To think that it's not rude to not reply to a message for a few days

[poppp]

I'm not yet 30 and I feel like I was born in the wrong generation!!! I don't get all this instagram and Facebook stuff, I have no bloody idea what snap chat is! I HATE people posting pics on social media of my child and get the most bizarre look when I ask them not to post it. I noice that friends/family seem offish or sometimes mention well you never replied to my text, especially via WhatsApp as they can see that I've seen it! I'm a slow responder, it's not that I never reply it's just that I don't have my phone attached to me at all times. Or I get further messages asking if I saw their text... yes I saw it, you can see the sodding blue ticks to confirm that yes- I've seen it! AIBU to think it's pathetic to think I'm being rude because I take a few days to reply sometimes? I know it's not the norm, but is it really that offensive?!

It's totally normal, your friends sound quite high maintenance tbh!

It does depend if it's all the time though- every message. It also depends if when you're with them they see you regularly texting other people... I have a friend who does that and it annoys me.

Drinkingtea
Swim andMellon do you tell your friends when you swan up 45 minutes late to meet them in a cafe that you're late because they're low priority?

At least have the decency to change to something without read receipts soasnot to be so blatantly self important!

I'm not talking about group chats or stupid memes or jokes, which nobody needs reply to ever, but if someone messages you individually with something clearly requiring a response then you are an arrogant idiot if you have time to read but convince yourself you are too important to take 3 seconds to reply "really busy atm get back to you ASAP" or something similar on the same day!

Busy people are organised and set aside specific times each day to do stuff - on the other hand you get people who just like telling (or signalling to) everyone how busy they are and spend more time making sure everyone knows they are busy, busy, busy than doing anything concrete.

Well.

As that’s not what either of us actually said… guess what? [ignore]

Well done with the attempt at provocation though. So much better than the average on here.

Oblomov17
Yes, generally, I think it's rude. To not reply to most texts. Some don't require it, most do, to at least acknowledge receipt, keep the lines of communication going.

I’ve not seen anyone say “to not reply to most texts” on this thread. For me it’s most don't require it, some do.

at least acknowledge receipt

Umm… That’ll be a Read Receipt then…

I have a life, and it comes first. (never late for anything btw)

Gosh – so many complete addicts on here. Just what the big corporations want of course!

I don't think it's rude to not reply straight away but I would 100% expect a response within the same day at some point... to ignore it for days on end is rude.