gone to the utility room in the sky.

I have a kilner jar I save my change in, and have been saving for ages for a specific purpose. Tonight DH has said I should take it to the bank and use the money to replace the Dyson.

AIBU to say to him that he needs to replace it out of his own pocket? He can afford to, and he is the reason why its broken.

I got a vax cordless recently, I paid for it myself because I wanted it and we already had a perfectly good "big" hoover. If DH broke it them damn right he would pay for the replacement!

Hide your jar from the twat.

Deduct the cost of the replacement from the joint account.

As you have also paid into the joint account, take out 50% extra.

E.g. If the replacement costs £300, take out £450 from the account. Do I have my maths right?

Another one here who doesn't 'get' why a couple who are married (or have been together more than 10 years,) have separate finances/separate savings.

Not the kind of marriage I would like to be in. Even if one of us was earning twice what the other one was earning, we would pool everything together.

I have seen people separate everything, and it's always when SHE earns less, and it's so uncomfortable and awkward to watch them split everything down to the last penny, and have him say 'you owe me £1.25, don't forget!'

Re the OP, a hoover SHOULD come out of the joint household budget.

How and why do people live with separate finances when they are a couple?

Don't get it.

It wasn't like he broke it on purpose.

He ran an electrical item under the tap to clean it, that doesnt come under the title "accident" to me. Its at best being a total fuckwit and at worst showing a total lack of concern or respect for something that someone else paid for. I bet he would be thinking differently if the OP ran his phone under the tap.....

I dont get why married couples have seperate finances

Every. Fucking. Time.

So what if you dont understand? You dont need to understand in order to answer the OP's question, unless the concept confuses you so much you are rendered incapable of reading

He broke it, he replaces it, easy. Cheeky twat saying you use it so you should pay for a new one!

He ran an electrical item under the tap to clean it, that doesnt come under the title "accident" to me. Its at best being a total fuckwit and at worst showing a total lack of concern or respect for something that someone else paid for. I bet he would be thinking differently if the OP ran his phone under the tap.....

The OP said that he ran the storage bin under the tap, I don't know how that fucked it up because on my cordless Dyson the storage bin comes off and has no electrical parts in it.

He broke it; he should replace it. He's being a knob to suggest otherwise.

Tell him you're happy not to replace, or 'use it'. He can buy the new one and, as it will then be his, he can 'use it' twat.

What does it matter whether you know how it fucked it up?

Why be so nit picky? She says he broke it, I am happy to take her word for it.

@PyongyangKipperbang
So what if you dont understand? You dont need to understand in order to answer the OP's question, unless the concept confuses you so much you are rendered incapable of reading

Chill the fuck out. And quit the personal attacks!

I am entitled to an opinion, as are the others on this thread that can't understand couples having separate finances!

Hit a raw nerve have I?!

Chill out PyongyangKipperbang, I'm just saying that washing the bin shouldn't have fucked it up, obviously he managed it somehow

It wasnt a personal attack. Calling you a narrow mined fuckwit would be an attack, but I didnt.

Hah, PyongyangKipperbang has not just pissed me off.

Pyong - but people don't understand how this kind of set up works. Things break all the time in houses. I just can't imagine having a conversation along the lines of "you broke it, you pay for it". It sounds exhausting. Do people only buy their own food as well?

*minded

Oh and no raw nerve here thank you. We have completely shared finances, but I am capable of realising that there are other ways of doing things.

@PyongyangKipperbang

What does it matter whether you know how it fucked it up?

Why be so nit picky? She says he broke it, I am happy to take her word for it.

It wasnt a personal attack. Calling you a narrow mined fuckwit would be an attack, but I didnt.

Fuck me - someone's over tired.

Time for bed for you methinks. You're ranting and flaming now hunnie.

Night night now. Toodles...

Silver sometimes its the principle. When DH broke my laptop by being a complete twat (by his own admission) he saved up out of his "pocket money" (the amount we both have to spend as we wish) to replace it. We couldnt take it out of the joint money as we couldnt afford it and I certainly shouldnt have had to given that I looked after it and it was him that broke it.

Same as I would if I had broken something of his by being an idiot. Things break and need replacing, thats different but when it is done either with malice or carelessness or thoughtlessness then I think that that is different.

@Silverst0rm

Pyong - but people don't understand how this kind of set up works. Things break all the time in houses. I just can't imagine having a conversation along the lines of "you broke it, you pay for it". It sounds exhausting. Do people only buy their own food as well?

Exactly. I (like many others) can't fathom how a relationship can work like this.

God forbid we have a fucking opinion though eh?

ODFOD

"DH saved up out of his pocket money."

You couldn't make it up!

I'm done!

ODFOD

Nice.

(I wash the canister of my handheld Dyson, you just separate it from the battery first by pretending you are taking the filter out )

If you're both a bit shit with money/in a controlling relationship, then separate finances are the way to go. Equally, in some cases it just never occurs to you to officially pool your money, although you may be transferring between accounts for various bills & bits.

YANBU OP - he broke it, he pays for it. Had he not been a twat about using it, it wouldn't have broken. You shouldn't subsidise him being a bit daft.