To feel hurt and being treated like this,am I over reacting?

[Lauraagh]

After swearing off men for years in March I met a guy off tinder.
Texted for 3 weeks before we met and got on brilliant,had our first date,got on well,conversation was great,felt comfortable etc.
Had another 8-9 dates after that all brilliant and he initiated every date.
We text/spoke every day and then he asked if we were gf/bf I said of course.
He spoke about the future and I thought everything was good.
Only problem he didn't drive and had to take public transport over (1 hour) and it was starting to become a lot after 10 hour shifts at work.
Anyway it got to June and one week out of the blue I noticed he wasn't texting as much and we felt a bit distant.
I asked was he ok? Stressed with work? Or was he not really into it etc,I said if distance is a problem or you think it won't work let me know.
He said he was stressed with work.
He stayed at mine on the Friday night and he spoke about plans for my birthday.
I never seen him again.
He just disappeared,no explanation nothing.
I sent him a message 3 weeks later and he replied "having a tough time at the mo,you did nothing wrong"
(The 3 weeks he was silent he still had me on Facebook and snapchat)
1 week later he removed me from social media ..the next day he was listed as "in a relationship with xxxx xxxxx"
So basically that was why he did it.
She was a local girl to him and lived in his town.
I'm so hurt,I know it was only a matter of months but I was falling in love with him.
I'm still struggling and don't understand what I did wrong.
He went from 1 week saying he missed me and making a effort exhausted after work to see me to being with someone else.

Thankyou I'm going to wait a few weeks then join match I think at least like you say it could have some decent people on this one.
I think it's so easy to cut people off when you know you won't bump into them anywhere.

Then he said "wait till you see me for what I am"

Yes it was his personality he was referring to. Someone who says that kind of thing knows that they're going to end up being an arsehole to you because that's what he's done to every other girlfriend he's had.

People like this have this weird self-sabotaging paradoxical insecurity thing going on - even though they identify the partner as being better than them ("why would someone like you even be interested in someone like me" etc) they don't count their blessings and hang onto the relationship but instead constantly look elsewhere for the next unwitting victim/conquest. Maybe there's a mentality of 'get out before she cottons on to what I'm like and gives me the boot', but I'm not sure it's necessarily that conscious a process.

Either way, the one thing it isn't is YOU. There was absolutely nothing you could have changed about yourself or the circumstances that would have stopped him behaving like this - please don't forget that.

Hopefully soon the feeling like crap about myself part will start to get better.
I actually miss him too.