To want to sign up to something a bit dodgy to try and make friends

[lemonandelderflower]

Obviously, when I say a bit dodgy I don't mean illegal but a selling group.

I don't think I'd be very good at selling things so I'm not too worried about that but the women on it seem friendly and so I'm wondering about signing up for it (it's not very much to join) and just trying to get involved in the social side of things?

Or is this crazy?

I'm enjoying the videos, tips and chats so far.

If you think that you will enjoy it then why not? It's hard to say really without knowing what it is!

That's not real. They are selling you this lifestyle. Once you're in, it'll be all pressure and targets and if you aren't great at selling it will be awful.

There must be other places to make friends? What are your interests, are there and groups with those in mind?

...Are there any..

I don't get to get out an awful lot is the problem upper and I find when you join groups the emphasis is on whatever you've joined not making friends. Certainly I can't imagine joining say, horse riding once a week and having chats online with other horse riders. I just mean that as an example by the way.

They are 'friendly' to suck people in. It's all smoke and mirrors.

I think I know that on one level but it's still 'entertainment' and interaction

Yeah, I understand. I think lots of other people feel similarly and I think these selling groups exploit that by giving the impression of being a community.

Some things lend themselves more to generating friendships that others. Walking groups can be good because the pace of it and nature of it means there's lots of opportunity to talk. Interest groups, like book groups are similar. You need to be strategic in picking an activity that draws on a shared activity.

Maybe it's just me then as I never find things go any further than the activity itself

Is it an MLM?

Yes, it's selling makeup. I wouldn't actually be selling any though.

Is it younique ?

It is although like I say I wouldn't actually be selling it myself.

I would really not go down the MLM route if you're just looking for new friends.

How much spare time do you have? Would you consider volunteering? That might be a better approach to making friends in a positive community?

You can try, but I agree with others re smoke and mirrors. I'd try to find a local volunteering/community type thing that you can get involved with.

Join a book club.

They are bloody frustrating because nobody ever wants to talk about the book for more than 2 minutes, and half the time half the people haven't read it, and the ones who have only want to say innocuous, bland things so as not to annoy anyone with a different opinion.

So that might be what you're looking for :o

Don't start doing MLM - this is a good blog to read if you are tempted

You will not make new friends.

You will lose the old ones.

as another poster suggested - volunteering would get you out and help you meet people.

Thanks, I do volunteer and I enjoy it. But it's not really a friend-maker. I mean, it's nice when I'm there but it's evenings / weekends when I'm stuck at home alone I really desperately feel the lack of adult company and friends no matter how you make them are tied up doing their own things then.

But what would you be doing if not selling?

Either signing on as a presenter and just not making much effort with selling ... but this costs money because you have to buy the first pack and then you're going to be pressured constantly (because the person above you makes money when you make money) on why you haven't sold anything. Even if you're happy to sell one mascara a month or whatever, you'll be subsidising this out of your own pocket because they charge delivery etc and you just charge the price of the mascara (the commission is, I understand, less than delivery so you only break even if you are doing bulk orders). If you do a party you need samples to show people, all of which you've had to pay for.
It would be an expensive hobby.

Could you joins craft group? I've found my local ones are full of moms and nans so usually around for chats and the like evenings and weekends. Also lots of crafts are easy to do while chatting and the ladies there are an absolute wealth of knowledge and love to share so if you can ask them questions and are willing to learn they adore you. Knit and natter are a good place to start, I went when I couldn't crochet but wanted to learn, making lots of bits now and joining other groups the ladies recommend, plus they like going for coffee/ trips to new craft shops so there's usually something on.

Yes, I think a few people do this - "kit-napping"?

I wouldn't be doing parties or selling anything at all. Maybe it is stupid. But I can't think of any other ways to have a group of people to just chat to.

I'll look into that thanks, I imagine ours are more on during the week during the day though.

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Do i know you? Are you in my book club? All they want to talk about is how disappointing the latest boden catalogue is

Craft groups are good like lovely suggests

Card making is dead easy