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Should I report to social services

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princessachica · 21/07/2017 16:01

It's been TWO WHOLE WEEKS ! and this has been slowly bugging my mind and munching at me that I've walked away from this situation and been making me feel very down I've asked my mum and my boyfriend what to do and they said it's totally up to me it's my friend.
Here is what happened.

Two weeks ago I went to visit my friend with my 9 month old from school she was a two years older than me she has a 1year old son she lives in her grandmothers attic .
I know she is known to social services cause when I was round there she had her boyfriend her sons father round cause he was having his vaccines the next day and she wanted support from him my friends mother called and I overheard her say "why is he there ? Don't let him go to the appointment don't let him be seen cause of the social services" and she then replied "yeah I know he is just gonna help out after they are done "

Okay cut a long story short ...
When I walked Into this attic it ABSOLUTELY STANK of marijuana and the son was playing in the pool pit the dad was sitting on the PS3 and some girl was sitting straightening her hair on the vanity table ... I sat holding my daughter I didn't like the atmosphere at all . My friend then began rolling a joint on the vanity table next to her friend and she asked me "do u still smoke" I said no I gave all of that up when we left school" and she replied with "rah how did u do that " I didn't reply cause I just really wanted to leave at this point ...
she then went out on the balcony with her boyfriend and smoked the joint ... I walked over to the little boy and said hello he smiled and I put my daughter in the ball pit and took two photos of them and I noticed the girl was giving me a funny look for taking the photos ... I got talking to her and she then told me she was "seventeen and has run away from her foster home for three days and has been staying here" I couldn't believe what I was hearing and what my friend was doing encouraging this young girl.

They then come in and the boyfriend was on the phone and said go and open up the door and my friend went downstairs opened the door and some guy we all knew came in he went and sat out on the balcony and I heard my friend shouting at her son for the son following her crawling down stairs and her boyfriend said "stop f-ing shouting at him before I come and punch you in your face" I looked down and the seventeen year old girl was on the balcony aswell I looked over and she was uncomfortable by the guy who walked in he was breathing down her neck and she was nearly hanging of the balcony trying to get him off her she came in and said "yeah I'm going to leave now" and my friend came in saying "awhh why now you don't have to " !!!!! And she just said "yeah I'm going when ever he comes he makes me feel uncomfortable " and my friend said "don't worry about it there going out to sell their weed in a minute" and the friend replied "well call me when they are gone and I'll come back"

Any way before they left they all went outside smoked another joint left me with their son ...

When they all left and it was just me and my friend she was clearly steaming out of breath and really high and very angry her boyfriend left ... I said I need to get going soon can I change my daughters nappy she then decided to change her son aswell and we both fed our children their bottle and spoke and my daughter fell asleep but her son never fell asleep and she wanted him to fall asleep and she was hugging him extremely tight he was crying uncomfortable and she was breathing really hard and she then threw him on the bed threw the bottle on the baby's face and told him "fine put yourself to sleep then" he was really crying at this point I looked down at my daughter and stroaked her face and gave her a kiss and she then picked up her son held him by his arms looked at him and then hugged and kissed him and shouted "stop crying " he stopped crying and he was shaking scared on her breathing so scared and he fell asleep from the stress and exhaustion and I said "I need to go now and get my dinner on " and she "oh okay so soon we had a good time come over again sometime" ...

I haven't messaged her since but it's been playing on my mind the poor little boy !! I didn't feel it was my place to say anything I was just stuck there watching ... I felt bad I went there and took my daughter there and I can't believe what I saw ...

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Gingernaut · 21/07/2017 16:06

Yup. Social Services. TWO WHOLE WEEKS AGO.

vikingprincess81 · 21/07/2017 16:08

Hi OP, I think you need help that an internet forum can't really provide. Yes, you should report to SS.

Pengggwn · 21/07/2017 16:08

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HatieCockpins · 21/07/2017 16:10

Yes. Report it. This child needs someone to stick up for him.

DancingLedge · 21/07/2017 16:10

Why would you not?
Social services or NSPCC
Sooner rather than later

Jenwen22 · 21/07/2017 16:10

I would if only for peace of mind. She sounds very irrasponsible and struggling to sope. If she already known to them then this wont come as much of a suprise. But imgine how awful youd feel if something happened to that little boy? Better to be safe than sorry then at least ull know you did everything you could

Notevilstepmother · 21/07/2017 16:11

Please report it to social services or nspcc.

YorksMa · 21/07/2017 16:12

Obviously, yes, ring them now. It's horrible, but you've got to.

princessachica · 21/07/2017 16:12

It was awful really the whole situation... I even questioning am I a bad mum for even having my daughter around that just for 30 mins seriously ... the only thing is she will clearly know it was me who called them ...

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JustHappy3 · 21/07/2017 16:13

Would you let her babysit your little one there? No? Please ring ss.

Notevilstepmother · 21/07/2017 16:13
GreenTulips · 21/07/2017 16:13

God yes! What are you waiting for?

2 youngsters clearly in need of help

Cuckingfunt1981 · 21/07/2017 16:13

Omg I'd have punched her in the face for doing that to an innocent baby and rang the police there and then on the evil bitch !!!

princessachica · 21/07/2017 16:14

I spoke to a few mutual friends and they mentioned it themselves about the way she "shakes" but I saw her shake throw and pin him up in the air ... was horrible

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Cuckingfunt1981 · 21/07/2017 16:15

So what if she knows it's you . Fucking hell id have rang the police there and then . What an evil bitch she is . Sorry but you should have done something sooner

Bluntness100 · 21/07/2017 16:15

Yes of course, call immediately. Anonymous if want, but call. Tell the woman what you saw. You would never forgive yourself if that child was harmed and you knew you could have prevented it by one call.

And it's more than that. He deserves to be brought up with love and care.

AndNowItIsSeven · 21/07/2017 16:15

At 17 if the girl has run away then she is on a care order and is extremely vulnerable more so than the boy. What were you thinking not calling the police?

LunaLunaDot · 21/07/2017 16:16

It sounds like the father is not supposed to be around the baby from what you heard them saying. They probably know he's dealing weed.

requestingsunshine · 21/07/2017 16:16

Yes report it.

UserThenLotsOfNumbers · 21/07/2017 16:16

Please call them immediately OP.

Notevilstepmother · 21/07/2017 16:16

You can ring nspcc and tell them you don't want her to know who it is.

Just be vague, say you are worried about the drugs and neglect and that the little one isn't being looked after properly.

They can pass it on to social services so the mum can get some help sounds like she needs support.

princessachica · 21/07/2017 16:17

I really don't like getting Into sticky situation... it's not even the 17 year old it's the little boy I saw get hurt ... the father is a drug dealer I really don't want no harm coming to our side too that's what has been on my mind

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RhubardGin · 21/07/2017 16:18

The place stank of marijuana and you stayed there with your baby!?

I would have left as soon as I smelled the drugs!

Of course phone social services, I can't believe you even have to ask to be honest.

Notevilstepmother · 21/07/2017 16:18

Who it is that reported I mean. TBH after 2 weeks they won't know it's you. Just do it, please, do the right thing. You won't forgive yourself if something bad happens to that baby.

I know it's hard, but you know what you should do or you wouldn't be posting.

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