To not want DH to go to to Thorpe Park because tbh im jealous?

[MummyMiddleton]

I am almost 6 months pregnant (due Nov. 10)

DH and I have been invited to Thorpe Park next week. I have said there is no point in me going as I wont be able to do much apart from eat and sit on the fake beach. But DH still wants to go. I really want to be ok with him going but at the same time I am VERY VERY jealous. I love theme parks and thrill rides. I live for them. I cant wait to be able to go on them again and one day we can take Daniel too. I know pregnancy doesnt last forever and I would rather have our baby than a one day fun experience. But it still hurts to see other people having fun when you are not

Should I ask him nicely not to go or should I just bite my tounge and say fuck it? Its either I upset DH or I upset myself? Aibu?

Claire

Most people use them for sweeping, but yes

DH does the website and half of the accounts and I do the arty stuff and the other half of the accounts

mummy do they come with an MOT, tax and insurance

Back to the original question. Yes I can understand you not wanting your partner to have fun without you. But you are unreasonable to try and stop him. Your life will change so much when Daniel is here that I am afraid there will be no more gaming days so make the most of the free time now.

On a serious note OP, is this business your only source of income for you and DH? Is that going to be enough when the baby arrives?

claire

You can be a parent and still have hobbies. I know parents who game when they can. I also know parents who sew and crochet and I know a parent who paints. You can still have some me time, just not as much. We wont be able to spend whole days gaming, but we can game when Daniel is alseep or occupied safely. We are going to take him to gaming convensions and get him into it as early as we can anyway.

Sounds like Daniel is already on a roller coaster ride!!!
Do you have an engagement ring??? Is it diamond ???
Maybe not a roller coaster ...but a Minecraft!!???

Do you really like Daniel???? I think Dennis is a nicer name or even Stampy???

Have fun!!!

KitKat

Actually, we make quite a lot from it. We own our 3 bed house.

VinIsGroot

Like I said, we didnt intentionally name him after DanTDM. We just found out his surname is Middleton too and we dont want to change his name just because our surname makes his name the same as Dans. Its cute anyway, he is a mini TDM lol.

So I'm going to be blunt and say this op- some of you comments are rather concerning, if your making comments like that after something small like the recommendations about eating, how do you think your going to handle a baby? I'd strongly suggest talking to your midwife about mental health

Imer

Im fine really. I was just pissed off at myself for missing something so blatantly obvious. I could have seriously harmed Daniel. You would feel pretty rubbish too, it has nothing to do with mental helath. Its not a small, innocent mistake. Its a huge, very preventable mistake

There's people out there doing heroin, smoking and boozing while pregnant. Give this woman a break - let's educate not judge. She knows now and will be careful with what she eats. Congratulations on your baby.

Refilona

Thanks x At least im not one of them. Gotta count your blessings, eh?

Harriet me too!

we can game when Daniel is alseep or occupied safely.

Excuse me but.... hahahahahahahahahahahahahaha!!!! I am an avid gamer, I might get an hour a week in total on a good one. You can't do anything while they're awake after a while as they want a go. You can't game when they're a baby as you're too tired or use that time to actually brush your teeth or get dressed or clean your house.

Enjoy your minecraft day as you won't get any of those once he's here lol.

fruityb

We will gladly let him have a go. We are taking him to convensions too when he is a couple of years old. You act like parents with babies are not allowed hobbies. I know plenty of people with LOs who also have their own time. Its not a prison sentance. Its a kid. Someone to share your time with and to love and treasure. Not a burden to ruin your life.

You talk like we wont get a single snippet of minecraft once he arrives. We wont be able to game to the extent we do now, but we can still have a little fun when we can. Its going to be different, we know that. But it doesnt have to mean all or nothing.

Honestly mummy you are getting a hard time on here please take no notice. All these comments come from perfect mums who do everything correctly . It is difficult when you miss out on something when you are used to taking part but it won't be forever. Sounds like you are doing just fine please don't be hard on yourself due to comments from the perfect mummies!!!!

I am aware I have an 11 month old trying to eat my knee as I type this. What I am saying is that your hobbies won't be the same for quite some time. I like crochet but can't when he's up as he tries to eat the wool or crawl off with it. I like gaming but I also don't want to ignore my son when I'm playing. Plus the stuff I like to play I won't be playing in front of him as it's not appropriate.

I don't have my own time unless he's sleeping. When he's up my attention is on him as it's often me and him at home while his dad is at work still as he finishes later than me. Or when it's school holidays it's us all day. choice between playing with him and switching on my playstation - I know which one I choose.

Your hobbies will stall for a long time. Gaming not an option when there are bottles to be sterilised or the washing up to do or you needing a shower. And I say that as someone with a great other half - just DS really does take most of my time. And I am fine with that. My playstation will wait/

And of course you'll have mine craft time, just not a lot of it!!

Whatsforu

Thanks x I hate how people expect you to just ditch all personality and hobbies you have once you have kids and just become this carbon copy Mary Poppins, yummy mummy, feminine housewife. Its so trad and annoying. Just because you have a baby doesnt mean you leave all your character and all the things you enjoy behind. You are still you!

Just because you have a baby doesnt mean you leave all your character and all the things you enjoy behind

I do love scraping weetabix off the skirting board and being shouted awake at 4.30.

Of course you don't have to - but you have to be realistic about the time you get to do these things when you have a small person who wants to stick their fingers in your ears. Plus you won't want to as much as you'll want to spend your time interacting with them. I still stick assassins creed on when I get the chance - but when I'm at work it can be eight at night till I get some downtime. I haven't read a book in ages!

People don't expect you to ditch things in that way, but your expectations of parenthood are on the same level as my seven year old.

The baby will follow your routine, they don't at all do what they want without a care for their parents.

Just pin a list of rules on his wall and get your husband to recite them while he is in the womb.

fruityb

I am quite lucky that both me an DH are giving up a lot so it wont be me doing all the baby stuff.
We are both doing childcare and business. Although DHs dad is coming to help with the business for a bit x