To think this woman had no right to tell my son off
WobbleYourHead · 20/07/2017 22:23
So we were in the car park of a supermarket often the subject of a MN thread when DS (9) had taken the trolley back to redeem the £1.
Being a bit of a monkey he was trying to put the trolley back "handle to handle" as opposed to slotting it in. I called across to him to put it in right which he did. In the meantime I jumped in the car and drove the short distance for him to get in the car.
As I approached a woman was telling him off saying something along the lines of he shouldn't have spoken to her like that....
I asked what he'd said and she said "He was being cheeky" so I questioned again what exactly he'd said & she just repeated that he was cheeky. So I told her she had no right to tell him off, she said she wasn't and the exchange went on for several minutes with her still refusing to tell me what he'd actually said!!
I asked DS again and basically she'd told him it wasn't nice for him to put the trolley back wrong so in return he'd basically repeated back "well that isn't nice" (her telling him) at which point she had a go at him!
AIBU to think that if she had an issue that the least she could have done was spoken to me but in the grand scheme of things there was absolutely no need for her to say anything to him at all?!
kreme · 20/07/2017 22:28
If a smart arsed 9 year old gave me some cheek I would have told him he was being bad mannered. Why are you so protective of his poor behaviour that no one else can call him on it?
If he was five I'd be with you. But at 9 I think he needs to learn some manners and take it on the chin when he is doing something wrong and an adult calls him on it.
19lottie82 · 20/07/2017 22:30
Wow. In case this isn't a reverse......
No sorry OP your son was blocking the trolley rack and leaving the trolley for some other poor soul to haul out and slot back in.
That's not "being a little monkey" in my book.
And it sounds like he was being cheeky!
Perhaps in future he will learn to do things properly instead of being a menace, and not give cheek to grown ups when they tell him what he was doing is wrong, when it obviously is.
Bluntness100 · 20/07/2017 22:32
To be honest I've never understood the whole snow flake thing about kids. If he was being a little shit, which it sounds like he was, then fair enough to get told off.
Instead of saying the lady was wrong, focus on him instead, tell him to put the trolley back correctly in future and then people wouldn't comment to him.
Ellisandra · 20/07/2017 22:33
Your son is a smart arsed little shit and I'd be really disappointed if my daughter (a year younger) was cheeking someone like that.
You sent your child over without you! How can you say she should have spoken to you?!
You might think it was none of her business, but actually sounds like she gently reprimanded an unaccompanied child for pissing about with the trolleys. I think that's OK.
She probably didn't get into what he had said, because I bet it was clear from your demeanour that your little prince could do no wrong
Donthate · 20/07/2017 22:33
My ds would have been in big trouble if a member of the public had any reason to tell him off. He was messing about, then he was rude. He was quite rightly called on it and then you were rude to the woman in response.
This is exactly why children think they can get away with murder because their mum will stick up for them no matter what they have done. Ridiculous.
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