Should I report to social services

[princessachica]

It's been TWO WHOLE WEEKS ! and this has been slowly bugging my mind and munching at me that I've walked away from this situation and been making me feel very down I've asked my mum and my boyfriend what to do and they said it's totally up to me it's my friend.
Here is what happened.

Two weeks ago I went to visit my friend with my 9 month old from school she was a two years older than me she has a 1year old son she lives in her grandmothers attic .
I know she is known to social services cause when I was round there she had her boyfriend her sons father round cause he was having his vaccines the next day and she wanted support from him my friends mother called and I overheard her say "why is he there ? Don't let him go to the appointment don't let him be seen cause of the social services" and she then replied "yeah I know he is just gonna help out after they are done "

Okay cut a long story short ...
When I walked Into this attic it ABSOLUTELY STANK of marijuana and the son was playing in the pool pit the dad was sitting on the PS3 and some girl was sitting straightening her hair on the vanity table ... I sat holding my daughter I didn't like the atmosphere at all . My friend then began rolling a joint on the vanity table next to her friend and she asked me "do u still smoke" I said no I gave all of that up when we left school" and she replied with "rah how did u do that " I didn't reply cause I just really wanted to leave at this point ...
she then went out on the balcony with her boyfriend and smoked the joint ... I walked over to the little boy and said hello he smiled and I put my daughter in the ball pit and took two photos of them and I noticed the girl was giving me a funny look for taking the photos ... I got talking to her and she then told me she was "seventeen and has run away from her foster home for three days and has been staying here" I couldn't believe what I was hearing and what my friend was doing encouraging this young girl.

They then come in and the boyfriend was on the phone and said go and open up the door and my friend went downstairs opened the door and some guy we all knew came in he went and sat out on the balcony and I heard my friend shouting at her son for the son following her crawling down stairs and her boyfriend said "stop f-ing shouting at him before I come and punch you in your face" I looked down and the seventeen year old girl was on the balcony aswell I looked over and she was uncomfortable by the guy who walked in he was breathing down her neck and she was nearly hanging of the balcony trying to get him off her she came in and said "yeah I'm going to leave now" and my friend came in saying "awhh why now you don't have to " !!!!! And she just said "yeah I'm going when ever he comes he makes me feel uncomfortable " and my friend said "don't worry about it there going out to sell their weed in a minute" and the friend replied "well call me when they are gone and I'll come back"

Any way before they left they all went outside smoked another joint left me with their son ...

When they all left and it was just me and my friend she was clearly steaming out of breath and really high and very angry her boyfriend left ... I said I need to get going soon can I change my daughters nappy she then decided to change her son aswell and we both fed our children their bottle and spoke and my daughter fell asleep but her son never fell asleep and she wanted him to fall asleep and she was hugging him extremely tight he was crying uncomfortable and she was breathing really hard and she then threw him on the bed threw the bottle on the baby's face and told him "fine put yourself to sleep then" he was really crying at this point I looked down at my daughter and stroaked her face and gave her a kiss and she then picked up her son held him by his arms looked at him and then hugged and kissed him and shouted "stop crying " he stopped crying and he was shaking scared on her breathing so scared and he fell asleep from the stress and exhaustion and I said "I need to go now and get my dinner on " and she "oh okay so soon we had a good time come over again sometime" ...


I haven't messaged her since but it's been playing on my mind the poor little boy !! I didn't feel it was my place to say anything I was just stuck there watching ... I felt bad I went there and took my daughter there and I can't believe what I saw ...

[princessachica]

If I call social services and say I want to do u unknown but I saw the little boy get hurt and drugs being used and sold and the father is around threatening...

If I mention the runaway girl they will know it's me

[Cuckingfunt1981]

You are going to have to be honest with social services and tell them exactly what you witnessed ie the physical abuse of her baby boy . Come on you know you can't just pretend it's not happening

[Cuckingfunt1981]

If she is not afraid to throw a bottle at his face when she has company what the fuck is she doing when alone with the poor baby ??? Please do something NOW

[NerrSnerr]

You need to be honest with ss. The child's safety is more important then them knowing it's you.

[Cuckingfunt1981]

If you do nothing your no better than her I'm afraid

[princessachica]

Do u think I should mention the runaway teen too ? That will give it away that it was me cause other people have seen everything apart from that girl ... cause I'm worried harm will come to us cause he is a drug dealer and seemed very angry

[princessachica]

I've got the number but I'm not sure weather to add the girl in

[Cuckingfunt1981]

No don't mention her as they will probably find her anyways when they pay her a visit

[NerrSnerr]

Yes, mention everything. That poor baby. I can't believe you've been sat on this for 2 weeks.

[Cuckingfunt1981]

I'd also ring the police and warn them that you are afraid for your own safety x

[princessachica]

Okay thankyou guy the only reason why I haven't called is cause he is a drug dealer it's been on my mind for too long and I've been stressed out

[Notevilstepmother]

Call anonymous and don't tell them enough detail to give yourself away is better than not calling at all. Just mention the worrying stuff about the baby and the dealing boyfriend and not the other girl, then they won't know it's you. She's probably moved back by now anyway.

[princessachica]

Yes good idea I'll call the police and tell them the situation too and say I'm worried about mine and family's safety cause of what I had to do

[princessachica]

I'm calling them mentioning the threatening him being there the baby getting hurt and the weed selling and smoking n the smell and say I'm really worried and shocked what I was seeing ... and not mention the girl cause she is probably home now or they will find her there at her home ... and I'll call the police tell them the situation that he's a drug dealer and I'm scared he might suspect it's me and I'm worried about our safety ... xx thankyou it's allot better than hearing " its up to you" I really am glad Made this thread

[Rainontheflowers]

If that was a 'good time' to your friend, I dread to imagine what things are usually like.

I'm glad you're reporting this op. As a child I was failed by people who should have helped me, and I've always vowed I would always do something to help another child.

[JimLahey]

Please do something! You have to ring social services. I know you consider her a friend but this could end awfully for that little boy and you would never forgive yourself. He deserves to feel safe and loved and unfortunately your friend is unable to provide that at this moment.

[thebigbluedustbin]

Yes I would call the police.

I would also mention the 17 year old. What if she has been reported missing and people are looking for her?

[alltouchedout]

I'm glad you're going to make the call.

[tethersend]

Sorry, you do need to mention the 17 year old. She is in care and at risk. She may also be younger than 17- who told you her age?

[Tomorrowillbeachicken]

How could you leave it two weeks?

[Gowgirl]

Generally i would advise to keep your nose out, but this is very wrong i would report the dealing to the police and let them involve ss

[brasty]

Contrary to popular belief, smoking dope is unlikely to lead to any action. What will matter is:

1. Her hurting the baby
   
2. The fact that her boyfriend is there when he should not be. It is unlikely to be only because of drugs that he is not allowed round her baby. Much more likely to be because of a bad temper and violence
   
3. The runaway girl.

[WyfOfBathe]

You do need to mention the 17 year old. She's young and vulnerable, and who knows how many people will be worried sick about her.

[NotLachsAgainMother]

It's not up to you, you definitely need to report it.

You can also tell SS that you are scared that they will know it was you.

As a society we owe it to our youngest members to protect them. That includes the girl as well as the baby.

You would also not be helping your 'friend' by not reporting. It sounds like she needs lots of help and support.

The thought of a 9-month-old being so scared just breaks my heart. The poor little thing.

[KimmySchmidt1]

Tell SS and they will likely start by giving her more support.

Who cares if she knows it is you? Are you an honourable person or a coward who would let a baby suffer for the sake of avoiding social awkwardness?