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To be annoyed at DP on his birthday?

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PricklyCactuss · 21/07/2017 08:24

For context DP and I have been together 2 years and live together.

Today is DP birthday, I woke up earlier planning to give him his presents, breakfast (TMI: morning bday sex) but he's gone the bloody gym. Like he does every single morning and evening. He wouldn't even usually be gone at this time to the gym yet. It's whatever moving on.

He also put up a picture on Instagram this morning 'twerk for me it's my birthday'. I've just called him on this via text yet to receive a reply but floored how disrespectful this is.

He's made arrangements to go out later straight after work so I won't even see him and he's made plans for saturdsy with family that he's not invited me to when I'm usually invited to do things with them. (Group of cousins our age)

He works 7 days a week 9-7 and gym before and after work so all I see of him is a cranky worked out tired person Ready got bed. And he's hardly wanting to spend his birthday seeing me at all. AIBU to be annoyed at the above

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rjay123 · 21/07/2017 08:26

And you're with him why?

caffeinestream · 21/07/2017 08:28

What's the point in being with him?

Soubriquet · 21/07/2017 08:29

Yes what's the point in being with him?

You never see him and when you do he's a tired cranky arse


Imspartacusforreal · 21/07/2017 08:30

Really interested in why you stay with someone like this. He seems really disrespectful. I don't see why he wouldn't want to spend time with you on his birthday. He sounds mean.

Rioja123 · 21/07/2017 08:30

Don't you discuss bday plans in advance?

Gramgram · 21/07/2017 08:33

Just do what you want to do today, spoil yourself, have fun with your friends and relax.

Ignore him, you are not being unreasonable. Can't really see what you are getting from this relationship.

PricklyCactuss · 21/07/2017 08:36

Because our relationship isn't usually like this. He made lovely plans for my birthday, we go out and eat, date nights at the cinema about once a month. But I just felt like he had other people he wanted to see today. (Gym mates this morning and he's seeing them later to go out)

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Moanyoldcow · 21/07/2017 08:37

How is this a relationship?

RJnomore1 · 21/07/2017 08:37

Do you know these gym mates?

PollytheDolly · 21/07/2017 08:38

Sounds very one sided.

lelapaletute · 21/07/2017 08:39

Your second post contradicts the last para of your first one..

caffeinestream · 21/07/2017 08:39

It's not usually like this, but he works seven days a week, goes to gym before/after...when do you see him?

It's a Mumsnet cliché but when someone tells you who they are - listen!

PricklyCactuss · 21/07/2017 08:39

Yeah I do know them bunch of people mostly men in late 20s, a few of their wives are in the workout group. I see them at his boxing events and they have a group chat that is very gym related. No suspicions of any cheating

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diodati · 21/07/2017 08:39

What are you getting out of this relationship?

PricklyCactuss · 21/07/2017 08:40

His gifts are really personal. All personalised, photo book for example and he's rushed off before I can even share with him Sad

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TeaCake5 · 21/07/2017 08:40

Maybe he didn't want sex this morning?

RhubardGin · 21/07/2017 08:41

Did you ask him why you aren't invited to his family birthday celebrations?

That's really odd.

PricklyCactuss · 21/07/2017 08:44

@rhubardgin yes he said I wouldn't like it (it's a ninja assault course)

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chestylarue52 · 21/07/2017 08:47

I go to the gym every morning. I'd want to still go on my birthday. I like it. It's my thing.

Creampastry · 21/07/2017 08:49

He's really not into you

RhubardGin · 21/07/2017 08:53


He still should have invited you, even just to watch! Are they going out for a meal afterwards?

It's strange, it's almost as if he's going out if his way not to spend time with you on his birthday.

When you see him tell him his actions have really hurt your feelings no presents or birthday sex for him!

SantasLittleMonkeyButler · 21/07/2017 09:00

If he works 7 days a week from 9-7 & goes to the gym before & after work every day, how have you got to the point of forming a strong enough relationship to live together after only 2 years? Confused.

What did the "twerk for me" mean? Is he inviting women to send him photos of their arses or something?


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RhubardGin · 21/07/2017 09:02

Is the twerk for me just one of those silly memes?

Justhadmyhaircut · 21/07/2017 09:02

Dp =dear prick. .
Come on op you can do so much better than him. .

PricklyCactuss · 21/07/2017 09:04

Yes it was just a silly meme but it's still hurtful

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