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AIBU to feel a little violated

89 replies

tattyteddy · 23/07/2017 20:14

I took DD (6) and her friend out for the afternoon. By the time I was dropping off Dd's friend I desperately needed to use the loo, I sometimes have trouble holding it in if I don't go.

When I first parked I thought I'd drop friend off and rush back to car and go as a result I parked in front of someone's drive, be about a minute.

However, when I was trying to get car seat out I figured out that I'd need to get to a toilet fast. So I got DD out too and I went and used the loo.

Whilst I was in the loo, Dd started having some cake. I don't think we were too long as I was rushing her out of the house.

When I got to the car, a man was cross, understandably, as he'd been trying to get out of his drive. I apologies profusely and said I was sorry - I shouldn't have blocked him in. As I was getting into the car he handed me my work pass that was in the car - so he'd opened the door, I forgot to lock it, and started rooting around. I was really upset that he'd gone into my car.

Aibu for being upset, I know I shouldn't have blocked him in though.

OP posts:
Whosthemummynow · 23/07/2017 20:23

Why didn't you park in front of the drive you were visiting?!?

Original poster
tattyteddy · 23/07/2017 20:25

There was no space, I'd planned to drop of the friend and car seat and run back to the car.

OP posts:
Littlefish · 23/07/2017 20:26

He shouldn't have gone in your car, but he was probably trying to work out which house you had gone into.

You absolutely shouldn't have blocked him in. If your dd had time to eat cake while you were in the loo, you must have been gone for a good 5 - 10 minutes.

kkkkaty123 · 23/07/2017 20:26

Are you sure you didn't drop in the road op ?

TuttiFruttiCutie · 23/07/2017 20:27

Was probably a very strange experience for the man you blocked in. May have looked abandoned as left unlocked- rooting around to find out who possibly owned it. Sounds fair enough to me! Though probably really a 101 call.

LittleWingSoul · 23/07/2017 20:27

Yeah he definitely shouldn't have gone in your car! I'd feel quite weird about that too. You blocked him in - nearly weeing yourself is an emergency you weren't planning for when you parked... I would have done the same!

Kardashianlove · 23/07/2017 20:28

Even dropping the friend and car seat and running back to the car is really inconsiderate and rude. I really don't understand how people think it's ok to do that.

LittleWingSoul · 23/07/2017 20:29

Eh? I would never root around in someone's car to try and ascertain who the owner was. You'd wait a few minutes surely...? IdK OP, perhaps you were gone longer than you realised but IMHO he still shouldn't have opened your car and rooted around your things.

Unless... as You dashed out of the car you dropped your work pass on the pavement?

VeryButchyRestingFace · 23/07/2017 20:29

Are you sure you didn't drop in the road op ?

Yes, this.

FeckinCrutches · 23/07/2017 20:29

You must have been gone at least 10 minutes. If I found an unlocked car blocking me in I'd probably look as well!

Whosthemummynow · 23/07/2017 20:31

I would have taken the handbrake off and moved it.

StillDrivingMeBonkers · 23/07/2017 20:36

Don't you automatically lock your car?

DirtyChaiLatte · 23/07/2017 20:39

You're clearly 'one of those' people who always has an excuse why they think they're entitled to block someone's driveway.

What if they had an emergency and needed to get out or an ambulance needed to get in?

You deserve whatever you got.

RainbowPastel · 23/07/2017 20:41

You obviously think the rules don't apply to you. You shouldn't park over someone else's drive even for one second.

flickerty · 23/07/2017 20:42

Even if I thought I was going to be 2 mins max I would never, ever, EVER park in/blocking someone's driveway!

flickerty · 23/07/2017 20:45

Ok, just read your Op again. You agree parking across his drive wasn't on, sorry I just saw red as I'm always getting blocked in by inconsiderates Angry

Maybe you had dropped your pass, as a PP suggested ? Especially in the kerfuffle of getting a car seat out

(I stand by the fact I wouldn't have parked across the drive, especially knowing I'd have to bugger about with a car seat)

Allthewaves · 23/07/2017 20:47

Don't park over peoples drives and lock yoir doors

Original poster
tattyteddy · 23/07/2017 20:47

I don't regularly block people in at all as I think it's not on. However, if you read the orignal post I completely admit that I was in the wrong and should have not blocked him in.

Rainbow and Dirty - you don't know me at all, how can you possibly make those horrible comments.

I was in the wrong completely for blocking him in, however, I still wouldn't like someone going through my car. I hate the fact that I inconvenienced someone.

I must have left it open as I thought I'd be right back, but unfortunately was not.

OP posts:
SeekingSugar · 23/07/2017 20:52

I don't think you've got a leg to stand on about rights and wrongs here OP. I guess you won't be blocking anyone in again anytime soon so a good result for the civilised world.

PovertyPain · 23/07/2017 20:52

I assume you took time to speak to the child's parent and ask to use the loo. Your child then had some cake and I'm assuming she didn't swallow it like a tablet, so I doubt you were only a few minutes, op. Stop playing it down. You had no right parking in front of his gate and I would have went into your car too. I would also have given you a bollocking for parking there in the first place. As for feeling violated? Nonsense.

DirtyChaiLatte · 23/07/2017 20:52

I was in the wrong completely for blocking him

If you truly believed this at the time then you wouldn't have done it. You clearly didn't have a good enough reason then or now, but the fact remains that you still did it. That's definitely entitled behavior.

I stand by what I said, that you deserved what you got.

Original poster
tattyteddy · 23/07/2017 20:54

Thanks for the replies everyone. Some people on MN are perfect and never do anything wrong by the sounds of it!

OP posts:
RainbowPastel · 23/07/2017 20:55

I know you parked over someone's drive without a second thought. You are embarrassed because you got caught out.

fuzzyfozzy · 23/07/2017 20:56

Why didn't you block the drive of the house you were visiting?

MyPatronusIsAUnicorn · 23/07/2017 20:57

YABU.

We had a drive once. Next door to a chippy, opposite a cash point and a local shop, near a school and social club, up the road from a chemist. Do you know how many people used it as a convenient space because they weren't going to be long! Angry It doesn't matter how quick you thought you were going to be, park somewhere else ffs.