To be annoyed at DP on his birthday?

[PricklyCactuss]

For context DP and I have been together 2 years and live together.

Today is DP birthday, I woke up earlier planning to give him his presents, breakfast (TMI: morning bday sex) but he's gone the bloody gym. Like he does every single morning and evening. He wouldn't even usually be gone at this time to the gym yet. It's whatever moving on.

He also put up a picture on Instagram this morning 'twerk for me it's my birthday'. I've just called him on this via text yet to receive a reply but floored how disrespectful this is.

He's made arrangements to go out later straight after work so I won't even see him and he's made plans for saturdsy with family that he's not invited me to when I'm usually invited to do things with them. (Group of cousins our age)

He works 7 days a week 9-7 and gym before and after work so all I see of him is a cranky worked out tired person Ready got bed. And he's hardly wanting to spend his birthday seeing me at all. AIBU to be annoyed at the above

[ThePlatypusPosse]

What is all the speculation that he is only there for sex? Op was pissed of he didn't have sex this morning!

Sex on his terms, when he wants it.

Not when the OP wants it.

[Floellabumbags]

It sounds like you have very different interests and priorities and maybe just aren't right for each other.

[TeaCake5]

platypus sorry if this was a man posting and he was pissed off his dw didn't want sex on her birthday people would tell him to wind his neck in. As it is a bloke who didn't want sex then he is in the wrong? Talk about double standards ffs.

[ThePlatypusPosse]

No Tea Cake, it's fine that he doesn't want sex.

However, the bigger picture seems to be that he lives his life on his terms rather than as a mutually agreeable life together with his partner.

It is awful for a man to only engage and insist on sex on his terms. Fine if there's a two way agreement that neither have sex when they don't want, but from what the OP has written this relationship seems very one sided.

[Notknownatthisaddress]

Not a lot to add, except it never ceases to amaze me how women come on here ranting and complaining about their man, and then as the thread goes on, their stance turns into an 'awwww he's not THAT bad' kind of attitude, when people start (understandably) bashing the OP's man.

And they often say 'but he's such a good dad.' (Why is he always such a good dad?' )

WTF?

People are entitled to have a rant about their man, but why start saying he isn't THAT bad, before the thread has got past the first page!?

[Buck3t]

Your flatmate is not that into you