AIBU buy they copied our wedding dance

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Background-
Group of friends, all couples, friends for about 4/5 years. DH and I got married last year and this particular couple came. Earlier this year, all couples together watching films and the song that came on when the credits rolled so DH and I decided to recreate our dance after a few drinks. A few days later female friend said to me that that was actually the wedding song they have planned, they had completely forgotten we had used it at our wedding (how could they?! Our dancing was amazing, lol) and did I mind? Of course I said no, it's a song, who has ownership of a song etc.
Fast forward to their wedding this weekend, and they used said song, but also had exactly the same dance routine. I mean, everything identical (we went to lessons and learnt it). Isn't that a bit weird? Like less than 12months later they're doing the same dance routine to the same song? Even if they went to lessons to learn it (but they say they haven't had lessons) then they could ask for a different routine ?
I know you can't have ownership of a song (or a dance) but AIBU to expect that you at least do your own version? Mutual friends attending both weddings so if they care (probably don't) it would be pretty obvious.

Tell us the song please.

Ah this is giving me so many good ideas for my impending wedding!

I think people really need to calm down on the wedding mania. These days some couples get very carried away. It's often needlessly complicated and OTT.

I mean there's no need to make a song and dance about it all.

Was it shuddapa ya face?

do you mean to say I have scrolled through this ENTIRE thread and the OP hasn't put up a link.

Huh.

[maliciously squirts a bottle of golden syrup across the dance floor]

I am so glad that my friends and I are past all this wedding malarky and none of us had this stress to 'perform' at our weddings!

We chose a song that meant something to the couple and started off the dancing with it and that was it. No big song and dance (pardon the pun) and then everyone got on with having a good old time dancing and drinking!

If you want to do the whole 'dirty dancing' thing fine, your choice, just dont expect the world to be grateful to you, dont expect everyone to hang on your every move and remember it forever. Its your first dance as a married couple, its for your benefit not anyone elses. It should mean something to you, not to 'prove' how awesome you both are.

I get that you think its your song, and its special to you but it really isnt its out there for the whole world to use. (and I get that your fiend could have been more imaginative and chose another one, pretty lazy on her part)
Just remember you danced with your new DH for the first time and thats your memory forever.

One of ours got married last weekend.

Small church service followed by afternoon tea and champers in the garden and and zazz music. Walked to the church and back with flowers from the garden.

No one felt the need to either speech pontificate or dance to a cringy routine.

Sorry but both your weddings should be about your vows and your love for each other and your future together.

The way you both seem to focus on a dance routine is childish in the extreme and a bit sad to be honest.

Was it Ferris Bueller's Day Off, Twist and Shout?

Do the hucklebuck?

Our dancing was amazing

Was it though?

I am already cringing and I haven't even seen it.

The cross dance at the end of the Life of Brian?

Unless we're talking Fred Astaire or Gene Kelly here.

Mine and DP's is going to be to "Greetings to the New Brunette" by Billy Bragg. We only got to that stage because he refused to have his wedding dance to "There is Power in a Union"

Sorry but both your weddings should be about your vows and your love for each other and your future together.

yes indeed. I can't believe you danced at your wedding, OP! Hang your head in shame!

(I hope it was the theme tune to Fireball XL5.)

Oh, I know. "I like to move it", Madagascar.
Or from Happy Feet.

Blimey - Do the Hucklebuck - now there's a song I haven't heard in a while

Aah op, glad you dusted off your dancing shoes. Whats wrong with being a good dancer? Im sure many people here send their kids to dance lessons/ stagecoach etc etc

OP I think you do have to take it as a compliment and it just shows a lack of originality on their part. I know it pissed you off but nothing can be done now and no one else will care except you.

I've been there, a couple who were friends of ours did a carbon copy of our wedding invites (for their wedding 3 months after ours) and Id spent ages creating them with a place I found, they told someone else they brought ours to a printer and basically got them to copy them. I was seething but it just made them look lazy and I just had to get over it.

Some people have no ideas of their own and are happy to copy others if they liked it but I suppose that just shows you had something good in the first place

Screams of 'you copied me' should only heard in the playground.

Like anyone notices a first dance . or a dress, or favours, or all the other frilly crap.

Small church service followed by afternoon tea and champers in the garden and and zazz music. Walked to the church and back with flowers from the garden.

That sounds lovely Waitforit

Like anyone notices a first dance . or a dress, or favours, or all the other frilly crap.

Damn right!

W're all waiting for that bit to be over so we can hit the bar with a vengeance totally relax.

Blimey - Do the Hucklebuck - now there's a song I haven't heard in a while
And let's hope it's a long long while till we hear it again

Please, please, please TELL US THE TUNE

I think OP's been very gracious about the responses to her post. Good girl. And yes, imitation is the best form of flattery.

Can anyone remember snowballs? You got on the floor with your DP to your favourite record, danced for a minute and then spun off to take on partners and then they spun off again - within 10 minutes everyone is on the floor.

I'd love my DN to have a ceilidh. Best thing ever and have been to 5 in the Borders. However getting a proper band and callers down south is tricky. If you choose this route make sure there are gallons of water on the tables.