AIBU to feel a little violated

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I took DD (6) and her friend out for the afternoon. By the time I was dropping off Dd's friend I desperately needed to use the loo, I sometimes have trouble holding it in if I don't go.

When I first parked I thought I'd drop friend off and rush back to car and go as a result I parked in front of someone's drive, be about a minute.

However, when I was trying to get car seat out I figured out that I'd need to get to a toilet fast. So I got DD out too and I went and used the loo.

Whilst I was in the loo, Dd started having some cake. I don't think we were too long as I was rushing her out of the house.

When I got to the car, a man was cross, understandably, as he'd been trying to get out of his drive. I apologies profusely and said I was sorry - I shouldn't have blocked him in. As I was getting into the car he handed me my work pass that was in the car - so he'd opened the door, I forgot to lock it, and started rooting around. I was really upset that he'd gone into my car.

Aibu for being upset, I know I shouldn't have blocked him in though.

Op you did the only thing you could do in that situation, so you upset a man for blocking his drive for 10 minutes....you got to the toilet on time and the world goes on. If I was about to lose control of my bowels I'd do the same.

You realise you were completely wrong, which you were, why on earth do you think you have any right to say anything about him going through your car. How dare you! I imagine he was trying to find a name or address of this rude inconsiderate person who had blocked him in and was holding up wherever he needed to be because it suited them. You're very lucky he didn't get you towed which in my street takes only 10 minutes as the tow can is kept at the other end of the street and then you get a fine of several hundreds for tow and collection. If you don't want people interfering with your car I suggest you stop interfering with other people's days by being so rude as to block them in.

And before I get the whole, IBS she couldn't help it, I've got IBS and yes it's rubbish and leads to difficult situations but you have no idea what that man had to do, where he had to be and he had no way of knowing how long you were going to be or who you were, you let your child sit and eat cake, you didn't knock and say I'm really sorry I'll be two minutes is that ok? You didn't park anywhere else (why is it that people who park over people drives never risk parking on double yellows or anywhere where they think they will get quickly fined). What exactly was the man meant to do, sit there hoping you were coming back.

weirdest thing is, now having read your update about urgently needing the loo, I fully sympathize with why you may have blocked his drive. However, you posted on AIBU about someone potentially looking in your car, after you blocked their drive. Two very different trains of thought. You shouldn't block someones drive no matter how quick you think you might be, unless its an EMERGENCY- it wasn't one by the sound of it. I'd riffle through a car if it was blocking my property. Bizarre you posted on here and then changed your story,

I'm 23 and I have IBS and have shat myself on more than one occasion thanks to it. Really not fun and incredibly mortifyingly embarrassing. I think you know you were wrong for blocking him in but honestly, when I'm about to shit myself I could give less of a crap (ha) about anything else other than getting to a toilet as soon as humanly possible.

I think the man was perfectly reasonable to have a rummage through a car that was left open and was blocking his drive. He had no idea why it was there, it could have been dumped by twoccers or anything.

YABU to feel "violated", under the circumstances.

You thought it was ok to block someone's drive though to drop DD and car seat? (Before you realised you wouldn't make it home for the loo).

This is so, so selfish.

A car was blocking the road outside my house. Actually in the road. We called 101 after trying to find out who it belonged to.

They asked me to see if it was open and look and see if there was anything in to see who it belonged to. It didnt.

Turned out someone up the road had left their handbrake off and it had rolled down and into the street. How it missed cars i dont know.

Honestly op, you were unreasonable. He wasnt

I understand that it's annoying to have your drive blocked (happens to me at least twice a week-arsehole neighbours) but I have never thought to see if the car is unlocked let alone gone through someone's belongings. Maybe if the car was there for hours but not 10 minutes. I would have been flabbergasted.

When I first parked I thought I'd drop friend off and rush back to car and go as a result I parked in front of someone's drive, be about a minute

She parked there way before she realised how desperate she was for the toilet, so the IBS is a pretty big red herring.

I accept I was being unreasonable. However, the bowel issue isn't a red herring at all.

Who said it was IBS? Did I miss that bit? IBS is bad but there are far worse vowel problems too. In fact IBS can be a walk in the park compared to others.

Bowel I mean.

The bowel issue is a red herring as you said that you were going to drop off and then go home to the toilet. So you chose to park across someone's drive before you realised you needed to go in to the toilet.
Needing the toilet just meant you inconvienienced someone for even longer.