AIBU to feel a little violated

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I took DD (6) and her friend out for the afternoon. By the time I was dropping off Dd's friend I desperately needed to use the loo, I sometimes have trouble holding it in if I don't go.

When I first parked I thought I'd drop friend off and rush back to car and go as a result I parked in front of someone's drive, be about a minute.

However, when I was trying to get car seat out I figured out that I'd need to get to a toilet fast. So I got DD out too and I went and used the loo.

Whilst I was in the loo, Dd started having some cake. I don't think we were too long as I was rushing her out of the house.

When I got to the car, a man was cross, understandably, as he'd been trying to get out of his drive. I apologies profusely and said I was sorry - I shouldn't have blocked him in. As I was getting into the car he handed me my work pass that was in the car - so he'd opened the door, I forgot to lock it, and started rooting around. I was really upset that he'd gone into my car.

Aibu for being upset, I know I shouldn't have blocked him in though.

I've not been on MN for a little while - should have remembered previous parking threads. However, since discussing poo/parking gate I feel much better about the whole thing!

No rat's going up my arse, not with my IBS. Besides, I'm vegan so I'm not sure if that would be classed as a none vegan activity.

Glad you've regained your humour, op.

We're you the neighbour/householder poverty? What a coincidence!

Were not we're

I think blocking a drive for a few minutes is preferable to crapping yourself, and I would rather be inconvenienced that have a fellow human being have to face the embarrassment it can cause.

I agree with others that it may be that you dropped the pass in your haste to get out of the car though.

Easy to tell OP she shouldn't have blocked someone in - have you judgemental beggars never suffered from urge incontinence?

You need to pee, and you need to pee NOW! OP probably just made it to the toilet.

You'd already parked like that before you realised you needed the toilet though.

I think if you'd parked like that because you were going to have an accident and ran into the house and sent your friend out to move the car/let the neighbour know and apologise then it wouldn't be entitled/cheeky.

It's the mentality that it's ok to inconvenience someone else for your own convenience if you'll 'only be a minute' that's entitled.
Anyway, glad to hear you won't be parking over people's driveways again!

'I actually suffer from Bowel incontinence which is awful when you can't get to the loo quick enough. '

OP sorry to hear you have this problem, but you said that you'd already needed the loo when you parked. Surely, you'd have known the possibility of needing to go the loo straight away, therefore being longer than a few minutes?
Won't pile on you for parking in front of a drive, you're not the first or last, but it's worth thinking ahead to avoid someone having a go in the future. I know when I really need to 'go', its always 10x worse when I'm in a rush or having to faff pulling something out of the car.

Both in the wrong, but you can see why he maybe did it, trying to find out whose car it was.

Blocking someone in is illegal and you knew you needed the loo, but still after going you could have run out and moved, not waited for your daughter to eat cake. Simply by needing the loo you knew you wouldn't be a minute.

Blocking someone into their own drive way is hugely Inconsiderate. I had a neighbour once where people used to do this and his mother was very ill indeed. When they needed to leave they needed to leave. Blocking someone in so they can't leave their own home is really bad, to knowingly leave it there is worse.

Sorry op, if you hadn't blocked him in he wouldn't have went into your car.

It's simple really - if you hadn't left your car blocking his drive and if you hadn't left it unlocked then he wouldn't have gone through your car.

I have Crohn's disease myself and get very little warning of needing the toilet. I have never blocked someone's drive.

Crapat are you joking? How can you think ahead if you are suddenly about to shit yourself? The whole point of the op parking in front of a drive is the fact she was about to crap herself!

Everyone saying they wouldn't have parked across the drive, would you be happy to wet yourself in public to avoid inconveniencing someone else?

I can't believe how harsh some people are being. Loads of people have toilet issues and when you have to go you have to go! It sounds like you did the best you could to deal with the situation.

It's done now. I would try to find a way to think of it which feels less violating. Maybe he was in a hurry and looking for contact details?

I'd gladly accept the wrath of someone who's drive I blocked in them shit myself. It would be a walk in the park compared to getting shit out the car seat and getting nappy rash as an adult!
Anyone who hasn't got the human decency to forgive someone in this situation is a bit of a cunt imo!
I can understand everyone who says what if they have to go to hospital or have an emergency....well yeah...that's true but the chances are pretty slim and if that's the case then it would be quite unlucky to need a shit at exactly the same time as that happening. And also that didn't happen though so it's not really relevant to the Ops post anyway.

But her daughter was munching cake! No it was not ok really to.oark over a drive no matter what BUT given that you did you should have gone straight to the loo and straight back to the car .YABU.

I would say it was a forgivable offence until you mention your daughter was having cake. So that isn't everyone in the hallway while you have a quick wee and jump back in your car. That's you blocking someone in and then staying at the house chatting for 'a minute' while your dd had cake.
Sorry, you were bang out of order and apologising to him after the fact doesn't absolve you of the selfishness.

Maybe, just maybe it wasn't as simple as a quick poo, if you've ever had or have problems with your bowels you'd understand that sometimes it doesn't happen quickly or sometimes it takes time to empty your bowels.

Zeeboo the Op suffers from bowel incontinence , nothing to do with needing a quick wee, totally different on all levels.

Why didn't you ask him if he's been in your car?

Maybe he took it out so it didn't get pinched by someone else?

He didn't do anything wrong

Some people here are being really unreasonable.

Shit happens!

'Crapat are you joking? How can you think ahead if you are suddenly about to shit yourself? The whole point of the op parking in front of a drive is the fact she was about to crap herself!'

No the OP parked there as she thought she'd be a minute dropping child off, came back to the car, and then decided she would need the loo immediately and returned to friends.
What I mean by plan ahead is, shes aware of this problem, knows the likelihood of needing to leave the car a bit longer, but still chose to park there.

If there was an open car blocking my driveway for 10mins I would definitely investigate. Have had violent carjackings in the area.

Next time you should park outside the house you're visiting - it doesn't matter if you block them in.

I'll bear in mind all the advice given in this thread. I did need the loo when I got out of the car, but thought, I'd be able to make it home. I don't really like to use other people's loos when I'm having bowel probs. As I was trying to get car seat out I thought to myself that I wouldn't make it home, even though it would have been only a few minutes and I needed the loo straight away.

I was in the loo for a little while and came down to see DD eating cake!

The bowel probs don't happen all the time, but it's awful when I don't have any control. I've had to have the car seat professionally washed before.

I don't think either of you were being unreasonable fwiw.