AIBU buy they copied our wedding dance

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Background-
Group of friends, all couples, friends for about 4/5 years. DH and I got married last year and this particular couple came. Earlier this year, all couples together watching films and the song that came on when the credits rolled so DH and I decided to recreate our dance after a few drinks. A few days later female friend said to me that that was actually the wedding song they have planned, they had completely forgotten we had used it at our wedding (how could they?! Our dancing was amazing, lol) and did I mind? Of course I said no, it's a song, who has ownership of a song etc.
Fast forward to their wedding this weekend, and they used said song, but also had exactly the same dance routine. I mean, everything identical (we went to lessons and learnt it). Isn't that a bit weird? Like less than 12months later they're doing the same dance routine to the same song? Even if they went to lessons to learn it (but they say they haven't had lessons) then they could ask for a different routine ?
I know you can't have ownership of a song (or a dance) but AIBU to expect that you at least do your own version? Mutual friends attending both weddings so if they care (probably don't) it would be pretty obvious.

Coolest dance I ever saw was to Should I Stay or Should I Go? Tempted to nick that if I ever tie the knot again (which, admittedly, is very unlikely). And it was about twenty-five years ago.

If it was a pop song then you cannot possibly think your choice is unique.

The only person I know who had a unique choice was my friend who had the Channel 4 news theme.

Hurrah for wedding ceilidhs - the best way to make people mingle and absolutely the greatest fun. Some friends who were reenactors did this, it was awesome.
Worst "first dance" choice ever? No choreography, nothing fancy - but they chose "Careless Whisper"... What were they thinking? Had they never listened to it? I just stood there with my mouth open.

Wow! Saucer of milk for the majority on here?
Whilst wedding dances may not be your cup of tea, OP's dance was not apparently a generic one. Therefore copying it step for step within a year is sad/creepy/comically unoriginal - you choose.

I'm cringing at you recreating it after a 'few drinks' a year later. Dear god

If the couples all do everything together I'd expect them to have the same song ;)

OP just tell us the song name - stop being so coy

I'd imagine 99% of the guests at both weddings were either too busy laughing or cringing to care...

The other 1% clearly were jotting down the steps.

I'm not sure which is worse - that you had a wedding dance (that you went to lessons for) or that you recreated it after a few drinks. OMG

I don't even know if it was weird of them to copy you because I am not at all part of a world where anyone does a choreographed dance at their wedding whilst all their guests watch.

Skipping to the end because I can't expend my life on pages of snippy comments. I think it's a bit weird to do the exact same routine.

Also of the first few comments I read people seem to have missed the lol after amazing in the OP...

I don't much like wedding dances - all except the one in the 'Second Best Marigold Hotel' which was amazing! Also a good one at a wedding in Scotland once where they had the good sense to serve copious amounts of whiskey beforehand so even if it was total crapola the guests wouldn't have noticed!

It was Saturday Night Fever wasn't it?

Duh! How trivial can you get? This is scraping the pit. Sorry to offend.

Is this all you've got to worry about OP?

One of my wedding guests used our wedding reading (quite unusual and we had our best friends man and a woman read it as a dialogue between two people).
A year later she used it in exactly the same way at her wedding with two of the people who were at our wedding reading it in exactly the same way. I wasn't remotely bothered. We did it first, it was our idea, and the thing that made it brilliant was that our best friends did a knockout version of it that was unreproducible.
A year later with a lot of the same wedding guests it sounded a bit "meh".

Get over it OP.

twatchops

Can I try and guess what it was?

For some reason this popped into my head when you said it was a dialogue!

"And did you get what
you wanted from this life, even so?
I did.
And what did you want?
To call myself beloved, to feel myself
beloved on the earth."

Why are you bothered by this OP? You sound a bit up yourself to be completely honest.

Are you American by any chance, OP?

The worst ones are when they do a dance routine when walking down the aisle. I have a couple of Facebook friends that did this and posted the video online (of course). Bless them, they looked like they were having a great time but watching everyone sat in their seats dying of cringe was hilarious.

Each to their own and all that!

Seriously.... don't you have more to worry about?

Fram dammit! I've scrolled down whole thread on phone to find out what the song was

My money on la la land btw

Op your friends are BU

NOW MY BATTERY HAS GONE FL

Some friends of ours said they had really liked some of the things we did at our wedding - would we mind if they did them for theirs? And of course it was lovely to say 'of course' - flattering that they had liked our ideas. But if they had just taken something so unique and personal and not acknowledged it I think I would have been quite pissed off - I think they just managed it badly - what a shame.

I hate a lot of wedding rubbish, but why not learn a dance? At least it involves spending some time together doing something healthy which could become a lovely hobby. Why is it cringe. Wasting money on cars, wedding favours, clothes that you'll wear once makes me cringe!

There's a difference between learning a few dance steps not to look like Trump and Melania dancing and doing a dance act for show.

It is cringe because it shouts: LOOK AT ME LOOK AT ME!!!!!
Everyone is looking at the bride anyway as it's a wedding....
Sounds like you have very poor self esteem, most couldn't give a monkeys.