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To tell DH he needs to replace this out of his own pocket

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GandolfBold · 25/07/2017 18:10

DH decided to use our dyson to clean the garage floor, which made the inside filthy. His solution was to try and wash it out (told him it was a bad idea but this was ignored). Dyson now gone to the utility room in the sky.

I have a kilner jar I save my change in, and have been saving for ages for a specific purpose. Tonight DH has said I should take it to the bank and use the money to replace the Dyson.

AIBU to say to him that he needs to replace it out of his own pocket? He can afford to, and he is the reason why its broken.

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GandolfBold · 25/07/2017 19:18

Why the hell are you in a marriage where you're saving change in a jar and he can afford a Dyson outright?

I can afford to but the hoover outright too. Savings in a jar is just something I have always done since I was a child that has carried on to my adult years.

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user1492692527 · 25/07/2017 19:19

Maybe you could use his electric drill to whip up some cake mix. Idiot...

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GandolfBold · 25/07/2017 19:20

We have our joint bills account, which we both pay into, then we have separate accounts for our own spending.

It works for us.

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kindermog · 25/07/2017 19:22

As you bought it originally you've already paid for it once.

Magicpaintbrush · 25/07/2017 19:24

I can't believe his reasoning is because you use it - ungrateful twat!! He should be thanking you for taking the tedious chore of hoovering off his to-do-list, not presenting you with a bill to pay for a Dyson HE bloody broke. I would go on Hoover strike if I was you - why are you doing it all and he doesn't help? Because he's a man and too busy and important to lower himself to 'women's work'? He broke it, he pays for it. Unbelievable.

Pengggwn · 25/07/2017 19:33

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Twistmeandturnme · 25/07/2017 19:36

I'm not engaging with the separate money horror because lots of relationships work like that....but what was he picking up from the garage floor that broke the dyson? wtf? I cannot imagine anything that someone with a normal perception would try to pick up with a vacuum cleaner of any brand that would break it. Was he drunk? This isn't a household expense/maintenance replacement t's a fuckwittage idiot breakage. It doesn't matter where it comes from: it needs a review of idiocy! It needs replacing: as you don't have a joint fund he should pay.

britbat23 · 25/07/2017 19:38

What did it matter that the vacuum cleaner was "filthy inside"? Isn't that the point of the inside of a vacuum cleaner?

Twistmeandturnme · 25/07/2017 19:38

...engaging in spite of myself....he used the dyson for garage dust/grime, them washed out the filters and the dust receptacle according to the instructions...why and how is it broken? Please don't tell me he ran the whole thing under the tap!?

Mycarsmellsoflavender · 25/07/2017 19:50

Why wouldn't you buy the replacement out of the joint account?

Our Dyson was used by the builders to vacuum up large amounts of dust which you're not supposed to and is still going strong several years later. Unless he'd vacuumed up liquid, I don't think just vacuuming a dirty garage would damage it. Maybe it was on its way out anyway.

seven201 · 25/07/2017 20:03

Mycars, the dust wasn't the problem, it was the water he tried to clean it with that broke it.

He should bloody pay for it. I'm so angry that he thinks you should pay as you use it. Twat.

Mycarsmellsoflavender · 25/07/2017 20:36

So what part of it did he wash, OP? The whole thing including the electrical parts? Shock You can wash out the dust cylinder and filters, dry them out and put them back together ( in fact you should wash the filters regularly) and that would have sorted it out fine.

Calvinlookingforhobbs · 25/07/2017 20:39

The husndand is not being fair. FYI Henry has proven much better than dyson for us!

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GandolfBold · 25/07/2017 21:45

Its a hand held so he took the clear bit that gathers all the dust and ran it under the tap to clean it. I am assuming that water got in the battery/motor.

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Silverst0rm · 25/07/2017 21:55

If you have your own separate accounts (except for bills), how on earth do you decide who pays for anything, let alone a Dyson? Who buys the furniture? Who buys the bin bags? How do you keep track of anything?

JenziW · 25/07/2017 22:01

I never really understand household where people are married but have separate finances but each to their own.
Your DH is BU. He broke it he should replace it.

BloodWorries · 25/07/2017 22:08

If it was accidentally broken through use (ie you used to oven to make tea and it blew up somehow) then of course it should be a joint account purchase to replace it.
If you used someone, let's say the iron, and he said "you can't iron that top on the highest setting, it will melt and destroy the iron" and you did it anyway then it would be your fault for not listening and I'd be saying you need to replace it out of your own money.
It's not on using something, ignoring advice about what not to do or to do then expecting the other person to replace it when you break it.

Xmasbaby11 · 25/07/2017 22:10

It would be a joint purchase. House things come out of a joint account or however you work it.

It was am accident and it needs replacing. I wouldn't make a massive deal of this.

timeisnotaline · 25/07/2017 22:13

Does he have a computer? Or a bike? Or a ds? Break them. He will replace them, because he uses them. Obviously.

OnionKnight · 25/07/2017 22:14

It comes out of the joint account surely? It wasn't like he broke it on purpose.

harshbuttrue1980 · 25/07/2017 22:17

He was making a genuine effort to clean the garage floor, made a mistake and it broke. Of course it should be paid for jointly!! If you ca afford a Dyson, then I doubt you're on the poverty line so just get another one.

5OBalesofHay · 25/07/2017 22:17

Why does it matter who broke it or who pays for it? Grow up.

Lambzig · 25/07/2017 22:19

When DH and I first moved in together and definitely had separate finances, he used my fairly new Dyson to Hoover the patio (no I don't know how he thought that was a good idea). Obviously he replaced it.

He should definitely replace it.

WaspsAreBastards · 25/07/2017 22:25

YANBU. He broke it, he should replace it. He was advised as to how not to break it.

Odoreida · 25/07/2017 22:30

the reason why people get furious when they get hoovers as presents is because the hoover is something that benefits all people in the house. No matter who uses it, it is for everyone, including any children who don't have money of their own - it is for their hygiene and health. So it unquestionably comes out of household expenditure.