AIBU?
To feel hurt and being treated like this,am I over reacting?
Lauraagh · 25/07/2017 10:07
After swearing off men for years in March I met a guy off tinder.
Texted for 3 weeks before we met and got on brilliant,had our first date,got on well,conversation was great,felt comfortable etc.
Had another 8-9 dates after that all brilliant and he initiated every date.
We text/spoke every day and then he asked if we were gf/bf I said of course.
He spoke about the future and I thought everything was good.
Only problem he didn't drive and had to take public transport over (1 hour) and it was starting to become a lot after 10 hour shifts at work.
Anyway it got to June and one week out of the blue I noticed he wasn't texting as much and we felt a bit distant.
I asked was he ok? Stressed with work? Or was he not really into it etc,I said if distance is a problem or you think it won't work let me know.
He said he was stressed with work.
He stayed at mine on the Friday night and he spoke about plans for my birthday.
I never seen him again.
He just disappeared,no explanation nothing.
I sent him a message 3 weeks later and he replied "having a tough time at the mo,you did nothing wrong"
(The 3 weeks he was silent he still had me on Facebook and snapchat)
1 week later he removed me from social media ..the next day he was listed as "in a relationship with xxxx xxxxx"
So basically that was why he did it.
She was a local girl to him and lived in his town.
I'm so hurt,I know it was only a matter of months but I was falling in love with him.
I'm still struggling and don't understand what I did wrong.
He went from 1 week saying he missed me and making a effort exhausted after work to see me to being with someone else.
BenedictCumberbeyatch · 25/07/2017 10:21
What a prick, didn't have the guts to end it when you gave him the chance (probably keeping options open incase it didn't work out with local girl) him being lovely was probably all fake too, I think you've had a lucky escape from this man, anyone who can treat you so poorly is not worth your time or your tears.
You deserve better.
SaucyJack · 25/07/2017 10:32
Ah, that's shit.
The distance isn't an excuse for his behaviour tho. A half-decent man would have had the morals to break it off before going shopping for a replacement.
Allow yourself one week of wallowing, and then draw a line and move on.
He isn't worth any more headspace.
Nettletheelf · 25/07/2017 10:33
What a twat. And a coward. Just remember that this isn't about you and that he's probably done it to lots of people. What a hollow, empty life he must have.
Yes, I remember that gut feeling where you just know that something has changed in the relationship. It's horrible. Spend a week getting over it then don't give him any more of your time. Move on. That's the best revenge.
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